As a parent, are you still immersed in taking care of your children and being happy? I am moved, hurt myself, and I complain about why my child is not grateful for my efforts.
To be honest, the good in the eyes of adults may not be good for children. The winning or losing that adults see may not be winning or losing in the eyes of children. The more you care, the more your children often don’t care. Therefore, if you keep getting angry, the worse your children will perform.
So, when parents cannot make immediate judgments about their children's problems and behaviors. Instead, you should be smarter. Otherwise, your excessive reaction will lead to negative emotions in your child.
1. She will be afraid to face the future
2. He will not want to face his own mistakes
3. He will find it difficult to accept himself, and then he will develop deep self-blame and inferiority complex
. If you really don’t know how to educate and guide your child, then increase your child’s experience and let your child feel a rich life by himself.
For example, let the child choose to be willful once, put down the book and look at the starry sky for an hour. Maybe you will say, how can that work? In the learning stage, every day and every knowledge point are very important. If you miss a place, your child may not be able to keep up.
This is true, but a child’s starry sky may become the most unforgettable memory in his life. It may also be that a child’s starry sky can change his learning awareness and no longer passively absorb knowledge, but actively learn knowledge.
First of all, give your child a chance to experience it once, I can do it, and I can do it
How children gain self-confidence, in addition to the daily efforts of their parents, the children's own experience is more important. For example, if a child occasionally wins the first place, or if a child occasionally defeats his opponent, these are all a trial and experience for a child. For example, in small things in life, children succeed in making meals and washing bowls. For children, these are self-confidence is built again and again.
Secondly, slow down and stimulate creativity
Modern parents are all very fast, so they also need children to be very fast, but in fact, slow rhythm can stimulate people's imagination and creativity. Only by slowing down and thinking hard can you understand some truths, make good plans for your life, and add points to the future.
In fact, slowing down the child is more conducive to cultivating his attention, such as letting the child play quietly for a while and playing with things he is interested in and likes, without disturbing or helping the whole process. This is a kind of cultivation of the child's concentration ability.
In addition, helps children build a sense of belonging and value.
This is very important, which is related to the child’s future understanding of himself and the direction of his life.
However, building a sense of belonging and establishing a core of value is not an urgent matter. You must take it slowly. On the one hand, let the child try more, and on the other hand, let the child realize that I can be able to experience it repeatedly. This process must be very tormenting, just as it is written in an essay: Why did God ask me to lead a snail for a walk.
or above is for reference and learning only. Please do it under the guidance of professionals. On the road of parenting, we are all novices. How to better take care of children? You can follow me and discuss with me what happens on the road of parenting.
