The biggest reason why children are in a nest is that there is something wrong with family education.
main problems I will list below:
First, excessive spoiling
Under the current conditions of abundant social resources, children's diet is very good, so today's children's general IQ and physical fitness are far higher than those of the previous generations. Nowadays, children can roughly distinguish each family during their infancy. Children can test their parents or grandparents’ reactions to them by crying. If a child can get food or toys from a certain family member every time he cries, then the child knows that the family is the best bully, and he can force the family member to submit by crying or even beating and scolding. This is why the child is at home, because he is too familiar with all his family! On the contrary, if his unreasonable crying cannot be responded to, or even received a response to being beaten and scolded, the child will never be too presumptuous at home! Excessive spoiling is the most harmful to children!
Give me an example. My little niece is my brother-in-law’s first child. She spoiled her from grandparents to parents. As a result, the child was like a little bully at home, drinking at will at will at will. If he was not satisfied, he would cry and make a fuss (the kind that cried for 3 hours), and even punched and fucked her parents and grandparents! However, in kindergarten, he was bullied as a whole, and he was a typical bully of the weak and afraid of the strong. My brother-in-law couldn't ask me to help discipline me. I used a relatively reasonable way to educate me, and finally improved a little.
Second, too little parental companionship
Parental companionship is irreplaceable! In modern society, work is under great pressure. Many parents don’t have time to accompany their children and will throw it to their grandparents, grandparents and other things! This also leads to children playing with themselves and feeling lonely, which also leads to children lack communication skills and lacks self-confidence. This is also one of the reasons why children are weak outside. In fact, no matter how busy parents are, they should communicate with their children every day, take their children out more, and walk around with their relatives, friends and neighbors to cultivate their confidence!
3. Speech strike
Many children lack self-confidence, that is, family members or people who are in daily contact with children always use words to stimulate and belittle children, such as appearance, personality, ability, etc. This will lead to extreme inferiority of the child, and naturally, they will become a little sheep at the slaughter of others when they are outside!
or above is also the reason why the child is in a nest but is extremely weak outside. I hope my experience can be helpful to all parents and friends!
