Original Rong Rong parenting experience 2022-07-03 11:28 When a child cries, many parents have been struggling with whether to hold it or not. I'm afraid of spoiling the child if I hug him, and I feel distressed if I don't hug him. After all, the child is still young. There are d

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Original 2022-07-03 11:28

When a child cries, many parents have been struggling with the matter of whether to hug or not. I'm afraid of spoiling the child if I hug him, and I feel distressed if I don't hug him. After all, the child is still young. There are different opinions on this matter. In the end, the experts gave the correct answer.

American psychologist Freiberg once described in detail in "The Magic Years", "To learn to control parents by crying, babies must have thoughts, the ability to perceive the objective world, and understand cause and effect. Obviously, Babies before half a year old do not have this ability. "

So when you hear a child crying. First of all, we need to help the child find out the reason for crying, such as sleepiness, hunger, urination and other physiological reasons. If the child still cries after all these conditions, then hug him as soon as possible! It must be a lack of security.

❤️ Children after six months cannot be hugged as soon as they cry.

Many parents have discovered that. Babies after six months like to cry to a specific person, and they will also cry in different ways, sometimes crying loudly, sometimes screaming... because children at this age are particularly smart. Their cognitive abilities and emotions are developing rapidly. Because they now know that crying can bring mom and dad over. Get adults' attention. If the adult still hugs the child when he cries at this time, it will strengthen the child's awareness of using cries to threaten the parents. As a result, children become increasingly disobedient. That is what parents often say, "Bringing up a baby is too hard."

❤️ How should parents treat such "troublesome" children?

To be rough, I won’t hug you no matter how much you cry. I won’t hug you all the time. Is this okay? The answer: No

There is such a mother who heard from a relative that "you cannot pick up your child as soon as he cries, as it will spoil the child and make it difficult to discipline him in the future." So, even if she cries for several hours, she insists until the child stops crying, and then she can reluctantly hold her. Pick up the child. After three months, the child no longer wanted his mother at night and would cry whenever he was hugged. When he was three years old, he was not close to his mother at all and his personality became more and more withdrawn. She always talks back to her mother, which makes her very regretful.

There are probably two situations when children cry. One is physiological needs. The other is psychological needs. When the child feels. Fear of loneliness, noisy environment and other situations can cause children to cry unsafely.

0One to one year old is the period when children establish a sense of security. Good satisfaction and response are the basic requirements for establishing a sense of security for babies. Let your children know that their mother is always there and that she will visit you at a fixed time. It will not affect the child's sense of security, and it will also tell the child. Not every time you cry can be rewarded with a hug from your parents. Crying at will is useless.

❤️ Cultivate the baby's curiosity and guide the baby to explore

Parents can buy some toys for the baby that are suitable for the child's age group. Guide children to explore ways to play with new toys. Allow children to spend time and energy on toys, while also stimulating and cultivating children's ability to explore and discover.

❤️ Educate children to express their needs in other ways.

guides and educates children to express their needs with body and language instead of crying.

For example, if a child wants to eat, he can point his finger to his mouth. When the baby learns. Parents go get things again. Repeatedly. When the baby feels like eating, he will point to his mouth and tell his parents what he wants to do.

❤️ In fact, crying is just a way for children to express their needs. Parents must respect and accept their children's emotions. Under the condition of establishing enough trust and security for the children. Guide children to express their needs in the correct way. Only in this way can children's trust in their parents and their satisfaction with society be reasonably satisfied.

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