Introduction
You can always hear many parents complain about how naughty and unwilling to be obedient. They play " World War " with them at home every day. Children are disobedient, like to talk back, and like to lose their temper. They have become common topics for many parents to talk about. No matter what method they use, they are not disciplined.
But some families have children who obey their parents' discipline very much. Why do different families have completely different results? Let's take a closer look at this issue.
In many real cases, parents think that their children have many types of "disobedient". For example: if they refuse to eat well or eat a certain food, parents will feel that their children are picky about food and do not cherish food. In fact, it is because their children are allergic to the smell of a certain food, and their sense of smell and taste are much more sensitive than adults; or, they don’t walk obediently on the way home and keep crying and stopping, and parents will scold their children for not following the pace of adults. In fact, in the world in the eyes of children, they see a large group of tall people, bumping their legs and butts against them and moving forward. In these cases, children will express their fear or rejection through their own ways, but parents will not understand and do not try to communicate with them, so they have become "disobedient" in the eyes of parents.
So, why do children so disobey their parents?
① Children cannot get corresponding satisfaction in material needs and money
There is a saying: "Money is not omnipotent, but you must not have money." Although it sounds unpleasant, sometimes you have to admit that your words are rough and not rough. Although raising children does not have to be linked to money at all times, children from poor families are destined to be disobedient. It just means that if the child has material needs and can meet the children in a timely manner, it will still be helpful to the child's growth within the best of his or her ability.
Children who do not receive enough material satisfaction will be in sharp contrast with others. Over time, they will gradually become unbalanced, disobedient, and have a rebellious mentality, which makes it reasonable.
②Parents' motivation and discipline for their children's future development
For the children's future development to be smoother, parents often begin to enter a strict discipline model in their childhood in order to achieve great success. However, when the child is still young, he cannot fully understand these practices of his parents. He will only feel that his parents are too harsh and disciplined, but he will only find that his parents' practices are very visionary in the future.
Therefore, when I was still in my childhood, my parents were too disciplined and interfered, which often prevented the children from going out to play, which made them develop a rebellious mentality.
③ Parents often have conflicts in front of their children
As the first teacher of their children, parents have their own halo in their minds, and they are born with a sense of admiration for their parents. However, parents from many families often quarrel and conflicts in front of their children, allowing their children to grow up in a fearful atmosphere, thus affecting their admiration for their parents.
④ Children’s excessive dependence on “electronic products”
is now the era of information technology, and electronic products have been popularized in thousands of households. Even the older generation who knew nothing about smartphones at the time began to swipe their phones. Naturally, the impact on children is also the result of watching them obsessed with electronic products.
Many parents choose to use electronic products to calm their children for their own peace or to spoil their children too much, which encourages them to be addicted to it. When they need to be disciplined and prevented, they are no longer able to do so.
What impact will it have on children if they have been disobedient and lack of discipline?
① The unreasonable requirements for parents will become higher and higher
Children who have been disobedient for a long time do not correct these issues in a timely manner. As time goes by, the children's rebellious psychology will become more and more serious, and it has reached a point where it is difficult to communicate.
, especially, although no longer listening to parents, the requirements for parents will become higher and higher in terms of money and material things, and gradually form a mentality of comparing with others. The requirements will become more and more unreasonable, and the phenomenon of talking back will become more and more serious.
② Influencing children's future learning and development
Long-term disobedience, and from childhood to adolescence to adulthood will affect the shaping of their outlook on life. At still young age, they are not concerned about learning and do not consider the importance of learning to future development. When they grow up, their cultural level is low and they are prone to being hit by social reality. They have hundreds of disadvantages in shaping their personality and future path.
③ The disobedient child has formed a protective net in his heart, no longer allowing his parents to come in, no longer caring about the current situation of his parents. Even if their life is in a mess, even if their parents' relationship becomes stiff, they often have quarrels and conflicts, they can choose to hide in their own world, turn a blind eye to everything, and get further and further away from their parents.
④Addicted to various electronic products affects academic
lacks communication with parents, does not want to communicate too much, gradually get along with various electronic products, thus giving up studies, immersing themselves in it, and no longer have the extra energy to study seriously, receive education, and achieve a thousand years of grades, affecting one's own learning and one's own life development.
As parents, how should we solve the problem of children being disobedient?
①Develop yourself, improve your ability to make money, and give your children appropriate support
When you still have the ability to improve yourself and make money, accumulate more abilities and financial resources. This is not only a very good learning role model for children, but also provides better support to children.
Appropriate financial and material support can enhance children's self-confidence and prevent them from being inferior because of their living conditions. Moderate "rich raising" can reduce the sense of rebellion during the growth process.
② Cultivate your own vision and establish foresight
has been spurring your children since childhood. You can set up correct views with your children about planning for study, life and future life and influence their values.
Although some words may become a kind of "nagging" in the minds of children, as parents, they have the responsibility to provide correct guidance to their children, and do not use bad tone such as "incitement" and "discipline" to lower their voices and communicate like friends, and the effect will be better.
③Coordinate the relationship between the family and establish an image in the hearts of children
As parents, they should set an example. The behavioral habits of many disobedient children are mostly affected by the family atmosphere. Therefore, family members must always coordinate their relationships, and do not quarrel or quarrel loudly in front of their children. This is very unfavorable for their growth.
④ Make a good demonstration role, contact less electronic products, accompany
more time every day, make a good demonstration, reduce the time to play with your mobile phone, provide enough companionship for children, study together, chat together, and do things that the whole family coordinates together. Under the influence of subtlety, children will gradually explore new things to learn, instead of following their parents' appearance, immersing themselves in electronic products and unable to extricate themselves.
summary
Children are disobedient. In fact, there are many reasons that can be obtained through communication and patience. Don’t lose your temper or be impatient with the children, listen appropriately, communicate appropriately, and provide appropriate "whispering" education for the children, which is very helpful for their growth. Perhaps, you will see another different, more obedient child.
