My son is in the fifth grade of elementary school, but he is obsessed with games. I really don’t know if it is. Let him play, he is happy and I have a clear ear, but it will definitely have all the disadvantages and no benefits for the child. I won't let him play, but I'm afraid he will fight me.
Nowadays, children feel that all the time is a rebellious period!
Take last night for example. My son asked me to watch short videos on my phone. I said it was almost time to go to bed and I couldn’t watch it for long, so I’ll do it someday.
But he insisted on reading it, saying 20 minutes is fine.
I said, I can only watch it for 20 minutes! He nodded and agreed, and ran aside happily.
As a result, he didn't watch the video and started the computer and played the game directly.
I didn't let him play games at the beginning, and he promised to do it well. But he probably likes playing games so much that he can't help it.
can't play two games. When I saw the time, it had been more than 20 minutes. I reminded him to turn off his phone. But he refused to close the points and said he would be gone.
I said, "The games are all fake, if you don't score, you'll lose it. Why are you so serious? Turn it off quickly!"
But he seemed to have not heard it, and he even played even harder, just like a 1500-meter sprint.
When I saw him like this, my temper suddenly came up: "I told you not to play, you insist on playing, everyone said you can't control your own, I'll give you 20 minutes, you can always play for 40 minutes, and I will never play with your phone again!"
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I rushed over directly, the child was startled, and quickly turned off his phone and hid aside.
This matter does not end here. He kept in mind the score he hadn't won just now and kept doing damage: he made his sister cry and beat her up. Anyway, he wanted to make a lot of noise, just not let me sleep.
I almost got crazy by him, so I said to him seriously: "You made me rest when you arguish!"
He also angrily: "You made me play games just now, and I will get the score immediately!"
As the saying goes, "A bowl of rice can't fill your stomach, and you can hold people to death in one breath." I feel that my stomach will be broken soon.
I reasoned with him: "You said you watched the video yourself, but you played the game! You said you could only play the game on weekends!"
"But my score is gone, and I am not feeling well now!"
"Not playing in the future, and if you don't play, you will never lose points!"
"You said you won't play, then you won't play, why!"
"I'm your mother! I have the obligation to pull you back from the wrong path!"
"I want to play anyway!"
"I'm going to play anyway!"
We quarreled for a while before we went out of the lights to go to bed.
Sometimes I feel that I understand the children, but sometimes I feel that I don’t. What was he thinking in his mind?
When we didn’t have mobile phones or games, didn’t we all live well? Why do children nowadays have to play with this thing?
I lay down and closed my eyes, but I couldn't sleep. I kept thinking about this question in my mind.
I think I have less company for my children. He didn't play much before.
In the past, he loved to listen to me reading stories, and he pestered me to read for an hour or two a day. He also likes to go out to play with his friends, and he spends several hours playing, and he doesn't ask me for a cell phone when he gets home.
But since I have the third brother, I have no choice but to take care of him. I didn't read the story anymore and I didn't have time to take him out for fun.
Later, there was a fourth brother again, and his needs and attention were even more ignored.
Yesterday I listened to a family education book, saying that a child’s brain must be transformed into mental activities when labor and exercise are sufficient.
In other words, the child is put in the house every day, he has no contact with nature, he has no time to exercise, and he cannot automatically convert it into mental activities, so his learning efficiency is low.
And he has no self-control to do things like boring like learning, he can only do mental activities that are as laborious and exciting as watching TV and playing games.
So I decided to take the child out for a walk from tonight after dinner. On the one hand, it reduces his obsession with games, and on the other hand, it makes him feel good for his health while exercising outside. I have been studying for a day and I have to go out and breathe fresh air and relax.
When he is tired of playing, he will go home and take a shower and sleep, so that he will have no extra time and energy to play with his mobile phone.
Do you think it's okay for me to do this?
