With the progress of the times, many people say that some children are too squeamish and spoiled.
① No matter what they do, they deny them
Relatives and friends ask how the children are doing in their studies? Parents always say, it’s not that good, it’s okay (appropriate modesty is good, excessive modesty will make people feel inferior). A child got second place in an exam, and his parents said, "Why second place, not first place?" Although this child is already good enough, he still compares himself with other people's children and says: "Your child is great and can also play the piano..."
② Hit him
When being bullied, he will only say: "Why do others Just bully you instead of bullying others, it must be your problem", "You are not stupid enough", "How come you can't do anything, what do you know!"...
A parent once scolded himself. On the overpass, the parents of a child said, "If you are able, go get the lunch box." At that time, the child went to get the lunch box without hesitation.
Many people now choose to receive box lunches. In 2019, the number of people receiving box lunches was as high as 703,000.
③ Blindly brainwashing (pua)
No matter what he does and whether he does it well, he will always say "you are a little cutie" and "sparkling". Let you go and get the lunch box. If you don't accept the lunch box, I will use the provoking method to make you go and get the lunch box. After that, he will say, "Oh, I thought you went to get the lunch box."
④ Strong control
Emphasis on "raising you is not easy", speaking appropriately will encourage children to study hard, but saying it blindly will only be counterproductive.
morally kidnaps , saying "It's not easy for me to raise you, you have to listen to me in everything", and also hurts the child under the banner of "I'm all for your own good", because the child studies well, in order to prevent the child from declining in learning , privately find a scumbag who plays well with her children wx and won’t let her play with her children anymore
There are regulations on what to learn when you grow up, hairstyle, toilet time, etc. (for example, your hair is combed back, But you need two points, otherwise you will be scolded)
Don’t let your children go down the road of no return
⑤ Language harm
I tell you to listen to the teacher at school and listen to yourself at home. After everything is done, he still says, "Don't you have any brains?" (For example, usually (controlling) will let you part your hair into two parts, but this time I want you to comb it back, but I didn't tell you, I will say " How do you comb your hair? If I don’t tell you once, I won’t know how to comb it.") "Can you grow some brains?" The problem is that even if you grow your brains, it won't be what she wants. She has to listen to you in everything, and she will say "you If you are not filial, you don’t care about me and I support you.”
⑥Privileging boys over girls
In the same thing, the boy accidentally dropped the parent’s cell phone, but the parent didn’t say anything. But the girl was told "she doesn't have eyes" and then beaten up. If you make a mistake and don't ask for the facts, it's (all) the girl's fault. (Girls are smaller, so the younger ones let the older ones; girls are older, so the older ones let the younger ones)
⑦I’m not wrong
It is said that parents are their children’s first teachers
Parents have done something wrong, and children want to give to their parents Tell her to correct it.But the parent said, "Are you my mother? You still want to control me! What's wrong with me? I kowtow and apologize to you?!" So in order to get the parent to correct it, the child uses her tone, behavior, and actions to treat her. The parent Got it, and said, "You know you're wrong and you still learn from me? Are you looking for trouble!!! I tell you, don't look for trouble!" So, under the influence of parents (you can't say I'm wrong, I'll tell you if you're wrong) No talking back), the child gradually became like the parent
⑧No dignity at all
Once, (the child is introverted and shy) a parent shouted loudly on the street, "Let you buy some soy milk, you will be older." "No, no one can hear you. If you keep whispering like this, don't talk." It attracted many people. In this case, the girl felt so embarrassed that she wanted to find a way to get in (the boss's wife said, "This kid is pretty cool". "Elegance") attracted many people's attention on the street (I embarrassed the girl on the street many times). Later, the girl stopped talking. Later, the girl became inferior, sensitive, introverted, and had a small The cheerful certificate
❄️❄️❄️(Such a thing should be taken as a warning)
Don’t just scold
