Last night, I read a book with Hao and told the story of the hunchbacked grandma and the tiger. When he turned to the page of who planted more beans, Hao naturally counted. The tiger planted seven square scarves with so many beans, and grandma planted ten square scarves with so many beans, and grandma won.
We told this story about half a year ago. At that time, no matter what the result he counted, just because the beans grown in tigers were longer, he insisted that there were more beans grown in tigers, and the tiger won.
Look, in the past six months, we have told stories, played with building blocks, and counted our fingers every day, but we didn’t do any special math exercises, and he actually had an epiphany without a teacher.
The same miracle happened in another book. What is the ten counting number? He didn't know what it was before. No matter what, we are not on the same channel. Last night, I don’t need to say anything, he summarized three tens and was thirty. Five hundred means five hundred, three tens plus three tens are sixty.
I naturally know that with Hao’s current level, there is nothing to be proud of. Children around him can already calculate more complex double-digit addition and subtraction. But I still feel surprised because it also verifies a point of view that children, especially children, cannot be anxious.
Every child has his own growth rhythm, but when it comes to his own children, many mothers are not calm. This baby speaks early, that baby walks early, and some other babies know how many words. Always demanding one's own children based on other people's children as the standard, and anxiety comes naturally in comparison. Moreover, this anxiety will permeate the child.
Isn’t this the case that the math exercise book that was popular a while ago, so-called “Isn’t it true that I love mathematics? Our family also has similar exercise books like
, but the result is that when I took it out for Hao to show it, he didn't quite understand. When I hid it for a while and wanted to take it out for my child to show it, he had already mastered it completely, and the contents of the exercise book were too simple.
Therefore, the exercise book can only be used as a test of children's learning achievements. If you want to rely on it to improve your computing ability, the effect is really up to date, let alone exercise your thinking ability . I even have some concerns that parents or institutions are eager to achieve success and force their children to remember certain solutions, which will hurt their children's enthusiasm for learning? After all, our purpose is not to cultivate a test-based robot.
Many children were extinguished by various calculations early on before they could experience the beauty of mathematics. It was really not worth the loss.
Life is a long-term run. If a person grows up and is proud of his childhood speaking earlier than others and literacy earlier than others, it can only mean that he really has no strengths in other aspects.
In addition to some cases, how many children have you seen when they go to junior high school and are still worried about small things like counting words?
Even if you are worried, what you are worried must be a matter of study habits and interests.
But, to ask the bottom of the question, who ruined the child's interests and did not cultivate the habit of good children?
In fact, when we are sending our children to interest classes and then sitting next to us for granted, many problems have already begun to emerge.
Children are the mirror of parents. If you don’t work hard, why should you ask your children to be motivated?
We need to provide a large number of books for them to choose from, accompany them to another colorful world to absorb nutrients; provide enough toys to accompany them to learn to think while playing; provide opportunities to embrace nature, accompany them to strengthen their bodies while running; provide opportunities to contact strangers, and accompany them to learn to cooperate and win-win in social interaction.
is this word, how many people can do it?
Someone said, I'm very busy and don't have time.
Little do you know that the essence of accompanying is not the length of time, but the quality.
When you are working hard, your child can see your seriousness in people and things. Similarly, when you are in a king's way of eating chicken, your child also learns that online games and TV are easier to entertain than books.
Studies have shown that determines a child's achievements often not how many children can read at home, but whether parents have the habit of reading and studying .
Sometimes, it is very simple to educate a child. What kind of person do you want him to become? You just need to be that person yourself.
As for the rest, don't worry, the flowers will bloom naturally.
, leave the others to the child!
