There was a parent whose child was very naughty. Once he stood up to the sunroof of the car and could not get down. The parent got angry and drove onto the highway. Finally, with the police's warning and persuasion, I paid the fine and took my child home.
We can summarize this parent’s method as: follow the child’s path and leave the child with nowhere to go. But it is a bit dangerous and not advisable. If it really leads to bad consequences, it will be too late to regret it.
As for this method of "taking the child's path and leaving the child with nowhere to go", I think it can be used opportunistically. I remember that when my child’s grandma passed away, I didn’t tell her because she was at a critical time for the college entrance examination. When I got home from the funeral arrangements, my child cried until she was a mess and couldn’t stop her. She also complained that I was too cruel for not seeing her grandma for the last time. I really I had no choice but to feel wrong and helpless, so I was so sad that I started crying louder and louder. Firstly, I was really heartbroken, and secondly, I felt sad for my daughter. My daughter saw that I was more sad than she was, so she slowly stopped crying and comforted me.
The matter is special, but in order to prevent my daughter from being sad again, I can only choose this method. In normal times, parents are advised to use this method appropriately when dealing with some special children, such as losing their temper in public or not doing their homework.
For example, if he is not doing his homework and is not doing his homework, you will give him twenty minutes to eat. It will always get better as time goes by. Of course, other methods can also be used, such as reversing the roles and letting the child cook and you do the homework for him. Although it is extreme, once he tries it, he will know that nothing is easy, and the homework is about efficiency, which is the same as cooking. Same. I could bear to wait for an hour to eat, but I was starving after two hours. The same goes for homework. One hour is for review, and two hours is a burden.
Moreover, you can knowingly commit the crime. For example, if you add too little water or too much cooking water, try it a few times to let your child experience the taste of eating hard rice. It is really better than nagging you for a long time, and it will make him remember it deeply.
Of course, all methods must be appropriate and cannot be used all the time, otherwise the child will not work if they touch your "routine".
