Speaking of the top ranking of parenting list, can definitely be in the top three.
Especially when the baby wakes up and cries repeatedly in the middle of the night, it takes a whole night of hard work to no avail.
In order to avoid being tortured by babies crying for a long time, new parents have devoted themselves to researching solutions. The widely popular cry immunity method is one of them.
You cry, you cry, I hug you and I lose."
"Don't hug when you cry, hug only when you don't cry." is the basic principle of cry immunity method. In layman's terms, it means letting the baby cry, and parents won't hug them if they don't coax them. , after crying for a long time, the baby will know that crying is useless (conditioned reflex) and stop relying on crying to solve everything.
But different ages have different parenting methods. The younger the child, the less likely it is to be treated like this.
Babies have no self-awareness. During this period, every response from an adult is a process of constantly establishing a sense of security for the child. If feedback is not given in time, it is likely to cause the baby's negative emotions. Moms and dads have less to worry about, but in the long run, future moms and dads will have to worry more. Long-term adherence to the crying immunization method will cause stereotypes for babies who are not yet mature physically and mentally. Parents will not They no longer care about themselves and do not love themselves. In fact, many children have suffered from "child schizophrenia" and "autism" due to this kind of emotional neglect due to the cry immunization method. Cases of mental illness.
Why do babies cry?
-6 month old babies cry.
Babies crying at this stage are mostly due to physiological reasons , such as being hungry, sleepy, etc.... Before speaking, crying is an important way for them to express dissatisfaction and seek help. In addition, there are psychological reasons. For example, babies are also prone to crying when they need to be held or comforted.
6 months to 1 year old babies
. At this stage, most babies have learned to use crying to solve problems. When parents do not respond in time, the baby will cry easily, and inappropriate responses can easily lead to irritability and non-stop crying. .
1-year-old to 3-year-old babies cry
If they have not developed good rules and habits in the previous age group, then babies of this age will use crying to get attention and meet their own needs, so it is not recommended for parents. Then use a method that meets the requirements to suppress the baby's crying. At the same time, as the baby ages, his emotions will also increase. If his language development ability is insufficient, he will cry to vent his emotions.
So after senses the baby's emotions and knows the needs, parents should help the baby solve the problem and calm the baby's emotions according to the actual situation.
Parents should keep in mind that babies are not emotionless machines. The simple and crude "cry immunity method" is not feasible (X) ~
