When taking children to play in the community on weekdays, it has become a common phenomenon for the elderly to take care of their children. Most young people are busy with their careers. Due to various pressures, it is impossible to take care of all aspects of the family. They usually ask their relatives to take care of the children themselves. However, taking care of the children is not an easy task, and it also takes on a lot of responsibilities. Not every elderly person is willing to help with care.
Especially the retired elderly feel that they have finally found their own free time and have their own time to control. If they help their son or daughter take care of the children, taking care of the children is secondary. It is important to handle the relationship between family members, and they feel that they Thank you for your hard work, Mr. Oguan, I don’t want to be too tired. Moreover, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a relatively sensitive topic. Why bother if you can't please yourself by providing money and support?
(1) The mother-in-law’s approach was praised as sober in the world
My cousin’s mother-in-law didn’t want to come to help look after the children at first because she was afraid of having differences with her daughter-in-law over the children’s education, and she was even more afraid of getting along with too many conflicts, so she never agreed. Help with childcare. Before, my cousin had been taking care of the children at home full-time. Later, due to various changes, she had to return to the workplace. Under pressure, she could only ask her mother-in-law to help take care of the baby. Her mother-in-law did not want her grandson to be left alone to take care of her, so she had to agree, but my cousin However, my mother-in-law put forward two conditions: First, I will take care of the baby during the day, but I must sleep with you at night. You can take care of the baby by yourself on weekends as much as possible. I also want to have my own senior living circle. Second, since I am allowed to show off my baby during the day, the baby's living habits and education methods must be in accordance with my requirements.
Naturally, I have nothing to say about the first cousin. After all, the old man is older and his body is not as strong as the young man. He needs more rest. The old man also has pursuits. Besides, it is not their obligation to take care of the baby. They just don’t want the younger generation to live a poor life. I was too tired, so I agreed to come and help. Regarding the second point, my cousin was a little hesitant at first, but when I thought about it, my mother-in-law was no ordinary mother-in-law. She was a primary school teacher who had just retired. Moreover, she had decades of valuable experience in education and some parenting concepts. With the development trend of the times, she naturally has her own way of raising children. Due to the pressure of no one to take care of the children, my cousin could only happily agree to the two conditions of her mother-in-law.
(2) The mother-in-law played with stickers every day with the child. After entering elementary school, she showed super concentration and showed the temperament of an academic master, far surpassing the children of the same age.
After the mother-in-law came, although the child's daily life was taken care of quite well, the child's The study plan is not good. Other children of the same age are either enrolled in art classes or various interest classes such as Go. However, my own child has not enrolled in any classes and has been playing around at home. Why do I say "playing around"? My cousin said that my mother-in-law I take my children to play with stickers at home every day. The children play like a devil and can sit still for a long time.
My cousin wanted to enroll her child in an interest class, but her mother-in-law vetoed it outright, saying that many of those expensive interest classes paid an IQ tax and cut off anxious parents. How effective they were was just a gimmick of the training institution. "You promised me at that time that your children's education would be at my discretion." Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law's second condition became an insurmountable obstacle that stuck in my cousin's heart. My cousin had no choice but to be a Buddhist mother.
As a mother, I have no hope that my child will be bad. It would be a lie to say that I am not anxious. My cousin has talked to me many times, fearing that my child will fall behind others when he goes to elementary school and is afraid of being complained by the teacher. But she was slapped in the face by reality. After her child entered school, the teacher repeatedly praised her for her strong concentration, high efficiency in class, quick thinking, and high accuracy in homework. She showed the potential to be a top student, far surpassing other children of the same age. .
My cousin and brother-in-law were confused and went back to ask their mother-in-law for advice. The mother-in-law told them that the books he usually gives his children to play with are not ordinary sticker books. He chooses the ones that suit the children's cognitive characteristics, so that the children will be more interested in playing.My cousin and mother-in-law also explained to them the many benefits of playing with stickers:
First, playing with stickers can improve the strength and flexibility of children's fingers.
Playing stickers is a game that requires the use of fingers. Don't underestimate simply "tear and stick". Tear it off from the sticker, then find the corresponding position and apply it accurately. It not only exercises the coordination ability of the hands, eyes, and brain, but also It also exercises the strength and flexibility of the fingers. It makes full use of the coordinated movements of the index finger, thumb and middle finger during the peeling and pasting process. The more flexible the three fingers work together, this is the basis for holding the pen correctly and is also an important manifestation of front writing skills.
Pre-writing ability refers to the skills that children need to have before they officially start learning to write. The critical period for the formation of these skills is 0-5 years old.
Educator Suhomlinsky once said: "The development level of children's early intelligence is reflected on the fingertips." There are rich sensory nerves on the fingers, and every movement of the fingers is controlled by the brain. The more flexible it is, the smarter the brain is.
Secondly, playing with stickers can also effectively improve your child’s concentration.
The process of "tearing and pasting" not only exercises children's observation skills. After tearing it off with your fingers, you can find the corresponding page number. By observing the blank shape of the picture, you can accurately paste the sticker and complete a cycle repeatedly, which can extend your child's life. Time to focus.
Generally, babies aged 2-3 years old have a slightly shorter attention span, usually lasting 10 minutes, while those aged 4-6 years old can last 10-15 minutes. Sometimes we are very curious about some children who study well. We see that they don’t study much, but their test scores are among the best. Why is this? Among them, strong concentration is an important characteristic of top academics. Top academics listen to lectures very efficiently in class, and their brains follow the teacher's ideas without slacking off.
Playing with stickers is an effective way to improve concentration. There is no child who doesn’t like playing with stickers. By doing what they like, children’s concentration can be effectively improved. When playing with stickers, a closed loop ends quickly, and the stickers are successfully pasted on the corresponding position, giving the child a positive feedback. The child is more likely to gain a sense of accomplishment from it. The more he plays, the more engaged he becomes, and the more he plays, the more in control he becomes. I feel that my original concentration is only 10 minutes, but playing with stickers may last 15-25 minutes.
Third, improve children’s cognition and satisfy curiosity and desire to explore.
It is very important to choose a sticker book suitable for children. My cousin’s mother-in-law said that she chose this set of "Concentration Training Stickers" after a lot of selection. Children like to play with this set of books and it satisfies their great curiosity. After the age of 2, it is the critical period for children to awaken their self-consciousness. They are full of curiosity about everything and have a strong desire for knowledge.
This set of books includes 12 themed scenes from the ocean, zoo, mathematics, pinyin, kindergarten, forest, farm, transportation, mathematics, bilingual, space adventure, and amusement park to fully satisfy children's desire for knowledge.
"Concentration Training Stickers" has 12 volumes in total. It is suitable for early education and education for children aged 2-6 years old. It is a sticker book that can effectively improve children's concentration. You can use the summer to improve your children's concentration. The 12 volumes only cost 39 yuan, and the combined book only costs 3 yuan. Compared with early education classes and interest classes that often cost tens of thousands, it is a great deal.
