What are the reasons why children lose their temper?
If you want to better deal with your child’s emotions, you must figure out under what circumstances the child is more likely to lose his temper. That is to say, what are the reasons for the child’s temper? What exactly is the reason why my child loses his temper?
First, the child’s needs have not been met. We must be familiar with this conversation. Mom, I want ice cream and fries. No, it's junk food. This is harmful to your health. Mom, today I took me to the amusement park to play. We haven’t been there for a long time, and I really want to go. Mom has a lot to do today, so I don’t have time to take you there, let’s go someday. Mom, I want to buy a new toy. No, we just bought it last weekend. Familiar with this scene. This is also one of the reasons why most children lose their temper. The demand was not met. Without the toys he wanted, without the food he wanted to eat, and could not go out to play. In the eyes of children, these needs are normal and I don’t understand why they are rejected. So this feeling of loss is enough to make them lose their temper.
Second, ignored and disrespected. A parent told me that if you call at home and don’t play with your phone, your child will come to grab it in more than five minutes. Once he thought the kids were playing with him. The child was really angry. After snatching the phone, he threw it on the ground and started crying. The parent was very angry at the time and criticized the child harshly. As a result, the child felt more aggrieved and cried louder. In this scene, a smart person can tell that the child is jealous at first glance. No matter what, my mother likes mobile phones more and doesn’t like me. The child feels that he is neglected, so he makes all his anger on his mother’s mobile phone. Being ignored and not being understood is another reason for a child to lose his temper.
Third, difficulty of failure. The child’s mentality is simple, but also fragile and cannot withstand any blow. For example, the child works hard to create a riddle, but it has no effect after working for a long time. Or I worked hard to do a math problem, but I did it for a long time and thought for a long time, but I still couldn't figure it out. At this time, when the child feels that he is not as capable as he imagines, he will be depressed and lose his temper.
Do your child have the above situation? If so, don't worry. Only when we know why children lose their temper can we prescribe the right medicine and deal with the measures to help children correctly output emotions.
