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In the past, when summer vacation came, some parents would send their children to the homes of relatives with whom they had a good relationship because they were busy with work. Several children will get together and have a pleasant holiday under the care of adults.
However, with the development of the times, people's ideas have also changed. Nowadays, whether in cities or rural areas, it seems that few people leave their children with relatives for the summer vacation. Even if they do, it can easily cause unnecessary family conflicts.
I received a private message from a mother in the background two days ago.
The mother complained in the letter that her brother-in-law sent the child to her home for the summer vacation again this year. Although the other party bought a lot of things in large and small packages when sending the child, the mother thought that she had to take care of three children during the holiday. The child's scalp is numb..
Bao's mother admitted that her brother-in-law's behavior made her very unhappy. Although they were relatively close relatives, she had no obligation to take care of his children. For this reason, Bao's mother even had a big quarrel with her husband, which eventually made the two families very unhappy. unhappy.
There are also discussions on related issues on the Internet. In the message area of the topic, many parents said that they would not send their children to relatives’ homes for the summer vacation:
“Even if I spend money to send my children to an outside kindergarten , I would not. Children will be placed at relatives' homes for the summer vacation. Taking care of children is a very labor-intensive and responsible task. Once a child has a problem, conflicts will inevitably arise between relatives. "
" No, others have other people's problems. In life, I think it is a very selfish act to put children in other people's homes for summer vacation. In short, I will not do it. "
" In the past, many parents would put a group of children in one family for intensive care, but now times have changed. Not to mention that it will cause trouble to others, many parents cannot accept just having fun at other people's homes. "
Why don't children nowadays go to relatives' houses for summer vacation? The 3 reasons are very realistic, and parents should be aware of them
1. The educational environment is involved, and going to relatives’ homes for summer vacation will waste study time.
In the past, parents had no academic requirements or expectations for their children’s summer vacation. As long as there were people to help take care of their children, Just free yourself up to work.
However, with the increase in competitiveness, today's education environment is very involution. Many parents expect their children to be able to fill in the gaps during the two months of summer vacation and achieve overtaking in learning, so they leave their children with relatives. , which is tantamount to a state of being free-range.
When other people’s children are studying intensively, while their own children are playing wildly all day without supervision, parents will become more and more anxious.
2. Young people have a weak sense of family affection, and there is not much contact between brothers and sisters.
Nowadays, many young parents are only children. Even if they have brothers and sisters, because there is not much contact between relatives, the sense of family affection is also relatively weak.
Especially after having children, everyone is busy with their own small families, and there is not much contact between brothers and sisters, let alone relatives who are more distant.
The weak sense of family affection also makes today's young parents refuse to send their children to other people's homes for summer vacation. This approach is very abrupt in their eyes.
3. I know that raising children is tiring and hard work, and I don’t want to cause trouble to relatives.
A mother once posted on the Internet to complain about the experience of relatives’ children coming to spend the summer vacation.
The mother said that she was sincerely good to her child. Not only was she responsible for the round-trip air tickets, but she also bought a lot of clothes and daily necessities for her child. However, her child's attitude towards her was disappointing, and her mother-in-law took all this for granted. , what my husband’s family did made me very angry.
Mom’s complaints also reflect the attitude of contemporary young people towards the children of relatives coming to spend the summer vacation. Raising children now is not as good as in the past. Adults not only have to take care of the children’s eating, drinking and eating, but also take into account the children’s thoughts and feelings. If they encounter a positive situation, For children in the rebellious period, their efforts are likely to be thankless.
Because of this, young people know that raising children is tiring and tiring, so they do not want to put their children in the homes of relatives to cause trouble to others, nor do they want to be in debt for this.
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