topic four: What should I do if my child lies?
Interpretation: If you cultivate yourself, your virtue will be true.
1 analyzes the reason and confirms whether it is a lie. First, examine yourself to see if you have acted unfaithfully or lied. If so, start correcting it yourself, and have the courage to review and correct it with your children.
2 focuses on education, cultivates morality, and is truth-oriented. No matter what your ambition is, being a real person is fundamental. Explain the benefits of being honest and kind, and analyze the cost of lying and distortion. Prescribe the right medicine and find out the reason for lying. Whether it is making mistakes and not taking responsibility, making false exaggerations in order to get rewards, avoiding concealment, self-protection, or claiming credit for self-showing, you need to analyze it in detail. You cannot act as a presiding judge from a high position, but put yourself in someone else's shoes, analyze with empathy, and express understanding and support. However, you must still stick to the right path, make corrections, take responsibility, and be independent. Otherwise, you will be blindly evading because of small things.
3 Punishment should be supplemented as a last resort. Non-violence, alternatives such as canceling activities, banning snacks, not buying toys, etc.
4 is suitable for: family harmony, sincere communication, parent-child interaction, timely correction, etc., carry out moral personality education, carry out positive guidance education, clarify the path and accumulate virtue, know where to stop and be content, and praise correct behavior.
5 Don’ts: Parents who are authoritarian, violent, hitting and scolding, random in rewards and punishments, lack of empathy, impatient, etc. Avoid too much negative guidance and education. You should learn to take things slow and take it easy. Avoid being impatient, hitting, scolding and punishing immediately.
