What should I do if the child always throws things
Do you encounter this situation: Children often throw things on the ground with their hands on the ground. We tell the child not to throw them, but the child throws them even more vigorously! So what should we do when we encounter this situation?
What you need to tell everyone is that although they are all throwing things, the situations they are in are different, and the behavioral functions of children are also different. When facing different behavioral functions, our handling methods cannot be the same.
Next we will share two cases with you to see how children throw things in different situations~
3 Case 1:
Huahua is playing by herself, mother is calling
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Huahua throws toys
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Mom hung up and came to accompany Huahua
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Next time my mother doesn't play with Huahua, Huahua will throw toys
From the above case, it can be seen that the reason why Huahua will throw things is because her mother is calling and did not pay attention to her. When she throws things, her mother will come to accompany her immediately. We can guess that the child's behavioral function is to gain attention.
In the face of this kind of situation, What we need to do is to teach children how to attract attention correctly. For example, when the mother is making a phone call, she can gently pat her mother, or ask her when she can come to accompany her, and attract her mother's attention in an appropriate way. And when the child loses things, we should not rush to accompany the child or criticize him immediately. If the child's behavioral function is to attract attention, your criticism will not only not change the child's behavior, but may intensify the child.
case 2
Want to buy toys every day, my mother said that there are already many toys at home, so she doesn't buy
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throw the things in her hands on the ground every day
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ml2 Mother bought new toys for every day ⬇
Next time I want to buy toys every day, but my mother refuses, but she will still lose things every day
The reason for every day is that the mother refuses to buy toys for her child. When he throws things, the mother immediately buys new toys. The function of the child's behavior may be to obtain real objects.
So when facing such a problem, what we need to do is teach the children some negotiation skills, such as can teach the children, can I buy it next time mom? Can I buy it tomorrow? If the child has a good understanding of the concept of time, he can also teach the child to ask, "When can I buy new toys?" can be satisfied after negotiation in the early stage, and then after appropriate negotiations, it will be satisfied after.
