A few days ago, the topic #The boy who lost his left leg showed his prosthetic limb calmly in kindergarten# became a hot search, which made me both distressed and moved.
The little boy lost his left leg because of an accident.
He was still in kindergarten and was not afraid of being ridiculed, nor did he hide in the corner and dare not communicate with others. Instead, he showed his prosthetics to his friends generously.
When the child asked him what was going on, he also said frankly that he was touched by a big car.
The children around him did not dislike or stay away from him, but looked at his prosthetic limb with curiosity on his face. We could even feel the praise from the children.
His frank, open-minded mentality, strong and brave appearance make people cry.
Mother said that she wanted the child to show his true side, but she was afraid that he would be hurt inside.
Netizens commented:
My son must think it is super cool
He is the coolest baby in kindergarten
What an amazing thing it is to face life bravely
The little boy's tough heart and confidence have made many adults feel inferior. This confidence, optimism and tenacity can also make his life smoother in the future.
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Why do I have birthmarks on my face
No other children?
I once saw such a story, which is a mother's trouble and concern about her daughter's natural birthmark.
She said:
When the daughter was born, there was a birthmark on her left cheek, as big as a thumbnail. There is an old saying in our hometown: Remember your face if you are poor and remember your waist if you are rich. Since the day the child was born, I have always felt guilty, guilty that I had not given the child a perfect face.
hugged her out. After enthusiastic relatives and friends praised her beautiful big eyes, they would sigh and say: It would be great if the child did not have this birthmark on his face.
When a child was young, the child didn't understand other people's comments. Now he is in the middle class of kindergarten and knows that he loves beauty. Every time other children ask about birthmarks, she asks me when she comes back: "Mom, why do I have a birthmark on my face? Don't other children?"
Every time she asks me, my heart is as if it is cut. I wanted to treat her countless times, but I heard many friends say that the birthmark cannot be eradicated. The process of repeated treatment is equivalent to reminding the child again and again that "birthmark is a disease." Now I really don’t know how to not hurt the child, but also make her ignore other people’s comments.
This mother's worries are exactly the same as those of the mother above.
What may be different is that boys can face their own shortcomings directly, while girls cannot handle their own differences from others.
Every mother hopes that her child’s life will be smooth, but we all know that the probability is very low. No one can predict what will happen in life.
But whether it is for the future of the child or some characteristics that are different from others in the child, as parents, The best love we can give to our children is to help them be optimistic and confident, make their psychology stronger, and be a warrior who is brave enough to face themselves and life.
Everyone says that children who love to laugh will not have bad luck, so optimistic and confident can make children smile more.
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"One eye can do well
I have never felt inferior before"
There is such a girl on some point.
Under a topic with a number of views of nearly 1800w: "What kind of experience is blindness alone?", an answer received likes from nearly 50,000 netizens.
In this answer, we see a girl who has been blind since childhood but has always been optimistic and confident.
She said:
"I have never felt inferior. I can do a good job with one eye and participate in various cultural and entertainment activities like my classmates."
This girl is Chen Xiaoting. In the photos she posted, we can see a very sunny and smiling girl.
But what is a little different is that in most photos, her right eye is covered with bangs.
When she was a child, she could see her right eye. It was not until the second grade of elementary school that her grandmother suddenly found that her right eye had a little more reflection. After trying it, she realized that she really couldn't see it.
went to the hospital for examination and found that the tumor cells had spread to the entire eyeball. If it was not removed, the tumor cells may spread to the entire brain. She must perform eyeball removal surgery.
mentioned the feeling after the operation, and she said:
"It's not dark, nor is it empty, just like I've never had my right eye."
Xiaoting has no sense of inferiority in the face of being different from others.
After returning to school, she did not deliberately hide it. On the contrary, she made a mistake once.
"My prosthetic eye fell out. I thought it was falling into the school, so my grandmother told the principal about this matter. Then the principal mobilized all the teachers and students of the school to help me find prosthetic eye, but I found it at home. But I was really touched."
Because of her optimistic attitude and strong self-confidence, she won the respect of her classmates in the school.
"When I was a child, some naughty boys in the senior grade would call me 'one-eyed dragon', 'one-eyed woman', and some people even gave me posters of ' 'Ya Shen '. (Eagle Shen is a character in the King of Fighters game, and his right eye was also covered by bangs) But I didn't care, I think this is their performance of paying attention to me.
1 At that time, I was often the first place in our class. Sometimes I could get full marks in the English exam. Over time, everyone began to respect me."
One eye can also do a good job, and she was not a problem with speeches, choruses, and singing competitions.
Although life is indeed inconvenient sometimes, such as not being able to participate in sports activities and being a little hard during internship interviews, she has not complained at all.
After graduating from university, she went to the countryside to work as a teaching teacher.
When the students asked her naively:
"Teacher, why do you have to cover your eyes with your hair?"
She also told the children the truth very frankly, and encouraged the students:
"I can get into key high schools and key universities with one eye. You students with two eyes will definitely be more powerful. Promise the teacher, you must study hard."
She posted her experience to show everyone:
How you treat yourself, others will treat you.
How you treat your defects, others will treat your defects.
Optimistic and confident people are the most beautiful.
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Optimistic and confident children
Parents cultivate
In these two stories at the beginning of the article, we can probably also see the mother's attitude towards the matter of "children are different from others".
Although the little boy's mother was worried, judging from the child's performance, the mother also accepted this fact calmly and did not take excessive care of the child.
The girl's mother also had difficulty speaking when facing the child's questions, and she always wanted to have surgery to help the child get rid of it.
In fact, what this mother should do most is to help her child accept herself first (you can discuss treatment with the child).
In many cases, what hurts children is not necessarily the judgment of others, but rather the sensitivity, inferiority complex, and excessive care that parents show when facing their children’s uniqueness.
In other words, whether those "flaws" will eventually hurt the child's heart depends largely on the parents' attitude towards the child.
There is a little girl who is very beautiful with fair skin. The only difference is that her hair is also white, because the little girl suffers from albinism .
But during the growth of her daughter, her mother never took care of her too much. Instead, she should do whatever she should do: she goes to the park, the supermarket, and let her eat and dress by herself...
This mother knows that children cannot be completely away from the crowd. When certain "features" cannot be eliminated in a short period of time, the best way is to strengthen the child's heart and make the child optimistic and cheerful.
There was a child who was young and said to the young lady, staring at the young lady and asked: Why is my sister’s hair white?
The little girl did not feel any discomfort, but instead answered with a brilliant look:
My hair is white, your hair is black, and my mother's hair is burgundy. Everyone may have different colors of hair!
Mom also smiled gently from the side.
This kind of graceful and calmness is the attitude that parents and family should have.
Under such an attitude and environment, children will gradually become confident and optimistic. Only when children do not care about those strange visions and slanderous evaluations can they face themselves and their lives bravely.
at the end:
In "There are these 6 signs on children, which means that you have raised your child very well! 》In this article, we once mentioned "children's self-acceptance level" .
The higher the child’s self-acceptance, the more optimistic and confident he is, knows how to appreciate and accept himself, and the higher the sense of value, and will be full of strength at all times.
does not inferior to others, does not underestimate themselves because they are not as good as others in certain places, and does not deny themselves because they are evaluated by others.
And such children cannot be separated from the hard work of their parents.
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