How to make children win at the starting line? Most parents, no matter where they are, their income, or their ability, have always been troubled by this problem. They often struggle, think, and work hard and struggle for it. What they get from it is pain, bitterness, comfort and happiness.
The following nine things are crucial for your child to really win at the starting line:
Article 1: Parents’ knowledge reserve level. In today's society, the basic indicator for measuring the level of knowledge is diplomas. If parents are college students, at least their parents have no shortage of knowledge, and they have the ability to learn by themselves, and can give children certain tutoring and guidance.
Article 2: Scientific prenatal education. In fact, China's virtual age makes sense, because from the time the mother is four months pregnant to the time before the child is born, the child has perception of the outside world, so a certain degree of prenatal education can allow the child to have a vague perception of things before he is born.
Article 3: Enlightenment Education. has been exposed to traditional cultures such as Tang poetry, Song lyrics, Yuanqu since childhood, and has been influenced by piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, which has a strong subconscious effect on children's quality education. Guide them to perceive the charm of culture plays a key role in enlightenment education.
Article 4: Education for children's sound personality. According to psychological standards, there are not many people with sound personality. Some adults may not even have sound personality even after living a lifetime. Therefore, as parents, we still need to learn a sound personality, abandon some bad habits in the past, and grow up with our children. I will share with you some experiences about improving your personality if you have the opportunity in the future.
Article 5: Quality education. The focus of quality education is to cultivate children's good habits, cultivate children's sentiments, improve children's learning ability, and guide children to find the beauty of life (interests and hobbies). This will explore the child's talents and even cultivate the ability to make a living when the child grows up. As for the child's future life plan, parents can just give certain suggestions and guidance.
Article 6: Let children become sensible children, not obedient children. Establish the principle of doing things and not doing things for children from an early age , cultivates children's judgment of the principle of doing things correctly, rather than blindly following the other party's identity because of blood ties or the other party's identity. The key point is that parents first need to regulate their behavior, "children are the shadow of their parents." Most children's behavior comes from their parents, which also includes bad behavior.
"Sensible" children are rational principles of doing things, not lies in the other person's identity, but in the matter itself. For example, the father smokes in a non-smoking area in a public place. The father is wrong. The child should be guided to point out the wrong thing about the father, rather than being silent because of his father's identity. But "obedient" children are just the opposite. Obedient is an emotional principle of doing things. Children have an independent and independent personality, and their judgment on the right and wrong of things all come from being "sensible" rather than "obedient".
Therefore, parents use "obedient" as the standard for judging their children, which will cause children to have a strong dependence on their families and parents, and will mature later than ordinary children. This will cause children's independence and creativity to be relatively weak.
Article 7: Scientific knowledge education. For learning knowledge, it is ideal to have three lines parallel.
Article 1: Family. Knowledge education in the family is indispensable, but in terms of depth, you should grasp the logic of interest and try to eliminate cramming education. More about teaching scientific learning methods , such as good study habits, doing a good job in preview, review, self-study, and class concentration, solving problems in time, etc., integrate them as soon as possible after class, and cultivate interest subjects in knowledge learning.
Article 2: School. This is left to the school. Good schools have always been the goal that everyone pursues, so I will not explain it here.
Article 3: One-to-one tutoring. For families with conditions, you can consider high-quality tutoring teachers and conduct one-to-one tutoring learning based on children's subject shortcomings. This is mainly supplementary learning.
Article 8: Accompany your children and become friends with them. What kind of relationship does parents and their children help their children grow up? In fact, there are differences in the relationship between children and parents at different stages. When children are weak in independence, parents should assume the responsibility of protectors or guardians and should protect them as much as possible and accompany them by their children. If every parent assumes their own responsibilities, left-behind children do not exist.
Children's personality gradually becomes stronger, and parents should also slowly leave room for their children's personality development. The identity should retreat from the protector and guardian to the position of good friends, and this identity will change as the child grows up. For children's studies, career, love, marriage and having children, they should give them pertinent advice, greatest support, and sufficient respect like friends.
Article 9: Travel growth experience. "It is better to travel thousands of miles than reading thousands of books". If you have the opportunity to let your children go out more, increase their experiences everywhere, and understand the customs, customs, history and culture of various places. Families who have the conditions can choose to travel abroad, especially to travel to developed countries. Perceive the appearance of modern developed civilization through travel and learn the excellent parts of Western culture to make children look at the world more rationally and scientifically. This is another weight for children to win at the starting line.
Then what is the core of the starting line? In fact, the core of the starting line is family style and tutoring. The teacher who is a family style and tutor is his parents.
What schools can do for children’s education is just to instill knowledge. Most of the real education comes from families, and tutoring is actually the most core part of education. Only when parents have a certain level of thinking, thinking, pattern, behavioral norms, morality, etc. can children truly win at the starting line.
As the saying goes, "Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you." You cannot do anything to yourself, so why do you demand that your children be able to do it. Only by treating children's education rationally and scientifically can we have good results in family education, and ultimately we can have a better family style and appearance. #No. 1 Weekly#
