"Silence can produce wisdom, and wisdom can produce wisdom." If we can often reflect on ourselves, let go of our persistence, change our cognition, and slowly calm our mindset, the wisdom itself in family education will naturally appear, and children will be more cooperative. On the 25th day of copying books and checking in, we continue to read today about the third chapter of "How parents regulate their emotions" and the fourth chapter of "How to reason and communicate" in "How to reason and communicate with your children" in "How to reason and communicate with your children" in "How to reason and reason." Learn how parents can reduce their anger in family education, how to reason and communicate with their children. 
How do parents regulate their emotions?
Sunrise does not necessarily mean light, it is the real dawn only when we are awake
"The child divides a line into five equal parts. After so long, it is not right. I'm anxious, you idiot, this sentence blurts out."
In family education, many parents know that getting angry with their children is not good, but they can't control it. This shows that many of us parents do not have enough understanding and practice, and have not really woken up during the family education process.
A mother shared, "If the child cannot do my best as I ask, then I am angry either. I remember when the child was in the third grade, he actually touched and touched him after getting up in the morning after washing his face. I don't know what to do? I was worried that he would be late to school, so I was anxious, so I always shouted at him to hurry up. Sometimes the child stood in a daze and was at a loss. At that time, I became even more anxious and became more angry. My husband was not happy to see me angry. He didn't speak, and I felt that he was not involved in taking care of the child. If I said I was wrong, I felt that he was particularly wronged, so family conflicts would inevitably erupt. Think about how terrible what he did at that time, and how much negative impact his emotions had on the children and the entire family!"
Later, after studying, this mother let go of her obsession with some trivial matters in life, calmed herself down when encountering problems, and increased the parent-child relationship, so that the child would cooperate more easily.
American writer Thoreau once said, "Sunrise does not necessarily mean light, and the sun is nothing more than an morning star . Only when we are awake is the real dawn." In family education, our emotional control can only be truly let go of the flow and come naturally. How to reason with
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Our future is always directly entangled with the past. Remember today's choice, that is your starting point tomorrow
Children still have to take care of it, and the method varies from person to person. My common practice is to tell stories, not comment or express any opinions after telling them. After a while, the child will say to me, Dad, I did something wrong.
"Once a child accidentally broke a cup, and I didn't say anything at that time. Before going to bed, I told him the story of "Looking for Partners for Little Cups": On a little girl's birthday, her mother gave her four cute little cups as gifts. Once, the little girl accidentally broke one of the cups. When she went to bed at night, these three cups began to look for their friends, searched and searched, and finally found their friends in the small garbage bag next to the trash can. These three cups began to cry The little girl woke up by the crying sound. She ran over and saw that it was her little cup crying. The little girl was very sad and said sorry to the three little cups. I was really sorry. I will cherish and protect you more in the future. The three cups forgave the little girl, and they became best friends. From then on, the little girl was very careful and tried not to break things. Everything has life. We must cherish them. "Understanding the truth through the story, it is easier for children to accept and understand.
Writer Tao Lixia wrote: "Our future is always directly entangled with the past, so remember today's choice, that is your starting point tomorrow." As parents, how should we educate our children today? It is also crucial for our future.
The secret of communication
Love can save people, whether it is the person who gives love or the person who gets love
In family education, parents and children are the persons who give love and warmth to each other. When your child makes you dissatisfied, silently chant "It's normal, nothing", and your heart will be calm; when you tutor your child and see that you can't even do simple questions, silently chant "Accept the current situation of your child's learning", and you will calm down and will not scold your child for being stupid; when you are under great pressure from work, silently chant "Only do what you can do, let the rest go naturally", and the pressure will be reduced.
When facing the child's request, we silently recite "appropriately satisfy, appropriately refuse", "Say it first and then say no", "The rules are flexible to implement", and we are rational.
When I am angry and anxious, I think it is not the child that makes me angry and anxious, but my persistence and incomprehension of the child that makes me angry.
When you want to scold your child severely, think about "negative stimulation is not a good way."
children did not satisfy us, and silently recited "The cultivation of habits requires a process."
wonderfully recognizes the mantra
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