01. Don’t do meaningless comparisons
People’s worries often come from comparisons.
What should I do if she is more beautiful than me? What should I do if her husband is richer than mine? What should I do if his career is more successful than mine?
The comparison between people is endless. It can be said that 80% of people’s worries come from comparison.
So, from now on, stop your comparison! Stop your vanity! Because that is meaningless and will only add to your worries.
When you buy BMW , the people around you buy Ferrari . You feel very upset. When you buy a Ferrari and find that the people around you buy Rolls-Royce , you still feel unhappy. When you finally bought Rolls-Royce, you found that they changed to Lamborghini ...
Actually, you already have a lot, but you always feel unhappy. That's because you've been comparing, and comparing has no end.
Although you are already very outstanding, there are many outstanding people in this world. If you keep living in comparison, you will be in pain and anger and may even do bad things.
02. Praise more people who are better than you
Some people say that jealousy can prompt a person to work hard, so it is positive.
I think it's wrong. Because you are jealous of a person, only when he becomes inferior to you will feel comfortable in your heart, so I think jealousy is negative, hurting others and hurting yourself.
Of course, it is definitely correct to learn from excellent people. But you have to do it, when facing someone better than you, don’t be jealous or angry.
Because envy and jealousy are often between the front lines.
You can use praise instead of jealousy.
First of all, you must recognize that person's excellence and then praise his advantages.
For example:
"You are so beautiful, I also need to work hard to exercise, learn matching skills, and be as beautiful as you!"
"You have such excellent academic performance, it must have taken a lot of effort. Is it? I also have to study hard like you and achieve good results. "
"You have such good performance. When others are browsing Douyin and playing King of Glory, you are contacting customers. It's really hard. I also have to learn from you so that you can become as excellent as you!"
So, when you meet someone better than you, don't be jealous. If you spend all your time with jealousy and angry praise and learn from him, maybe you have become as outstanding as him now.
03. Always be grateful
Everyone should always be grateful. Always be grateful and will make you cherish your current life more.
Do you know how many people in the world are experiencing wars now?
Do you know how many people in the world are unable to eat enough every day?
Do you know how many people in the world are suffering from diseases now?
So, do you still feel unhappy?
You should be grateful to the motherland and let you live in such a safe and peaceful environment.
You should be grateful to your parents, they have spent all their efforts to raise you to adulthood.
You should be grateful to the teachers, they taught the skills and cultivated you into talents.
You should be grateful to your friends who have helped you. When you are in trouble, they pulled you and allowed you to turn over.
You should be grateful to those who have hurt you, they make you stronger.
Always be grateful, you will know how hard-won life is now, which will make you cherish every day more, and can also eliminate your negative energy and increase your positive energy.
04. You are unique
believe you are unique! No doubt, you are truly unique.
others are more beautiful than you? More capable than you? Are your family's conditions better than you?
So what?
doesn’t need to pay attention to it, no matter how outstanding he is, he can’t become you!
You also have your own characteristics, such as being very kind, working seriously, willing to share, and still a pistachio!
Everyone has their own advantages, so don't underestimate yourself. Sometimes you feel that you are ordinary and in everyone's eyes, you are a little transparent. But don’t forget that in the eyes of your parents, you are the most precious baby!
The bright and beautiful she you see actually has a lot of worries. She may be restricted by her parents and cannot be herself happily, but she envies the carefree you.
So, be more confident! Free yourself, release that unique you!
Everyone's life cannot be smooth sailing, there are both hardships and joys. The key is how you face it.
If your heart is full of negative energy such as jealousy and annoyance, then what you see is something that makes you dislike. If your heart is full of positive energy such as confidence and gratitude, then you will find how beautiful everything around you is. Even if you drink a cup of boiled water, you can taste the sweet taste.
So, try to be a positive person and bring happiness to everyone around you! Have you learned these 4 tips for improving happiness,
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