It’s so tiring to admit a baby
Recently, two of Honghong’s colleagues returned to work after their maternity leave. One is Xiao Li, a young mother of her first child, and the other is Sister Yang, a mother of her second child. Because their children were too young and their workplace was far away from home, both Xiao Li and Sister Yang chose to bring their children with them so that they could work and take care of their children at the same time.
In their spare time, everyone would play with their two children. Occasionally, when the mood strikes, experienced colleagues would give them a hug. However, as time went by, Honghong discovered an interesting phenomenon: her colleagues only teased Sister Yang's children; as for Xiao Li's family, they would only say hello to the child's mother and ignore the child.
are all colleagues, how come they are treated so obviously differently?
Hong Hong got the truth from her colleagues: The little guy from Sister Yang’s family is simply a cute, cute kid who is loved by others. He doesn’t recognize strangers at all. Regardless of whether he is young or old, he will giggle when others tease him. He will also reach out for a hug.
Xiao Li’s child is just the opposite. He is too naive and loves to cry. You have to cry just to say hello to him, let alone hug him. Besides, when the child pouts, Xiao Li looks like he's facing a formidable enemy, so we'd better not cause anyone any trouble.
In fact, Honghong saw Xiao Li’s envious eyes more than once: They were all trusted colleagues, and there were people to help hold and entertain the children. Sister Yang had more time to do her own things; while Xiao Li’s child was too No one dares to tease him. Except during work hours, Xiao Li is always tied to his child and cannot do anything.
Xiao Li himself also said: "How come are all children? Is this how my family recognizes children? "
html Babies aged 6-8 months will recognize children.
Dr. Christiane, a famous German education expert, said: "The baby's recognition The birth period occurs naturally as he grows, and it is likely that the birth period will come overnight. "
In fact, children under 0-6 months are not very good at recognizing babies. However, usually after 6 months, the baby will recognize birth more often. This is because the baby begins to enter the contact period between 6 and 12 months old, and he begins to associate certain things that impress him with himself.
Most of these things are parents or grandmothers. In short, they are mainly the people who take care of him. These people are responsible for taking care of his eating, drinking and diarrhea. When he is hungry, has diarrhea or feels uncomfortable, he will immediately take care of him. Ask for help.
Recognition of birth is a sign that the baby is beginning to establish connections with certain specific people. He will closely associate his "contacts" with himself. Once they leave or a stranger invades his safe area, the child will feel uneasy and will express resistance in his own way, the most common of which is crying. .
This is what we often call "recognizing students".
With the cognitive development of children, children after one year old enter the sensitive period of space construction. When they realize that "contacts" disappear and will come back after a certain period of time, they will provide timely help when they need it, and they gain psychological benefits. After a sufficient sense of security, the child's recognition of life will gradually disappear. What to do with
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Although it is a common phenomenon for children to recognize their children, it is also a normal phenomenon in growth and development. However, many times, the birth of a child brings great inconvenience to the work and life of the family. How should this be alleviated?
First of all, psychologically accept the baby's recognition of birth.
As parents, we must psychologically accept the phenomenon of baby's recognition of birth and realize that baby's recognition of birth is a necessary stage in his normal growth and development.
all say that no two leaves in the world are exactly the same, and the same is true for people. Everyone's growth environment is different, and their temperament and personality are also different. Even though your baby is small, he actually has his own personality. According to a survey, when he is 6 months pregnant, his baby already has his own temper. When he hears his favorite sounds and music, he will move more obviously.
This is also the reason why babies of the same age have different recognition levels and performance.
Therefore, when the baby appears to recognize the baby, the family members must not lose their temper with the baby because they feel embarrassed or other reasons. Otherwise, the baby will think that the family's anger is directed at outsiders, and it will be even more difficult for the baby to develop a good impression of strangers.
Secondly, take your baby out for more walks.
Many times, we will find that if a baby is almost brought up by the same person, in a single nurturing environment, he usually comes into contact with fewer people. Then, compared with a baby who has been raised by many people and has been exposed to the external environment, such a baby's recognition of birth will be more serious. In the same situation, it is very likely that other babies will not respond, and this baby will be frightened and cry.
In fact, Xiao Li’s baby is exactly like this. According to Xiao Li, because there was no one to help, during the entire maternity leave, except for the few days when she was hospitalized, she almost took care of the child. And because she was an inexperienced new mother, she was afraid that the child would get sick, so she rarely took her child out.
Sister Yang is just the opposite. She said that the first child should be raised according to the book, and the second child should be raised according to the pig. As someone who has been through it, the second child is really not that delicate. Whoever wants to hug whoever wants to hug is a common thing. Taking the child out for a walk is a common thing.
Therefore, if you want to improve the child's recognition of birth, the mother should not always hold the baby by herself, but also let other family members hold the baby more and play with the baby more, so that the baby can have experience in interacting with different people. When the mother brings the child into contact with other outsiders, it will not be so difficult for the child to accept it.
Take your children out for a walk more often, so that they can see the interactions between their mother and other people. It also allows them to meet more people and get to know different environments in advance, so that they will not be frightened when they come into contact with different people and different environments again. .
Again, don’t label them randomly
Some children are born timid and not so adaptable, and they will still recognize children when they are two or three years old. Some parents feel that they are losing face, and will tease their children in front of them for being cowards and being ignorant, hoping that their children will rise up and resist.
In fact, this may be counterproductive, because if a child still recognizes the child at the age of two or three, it means that he still needs help. This help may be a sense of psychological belonging or the construction of a sense of security. The parents teased him and labeled him, which not only failed to help him solve his difficulties, but also brought him negative reinforcement. The psychological burden on the child increases, but it makes the child think that he is such a person.
Therefore, not labeling, but actively leading and encouraging children to interact with their peers is the correct way to reduce the risk of misunderstanding.
So, does your baby recognize birth? How did you cope?
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