What would you do if your child was bullied by his classmates at school?
I believe many people don’t want such a thing to happen, but if you really encounter it, you will feel distressed.
So how to solve it? Doctor Lu from Nanjing gave the answer with his actions.
Some people say that he shouldn’t be so impulsive, and let the children solve their own problems.
At the beginning, I felt that he had not controlled his emotions well. After watching the video of Dr. Lu's son being beaten, I understood the reason for his impulse, and whoever has the heart to worry about his child.
01. Contradiction
Dr. Lu's son lives in the same community and also goes to school in the same kindergarten.
Usually, both parties play well, and the children will often visit each other. One day, Wenwen brought an inflatable stick toy to go to kindergarten, and Xiao Lu also wanted to play, so the two children snatched it.
During the process, Wenwen stinged Xiao Lu with a toy. In the video, Xiao Lu was seen covering his head with his hands. After he returned home, there was a obvious scar on the right back of his head.
The teacher notified the parents of both parties. Logically speaking, if the children have conflicts, the parents can resolve them with a guide. As long as Wenwen’s parents take their children to apologize to Xiao Lu, they will probably be fine.
Result Wenwen's parents went on a trip. Wenwen's mother asked her grandfather to take the child to apologize, but her grandfather did not go. Dr. Lu did not feel the other party's sincerity, so she took the child to Wenwen's house.
He was calm at the beginning and said to Wenwen: "In the future, you can't hit people, do you know? If you hit people, others will hurt, and you can't hit people with something."
This sentence, should have been educated by Wenwen's parents, but the parents are absent, and Dr. Lu can only help educate .
Wenwen did not react at all while listening. His attitude also angered Dr. Lu. He waited for a while, and suddenly lost control of his emotions and slapped him. Afterwards, he quickly calmed down and said apologetically: "I'm sorry, I can't help it."
Wenwen's grandfather was unwilling, so he picked up a bench and smashed it over. Dr. Lu subconsciously avoided it, and then pushed his grandfather. He fell to the ground and found a fracture during the filming.
It is worth noting that Dr. Lu's wife has been in a calm state. When she saw Wenwen's grandfather fall to the ground, she quickly helped him up. When she saw that her grandfather was going to the kitchen to get things, she also persuaded her as soon as possible.
Then, she helped Wenwen's grandfather sit down and comforted her grandfather's emotions. Before sending Wenwen to the hospital, she took the initiative to help him put on his coat.
was her calmness, which prevented the further expansion of the incident. After Dr. Lu was arrested, she ran to Wenwen's house and knelt down to apologize, begging them to let Dr. Lu go.
is really sad. The original party that took the lead became the passive party because of impulse.
This has also become a topic of discussion among many people.
Someone said: "If Wenwen's parents can apologize as soon as possible, there wouldn't be any subsequent events. The child was bullied at school, and the other parents had no attitude. If it were me, I would be angry."
Someone also said: "It's a pity for Dr. Lu to . He shouldn't be impulsive. Just let the teacher solve the problem. You are an adult, and it's wrong to hit the child."
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l7: "Wenwen's mother was dishonest. She posted incomplete videos online, which led to one-sided support from public opinion. In fact, watching the complete video, if grandpa didn't hit someone with the bench first, Dr. Lu would not push him."
Yes, the reversal of the incident is also related to information. At the beginning, we all thought Dr. Lu was too reckless. After understanding the whole story, we sympathized with him. If he could control himself and not push his grandpa, things might be completely different.
02. The problem
wants to talk about this because it is closely related to many families.
My child was very introverted when he was a child. He didn't like to tell us anything. When he went to kindergarten, he often saw small scars on his face and arms. When he asked him what was going on, he refused to say it.
ran to communicate with the teacher. The teacher said that it is normal for children to play and make trouble. Sometimes when they fall or touch something, they may hurt their skin. As long as there is no problem, don’t care too much.
After listening to the teacher's words, I didn't think much about it and thought that this is what kindergarten is like.
Until one day at noon, I received a call from the teacher saying that I would go to the hospital quickly and the child was injured.
I was shocked and ran to the orthopedic hospital to see that the child was sitting on the bench and cried all the time. He had taken a film and had a fractured right arm. The teacher explained that the children were taking a nap. She went out for a while, but the two children pushed my child off the bed while playing.
Tell me, when I saw the child being injured, I really had the urge to beat the other child.
But the teacher apologized on the side, which made me slowly recover from peace. The teacher said that the other party's parents would bring their children to apologize. I waited for several days, but I didn't wait for the other party to apologize.
The child's health improved, and I took him to school to fill in the information. I happened to see the other parent picking up the child. The other parent just smiled and asked about the child's situation. He learned that his arms were much better, and he smiled and said, "Don't be naughty in the future, do you know?"
My temper suddenly came up and said to him bluntly: ", parent, you must be clear that your child took the initiative to push it. Isn't it your parents' responsibility to educate the child to abide by the rules?" The teacher next to
quickly persuaded him. The other parent slipped away while the others were unprepared. I was still in a state of peace. Although the kindergarten took the initiative to take responsibility, similar things will inevitably happen in the future. I decisively transferred the child to another environment, and there was no scar on the child's body.
Through my own experience, I have summarized a few experiences.
1. When children go to school, they must understand the school and their classmates.
Some parents think that choosing a school for their children is as long as they are close to home. The idea of
is too simple. If you don’t understand the school spirit and your classmates, you will never know what your children will face.
We cannot say that the children are not good, but some parents really can’t understand . In their opinion, as long as their children do not suffer any losses, they can do anything.
Even if his child bullies others, he will use the child as an excuse, let alone take responsibility. He will feel that as long as what happens in school has nothing to do with him.
Do you think, can children educated by parents know how to live in peace?
2. If you have injuries on your child, don’t ignore it.
I made this mistake. When I saw the scars on the child, I thought it was my child who was naughty.
Sometimes, children don’t know how to express the incident and are worried about being criticized by their parents, so they will be vague.
plus the child is relatively simple. As long as the scar does not hurt, you won’t care. It’s still a play to make parents ignore the problem.
You really can't relax. You must understand the reason so that you can avoid similar things.
3. When encountering things, don’t just criticize your children, but have a comprehensive understanding of the situation .
Some parents are more upright and always teach their children to be obedient.
When encountering problems, no matter how innocent your child is criticized first, you may not be able to understand the truth. The child is afraid of you and dare not tell you if you are injured.
suggests that parents should communicate with their children more patiently and understand what happened in school. Your listening can also give their children a sense of security.
is written at the end:
As a parent, I really don’t want my children to be hurt.
After learning the truth, he really felt sorry for Dr. Lu. He could have had a better solution. It was not easy to train a doctor. If this matter was not handled properly, his career might be ruined.
Moreover, Wenwen’s parents did not apologize in time, which also caused trouble for themselves.
Many people question Wenwen’s mother. They obviously didn’t apologize, so why did they say they apologize? What was the intention of hiding the video of Dr. Lu hitting the child, but hiding the video of grandpa moving a chair and smashing someone?
According to insiders, Wenwen's family has already hung up the house and wants to move and change the environment, but who dares to buy such a house? The conflict between
2 children has affected both families. It is really slap in the face and there is no winner.
We sympathize with Dr. Lu because most of our children are kind and dare not come back to say anything even if they are bullied. Parents who beat children can travel with confidence, just like they are fine.
When encountering similar things, it is fake to say that you are not angry, but it is recommended that you never be impulsive. You must learn to find the responsible person. Since it is something that happened in school, the school and teachers cannot escape responsibility. It is better for you to urge them to solve the problem than to directly find the other party.
