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According to a survey, there are currently 46% of children in China who show varying degrees of vulnerability in their families and schools!
These children are what we usually call "glass heart" . They are very sensitive inside and are easily hurt. If they say a little heavier, they will cry. They can't stand the criticism or beat or scold them!
After the teacher criticized him, he could be depressed all day.
The opposite of the glass-hearted children is another group of shameless children. If these children do something wrong, they will smile and enter the left ear and exit . These children seem to have a headache for the teacher, but it is indeed very beneficial to the child's growth.
We will find that many elementary school students are very naughty, but when they become adults and leave society, they are more likely to achieve certain achievements in society.
These students may not have a high level of education, but they have come out of society early. In society, they are engaged in sales or business industries because they are shameless. In addition, they are more likely to achieve success in business.
Children who have been "glass-hearted" and "stricken" since childhood are prone to these gaps when they grow up
The first: ability to resist frustration
Society is the best touchstone !
In school teachers will consider the child's mood, so they do not say it very loudly when criticizing the child. Moreover, some of the ill words between the students in school actually do not cause much harm to the child.
But when you go out of society, you are really a touchstone. For example, if you go to business, others don’t want to see you, but they don’t want to see you, and the boss even understands it and says you don’t have to come again!
The setbacks in society are more and more serious than those in school. . If you were already very vitiligo in school when you were a child and could not bear the criticism of the teacher, then you would be more likely to be hurt in society.
These children are very likely to be unable to stand the criticism of their boss after working for a few months. As a result, if they change jobs and jobs, they are difficult to get a chance to get a promotion and a raise, and they may even be unable to withstand all kinds of grievances in the workplace. They would rather go home and live with their parents.
The second: Achievements of work
No matter what kind of work it is, there will be some grievances. This world is not so beautiful.
A child with a glass heart cannot stand the grievance, and naturally it is difficult for him to achieve success in his work.
For example, if you cooperate with Party A and Party A asks questions about your design plan, you think Party A knows nothing, why do you come to pick me? Then how can you accept Party A's opinions and how can you make a setting plan that satisfies Party A?
So after a child with a glass heart leaves society, his achievements will be relatively low.
and shameless children can give up their sternness and accept criticism from others. In order to achieve their goals, they can let go of their stature and endure grievances, and it is easier to achieve such achievements at work.
So children's heart is not conducive to children's growth.
Why do children have glass hearts? The reason may be
★Parents' excessive arrogance
For children, many things were learned by when they were young. If parents are too arrogant and obey , they will lead to the child being unable to bear a little grievance, so they are prone to slim hearts.
Parents should formulate corresponding principles for their children. Those who should be satisfied can be satisfied, but those who should not be satisfied must be resolutely rejected.
★Only praise but not criticize
Nowadays, many parents advocate " Appreciation Education ", and appreciation education means only appreciation but not criticizing children. Children do things wrong but still not criticize their children. Such appreciation education will make children unable to withstand any setbacks, and once they encounter adversity, they will easily become depressed.
Parents should pay attention to Children should criticize and criticize when doing something wrong, and when doing it well, they should praise and praise , otherwise no one will always spoil your child after leaving society.
★Parents over-dominate
Many times parents will finish everything about their children, so the children become matchmaker . They do whatever parents want to do. After such a child arrives in society, he will not know what he wants to do without anyone specifying him. Such a child is also prone to vitiligo.
As a parent, how to cultivate a strong heart for children? It means giving children a sense of security from an early age and giving them enough love from an early age.
But when the child is about one year old, he or she should start setting rules for the child . Under the rules, you cannot let the child do whatever he wants. This way, the child can have a stable and safe relationship in his heart and not be too fragile.
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