There is a boy in my son’s study class who is very strict with his father, while her sister is in a free-range state. I have also asked why this dad did this? The father said that boys will have to bear more family responsibilities in the future, so they must have stricter requirements. The daughter is more spoiled today, and when she gets married tomorrow, she will be more spoiled to her, and she will be happier in the future. The concept of
sounds really reasonable at first glance, but after careful consideration, I still feel that the problem is quite big.
Little Raspberry is the nickname I gave her. When we were young, we were neighbors, and when we went to school, we were in the same class, and in the same junior high school, so the relationship was quite good. She was the only girl in the family since she was a child. She was domineering by her parents and was willful and self-centered. I always say that he has low EQ and strong personality. As expected, she suffered from setbacks after entering society. Now I have started a family and started a business, but she is divorced and lives with her parents. She is a big shopkeeper at home, and outside she is willful and suspicious, obviously she looks like a proud little princess.
This is the consequence of the poor management of daughters. After all, when you enter society, there are people outside of others. Who would love a girl with all kinds of problems like parents? Especially in modern society, women are no longer just holding up half of the sky. They have higher and higher requirements for family inheritance and social influence, and more and more things to bear. If you make her too relaxed, she will be able to face more bottlenecks in life in the future.
For example, the issue of having children, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the balance between work and life, the contradiction between freedom and reality, etc., these are easy to say, but very difficult to face. For example, the transformation of life roles requires women's patience and emotional intelligence.
So, smart parents should not think that they will feel much easier after giving birth to a daughter. Instead, we should be more active and refuse to protect her from growing up, but should use the same or more ruthlessness on her. Only after letting your daughter know that life cannot rely on anyone but only on her own principles can the child live harder and harder in the future and live the way he wants.
However, the "ruthless" mentioned here is not about beating a child. Instead, we should "cheap" in the following aspects.
1. Education
As a well-educated child, they will gain more opportunities and appreciation in society in the future. And a person who is not well-educated will be kept away from him. Therefore, teach children to talk about desserts, respect others, and understand basic social norms.
2. Good personality
All say that children who love to laugh are lucky. This is true. A girl with a strong and optimistic personality will indeed gain more beauty. On the contrary, if our girls are too fragile and only like to listen to praise and cannot accept criticism, then there will be many obstacles in the future, and they will lose opportunities again and again, and it will be difficult to grasp their own lives.
3. Independent
Don’t think that girls don’t need independence. On the contrary, they need to establish a good spirit of independence. Parents should consciously stimulate their inner potential and let them face and solve problems independently, rather than hide in their parents' arms when they have something to do.
or above three aspects, the more ruthless the parents are to their girls, the happier our children will be in the future.
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