Accompany your child to grow up and record every moment of her growth. Years from now, this will be the best gift for her as an adult. In the recent hit movie "Life Events", the male protagonist told a little girl that her grandmother had turned into a star in the sky. This answe

accompanies the child to grow up and records every moment of growth. Many years later, this will be the best gift for her as an adult.

In the recently popular movie "Life Events", the male protagonist told a little girl that her grandmother had turned into a star in the sky.

's answer touched my heart because I was asked the same question by my daughter last month.

01. It’s time to ask “why”.

My child has recently fallen in love with picture books. She has also reached the age where she can ask a hundred thousand whys.

answered her "why", I chose a flexible approach.

I can respond to questions easily and freely, sometimes humorously, sometimes carelessly.

also encountered the "why" that really gave me a headache.

For example, this time I responded to her "why" very seriously and honestly.

She likes blue, so she brought this book to me several times.

02. Introduce death to your child seriously and without hesitation

At first, I read it according to the text, but when I turned to page 14, her curiosity was completely aroused by the picture, and she asked me a lot of "why".

wa: Why is this old man sleeping here while the people next to him are standing? What are they doing?

Mom: Because this old grandfather died, these people are seeing him off.

wa: Why did grandpa die? What are you going to do when you die?

Mom: Because grandpa has finished his work in the current world and has to wait in line again in heaven. That is another world, and there are still new things to do there.

wa: But why are these people all the same with their eyes closed?

Mom: Although they are very reluctant to leave their grandfather, they still close their eyes and send blessings to him. Think about it, on birthdays, do we also close our eyes and make a wish?

wa: Yes.

kid: Why does this old man have to sleep in a flower?

Mom: This is how other people use flowers to express their memory of their grandfather. Because grandpa is leaving this world and going to another world.

kid: Mom, what is another world?

mother: Our world is where we live and everything we can see. But there is another world, which we cannot see.

03, review

Every night, when the children are asleep, I will sit quietly for a while and reflect on what made me feel today.

I reviewed the scene of serious communication today.

I am very fortunate that this time, I chose to face the questions seriously and have a frank dialogue.

Don’t think that if your child is less than three years old, she is still too young to understand. Many times, it’s really just us parents who think she doesn’t understand.

A child is a blank slate. At this age, she has no concept of death. At this time she asked me, my guidance is actually the embodiment of my death philosophy .

Today's guidance is equivalent to me implanting a concept into her inner subconscious - death is not the end of life, but the beginning of another journey.

As she grows up, she will accept many similar things calmly.

Maybe you will ask: Will there be another hidden danger in such a reply? For example - the baby does not pay attention to death and does not cherish his own life?

The answer is: No! is the best way to eliminate the fear of death.

A person does not cherish his own life unless he feels that life is meaningless and the pain is greater than happiness. That is a problem caused by other reasons, not caused by our guidance.

The author feels: Children are a blank sheet of paper, and many programs are input by us as parents. The process of growing up with your child is also a process of self-growth.