Wanwan has been at home these two days, and Qi Qi just went out. Nannan and Jinghang also went to play together. I turned down other activities and took a break for the past two days. At the same time, I also interacted with Wanwan on some topics.
There is a topic that I have been thinking about recently, that is, how can children develop good study habits, or change their previous bad study habits?
Well, the point is here, whether it is a good habit or a bad habit, this is actually a judgment.
You are telling adults that the habit of playing mahjong, smoking and drinking is not good, but the habit of reading, breathing fresh air and drinking boiled water is not good.
Of course your audience understands it, but after judging which one is better, have they changed the lifestyle that they themselves recognized as bad? Most likely it won't change. When it's time to hit, when it's time to whip, when it's time to drink.
Similarly, if you are telling your children to play less games and mobile phones, which will delay their studies, of course the children will also understand, and they can also judge it themselves. However, are they easy to change? There is a high probability that they will finish listening, nod, and continue playing. It may not end reluctantly until the adult goes crazy.
Well, you clearly know that a habit is bad, whether it is an adult or a child, why don't you change this bad habit?
Here we talk about judgment and change. Judgment is a philosophical issue and it is easy to draw conclusions. However, change is a difficult process that requires overcoming resistance.
Wanwan said, what’s the difference?
Let’s give an example.
Habits are like quality.
Why do we use quality to describe habits? The reason is that habits and quality have the same nature. The longer the time, the harder it is to change the accumulated habits. Similarly, it is equally difficult to change the state of motion of accumulated mass. Have you discovered that the habits here can actually be explained by inertia? As the old saying goes, old habits die hard. And we will talk about in junior high school that the measure of inertia is mass.
Changing habits is like changing the state of motion of an object with mass.
The greater the mass, the greater the inertia, and the harder it is to change the motion state.
For example, a person pushes a passenger car on a flat road under the scorching sun, reaches a certain speed, and catches fire.
If you get too excited at the beginning, you may give up right away. It’s crazy to push a cart on such a hot day, isn’t it? ! As a result, it is most likely to be forgotten.
If you don’t use so much force at the beginning, the car will still move slowly. You don’t need to use more force. As long as you persist for a while, you will find that the car is getting faster and faster, and finally it will push well. The speed was on fire.
I told Wanwan that the same goes for changing habits.
We can't. After judging that this habit is not good, we make a decision to change it immediately.
Let’s take another extreme example, that is to develop a habit of not eating anything, always feeling like something is missing, and then the weight becomes heavier and heavier. One day I just can’t stand it anymore, so I decide to make a bold decision and decide to eat as little as possible. Eat regular meals instead of snacks, and then your weight will really drop sharply. If you continue like this, you will definitely become what you want in two or three months. However, the reality is that after two or three months, you may be even fatter. . This is why the success rate of losing weight on your own or in an institution is less than 10%. (As I write this, let me just say that the reliable way to lose weight is to lose up to half a catty in a month. As long as you continue this process, you will finally achieve your goal.)
Finally, to summarize, if you want to change your child's learning The same applies to habits. Don't rush in, start gently. As long as you continue, your child will slowly become what you want.
Let me emphasize again, continue, continue, don't start gently, and then end gently after a day or two, then it will be of no use.
