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How "evil" can a person be?
When I saw the video of this incident, Guo Ma was completely confused. As a mother, my first thought was to bring in my own children. If one day someone treated my children like this, my child would be so scared and painful...
When I think about it, my heart would be so distressed, not to mention that this child had experienced it personally.
1 A toy of a two-year-old child hit his uncle and was slapped to the ground
I wonder if you have seen this video. A 2-year-old child is playing with his toys in a home full of toys. While playing, I accidentally threw a toy on my uncle who was sitting on the sofa.
Unexpectedly, the uncle who was hit by a toy immediately stood up and knocked the child away directly. The poor child, after being slapped on the head, fell heavily to the ground. Through the screen, I felt the pain of the child.
The child then got up and cried loudly. The ignorant, painful and frightened child even reached out to his uncle for a hug. Fortunately, the mother heard the child's crying and immediately came over and comforted the child.
Facing the crying child, my uncle even argued that the child fell down by himself.
Fortunately, the young child's home is monitored, and his uncle's evil deeds are also made public. The mother was also very sober and called the police in time, which allowed the perpetrator to receive the punishment he deserved.
2 Parents should not overestimate other people’s kindness and sense of responsibility
Do you feel assured to let others help you take care of your children?
Will you let your heart let your child play with others alone?
If Guo Ma says she is worried, many people may say: The child needs to be free, and you cannot keep staring at the child all the time.
is true, but stocking is not laissez-faire, because we really cannot overestimate others' kindness and sense of responsibility.
about other people’s kindness
For this uncle’s behavior, it is actually the “good” and “evil” of human nature.
Does it really hurt to hit a toy on my uncle? Maybe it hurts a little, but it is impossible to hurt so much that it is unbearable. After all, he still has the strength to beat the child.
Why did he beat the child?
Perhaps, it is because he is "evil" in nature. He will revenge. If this child makes him feel a little painful, then he must retaliate;
Perhaps, it is because he is in a bad mood. happened to be touching his brow, so the child suffered;
Perhaps, it is because he bullies the weak and is afraid of the strong. . Seeing a child over 2 years old has no power to fight back, he is very ruthless.
There are countless possibilities for him to attack his children, but to the bottom of it, we cannot overestimate a person's kindness.
says something around you that makes Guo Ma feel creepy.
Once, I went to a relative's house to play. The relatives were chatting downstairs, the children were playing upstairs, and only one adult was there. The pistachios were playing upstairs for a while, and I was not relieved, so I wanted to go upstairs to take a look.
Then a relative said, " Look at you, but you look at the child too tightly, and the child is no longer free. "
I smiled and didn't say anything, so I went upstairs to take a look. I didn't know if I didn't look at it. I was shocked when I saw it. There were several older children in who were taking turns to pinch the face of a 2-year-old child. Those older children are basically over 8 years old.
A little girl said, "Let's pinch his other parts!"
Then several children continued to pinch the child under her instigation. The child was in pain and started crying. The little girl immediately got up and went to close the door . When she closed the door, she was shocked to see me. The only adult in the room of is the little girl's mother. After seeing me, her mother said awkwardly: "The children are playing."
"The children are playing" and then, Guo's mother picked up the pistachio playing with toys in the corner of the wall and went downstairs.
Sometimes, don’t say that the child is still young and ignorant, because the child’s ignorance is likely to be condoned by his parents or even taught.
and we want to give children freedom, but this does not mean that freedom is leaving the parents' sight. Whether it is a relative, a friend, or a child, when the child is still young and does not have the ability to protect himself and express himself, he will give the child full rights to accompany him. We cannot overestimate the kindness of human nature, nor underestimate the evil of human nature.
About others' sense of responsibility
Do you leave your child to others and then do your own thing?
has two neighbors. The relationship was very good. Whenever it rained, Grandma Li would put her 4-year-old second child at her neighbor Grandma Cai's house, and then go to school to pick up the baby who is in elementary school.
has always been peaceful, but once Grandma Li came back and saw that Grandma Cai was not at home, so she went downstairs to look for it. Then I saw Grandma Cai coaxing her crying granddaughter, so I asked where her child was going. Grandma Cai suddenly slapped her thigh: "Oh, the weather is clear, the two children are going to come down to play. They were still playing hide-and-seek just now, I forgot that your child is also playing here. "
Then, Grandma Li hurried to find the child. Finally, the property management monitoring was adjusted and found that the child was following an older child to play at someone's house. It was already past 9 o'clock in the evening.
For this reason, Grandma Li and Grandma Cai had a very unhappy relationship, and the relationship between the two families of was also unfamiliar.
Fortunately, nothing happened. If something happens, who will be responsible?
Sometimes we have something to do, and then we will ask someone to help take care of the child.
For people with children , their main center is all about their own children. It’s okay if there are no sudden events. If there are sudden events, parents will definitely give priority to their own children.
For people without children , they don’t know about the “biota” of children, they don’t know how to take care of a child, and they even treat the child as a mature individual. This type of person takes care of his children and has a high risk factor.
In general, don't try to make an outsider have the same sense of responsibility towards your children as you.
Message
Take care of your own children. Although it is inevitable that people with "vicious uncles" like this are hard to avoid, they cannot be taken care of at all times. However, in daily life when raising children, the family should try not to keep their children alone and be alone in an environment without family for a long time. Human nature is something we cannot afford.
