Before giving birth, I had fantasized about countless possibilities, but I never thought about it: since I became a mother, I have definitely become a "baby controller". Everything in life is circling around the child, and it is too difficult to leave some free space!
What’s even more difficult is that children love to stick to their mothers, and even if they fall asleep, they must be with them. If you want to quietly get up while he is asleep, you may only think about it.
Mom @飞花花妙妙 said: The baby is over 9 months old. Every time he sleeps, he clearly sees that he is sleeping well, and he wants to get up and go to the bathroom with ease. But before I could reach the toilet door, the crying came... Is this a curse on me? Otherwise, how could I be so alert?
The same is true when I was a child. As long as I lie beside me, he can fall asleep quickly, but I usually wake up in less than 20 minutes if I leave. After waking up, I had to take a photo and go to bed again, but I still woke up quickly after leaving. After repeating this, he can only have a complete sleep if he is with him throughout the whole process.
It is said that children should be in an unconscious state during sleep, but they actually have "telepathy" to their mothers. My mother slept soundly when she left, and she woke up immediately. What magic does this have?
Why does the baby wake up as soon as he leaves
Jewish proverb says: "God cannot be everywhere, so he created the mother."
Mother exists like God in the mind of children, and its importance cannot be replaced by anyone. Therefore, children need mothers to accompany and protect themselves at all times in order to sleep peacefully. Why can the child sense his mother's departure when he falls asleep? This is mostly related to three hidden factors:
- The baby smells the "smell" and knows that the mother's body is within
htmlThe organ development of each sense organ has not been perfect yet, and the newborn baby can't see the mother clearly. However, its olfactory organ is quite sensitive and can identify mothers by "smell". Especially breastfeeding babies are more sensitive to the mother's taste.
For the baby, the smell of mother is a safe and dependent, and the familiar olfactory sensory experience makes him feel more at ease. But while he was half asleep and half awake, he could not find his mother's scent, and his brain would release signals, causing him to give birth to anxiety, and he would be restless, and then cry to attract his mother to come to his side.
- Baby has insufficient sense of security
Baby dependence on mothers is natural, but if the baby gets enough sense of security, then this absolute dependence will gradually fade. The baby subconsciously no longer worry about the mother disappearing , so the number of times she wakes up from sleep will decrease.
htmlBaby after 13 months often feel restless and often wake up from sleep because of the absence of mother. This is a high probability that it is a sign of lack of security. The baby cannot be at peace inside and cannot enter a state of sleeping . As long as the mother walks away, he will find out immediately.
In addition, mothers often leave after , but wake up but do not respond in time, and the baby will become sensitive because of this. I once had a nap from Guan Ma's family. I expected that he would not wake up, so I went downstairs to get a courier, but the child woke up and cried and couldn't find me. Although I tried my best to comfort him afterwards, it inevitably left a shadow in his heart.
- Environmental changes create a sense of gap
But once the mother leaves, the sense of peace brought by the mother ends abruptly. Although the baby is asleep, he can clearly feel this gap. Realizing that it was because my mother left, she would eventually wake up from her sleep.
Sometimes the environmental conditions of will also make the baby feel uncomfortable or anxious . For example, putting the baby in your arms down, covering the baby with a quilt, suddenly turning on and off the light, making accidental sounds, etc., these may wake the baby from sleep.
How to cultivate the habit of sleeping alone in your baby? Only 4 steps to help you "get out"
The book "Happy Family" mentioned: "Sleeping by yourself is an important step to let your children learn to be independent."
In the long run, it is a matter of time before the baby sleeps alone. If the baby's sleep habits are cultivated well, the mother can "get out" as soon as possible. After all, you can't sleep with me all the time. There are so many things waiting. Besides, who doesn't want to have some free space? So how to achieve it?
- The first step is to establish a fixed bedtime program for the baby
There is no fixed version of the bedtime program, as long as you think it is feasible and suitable for your own baby. For example: Take a shower before going to bed every day, interact with the baby for half an hour, then eat milk, tell stories, and let the baby's comforting objects sleep with him...
- Step 2, timely grasp the baby's sleep signal
So every day, we should pay attention to the baby's sleep signals. Such as yawning, rubbing eyes, dull eyes, sleepy expression, etc., these are all manifestations of the baby's sleepiness.
- The third step is to create a comfortable sleeping environment for children
Create a comfortable sleeping environment for the baby, including many factors, such as changing into a comfortable and skin-friendly cotton pajamas for the baby, dimming the light, controlling the temperature at about 25 degrees, and humidity of 50%-60%. Keep quiet indoors, and play some gentle and soothing music.
A good sleeping environment will relax your baby and create a warm sense of happiness. As a result, he is more likely to sleep and not be awakened if he makes any movement.
- Step 4: Wait until the child enters deep sleep before leaving
When the baby is in light sleep, it is easier to wake up. This is also the fundamental reason why many babies "wake up on the ground". Under normal circumstances, the baby will have deep sleep about 15-20 minutes after falling asleep.
After the mother coaxes the baby to bed, don’t rush to leave first. Wait for about 10 to 20 minutes before leaving before leaving. This will greatly reduce the chance of "turning over".
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In the mind of the child, the mother was indeed a magic spell imposed by , which can bring him a continuous stream of energy . Only children who are nourished by their mothers with their love can ride the wind and waves without fear of wind and rain on the road of their future life.
As a mother, please don’t let down his little trust and attachment that is wholehearted when your baby needs it. Because, for every child: Mom is here, and the whole world is here!
