Recently I was watching Liang Xiaosheng's work "The Graduate". In the chapter "Growth Variations", Xiao Tao's father is a very serious husband, but at the same time he is a father who loves his children very much. From the moment Xiao Tao was born, he asked for his wife. After a

I recently read Liang Xiaosheng 's work "The Graduate". In the chapter "Growth Variations", Xiao Tao's father is a very serious husband, but at the same time he is a father who loves his children very much. From the moment Xiao Tao was born He asked his wife to get busy, and finally he tasted Xiaotao's stink himself under his wife's instigation.

This scene reminded me of an experience shared by group friend Xiao An, a new mother, in the group. She said that she had to smell her daughter’s stool every day. There were actually many mothers in the group who had done this.

So when I saw Xiaotao's father and his father talking about , it was not bitter, but a little salty.

The love of parents for their children is hidden in such a subtle life scene.

"Growth Variations" tells the story of a child's growth experience from birth to junior high school. It is very interesting and down-to-earth. The more I watch it, the more I fall in love with Xiao Tao. The more I watch it, the more I feel that every parent is correcting and improving themselves in the process of constant transformation.

can’t help but make me have these two questions, what is love? Perhaps the essence of love is to teach by oneself, parents are the originals and children are copies; and what is the essence of education? I think it's about awakening the child deeply.

01The parents are the originals, the children are the copies

Xiao Tao's father was responsible for the anti-counterfeiting work and saved the factory from losses of more than 100,000 yuan. Therefore, he received a bonus of 10,000 yuan, and Xiaotao spent 5,000 yuan to buy a computer. But later, Xiao Tao's father was misunderstood by employee Hao and sent someone to beat him. Xiao Tao beat him back angrily.

sent someone to the hospital, and his father discussed selling the computer. Xiaotao's mother advised him that as long as he didn't tell others, no one would know.

Xiaotao's father said that his son also knows the truth and I should be a role model for him, otherwise what qualifications do we have to educate him.

When Xiao Tao heard what his father said, he desperately asked his neighbor Pingping to help him return the computer. Finally, Hao learned that he was not on the laid-off list. It was a diversion list, and it was the benefit that Xiao Tao's father fought for.

And Xiaotao never told Pingping about her father and his father. Because he once promised Pingping's father.

Just as Xiaotao's father said, since you have promised others, you must be a trustworthy person.

I once heard this saying, "The heart of a child is a strange land. Sow the seeds of thoughts and you will reap the rewards of behavior; sow the seeds of behavior and you will reap the rewards of habits; sow the seeds of habits and you will reap the rewards of habits." Obtain the harvest of moral character; sow the seeds of moral character, and you will reap the harvest of destiny.

Indeed, every inconspicuous little thing in life hides the great truth of life. Every word and deed of parents is engraved in the hearts of children. It affects the behavior and habits of children throughout their lives.

02The essence of education is to awaken

Xiao Tao's father heard the teacher say that Xiao Tao's hearing was very good. When the whole class was reading Chinese, Xiao Tao could actually hear the buzzing of mosquitoes. Maybe he will become a conductor in the future.

Xiao Tao's father was so obsessed that he sent Xiao Tao to study at the home of a retired art teacher. However, he never thought that Xiao Tao didn't like music at all. Instead, he had a special liking for games. You can play games for three days and three nights without going home, and you will be beaten when you go home.

But the words of this retired teacher Tao made Xiaotao’s father awaken. “Art can almost only start with interest. The parents’ wishes are understandable, but Children's interests should also be respected, and only the unity of the two can work.

Later, Xiao Tao liked comics, and his father fulfilled his request and sent him to learn to draw. However, he found that he was the worst in the class, and Xiao Tao wanted to give up.

My father said meaningfully, always maintain a little self-awareness. It is not good to have no self-confidence at all, but it is not good to have no self-awareness at all.

Xiao Tao asked his father why he still wanted me to be a conductor. His father admitted his mistake for the first time. Hearing his father's words, Xiao Tao was particularly moved. It turns out that parents can make mistakes too, so he made it into a skit. I thought I won the first prize.

From his father's persistence to his father's encouragement and finally his father's recognition, it shows that his father's education of Xiaotao is undergoing a series of essential changes. The father begins to know how to respect his children instead of forcing them to do what he thinks is right. The father also began to find himself turning his back on his children and began to reflect.

Xiao Tao saw the changes in his father, and Xiao Tao's little mind was also growing.

Just as the German philosopher Jaspers once said, what is education? Education is one tree shaking another tree, one cloud pushing another cloud, and one soul awakening another soul.

As a first-time mother a few years ago, I felt a little confused when reading this sentence. Later, when my child went to kindergarten, I realized that educating children does not actually require so much logic. Be yourself, and your child will learn to be himself.

Instead of listening to too many other people's opinions, parents should spend more time understanding their children deeply, communicate more with them, understand their children's interests and specialties, and use their interests to make up for their specialties.

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This book "The Graduate" is divided into four chapters: Growth Variations, Students, Wan's University, and Graduates. In each chapter, you can see some figures from behind, either your own children or your past self.

Everyone and every child will go through such a process when growing up. In this world, there is only one path that cannot be chosen, and that is the path of giving up. There is only one path that cannot be resisted, and that is the path of growth.

Growth is painful, but it is beautiful.

Growth is happy, but it is eternal.

hopes that every growing parent can personally participate in every growth of their children and witness their unique light.