When children grow up, they will inevitably encounter a rebellious period. At this time, their biggest manifestation is disobedience. Faced with disobedient children, parents naturally can't help but lose their temper. They may make a lot of sense afterwards, but in fact this is just a bad idea for families with boys.
Fangfang and Yuanyuan are cousins. Because they are similar in age and live close to each other, their relationship has always been close. The two got married and had children at about the same time. While congratulating each other, they inevitably compared each other secretly. Everyone hoped that their children would live a better life.
Fangfang's son is recognized as a warm boy in the family. He is polite to others, diligent and studious, which makes Yuanyuan very envious. Although she didn't want to admit it, in the face of the facts, she had to admit that her son was not as good as her cousin's son.
Finally one day, Yuanyuan couldn't help but ask her cousin for advice, asking her how to educate her children so well. Fangfang did not hold back at all and directly imparted her own experience to her:
"It is not very useful to be reasonable with a boy when he loses his temper. You must treat him in a different way. Only when the child understands does he know what to do." That's right."
It was then that Yuanyuan suddenly realized that the previous methods of educating her children were wrong. No wonder her son became more and more rebellious. After using the method taught by her cousin, Yuanyuan was pleasantly surprised to find that Aze had really become better.
There are boys in the family. Learn about the art of raising war
1 and tell the facts
After many boys make mistakes, the first reaction of their parents is to get angry and directly criticize their children. For example, after a child falls while climbing, some parents will directly emphasize that they have repeatedly said not to climb and blame the child for being disobedient.
But some parents will tell their children that if you are afraid of being so high, the chance of falling will naturally be high, so that the children can remember this lesson. In contrast, the latter statement is more acceptable to children, because parents first present the facts and can let children understand the problem at the first time.
2. Talking about emotions
Parents must learn to empathize with their children . When a child is in a low state because of something, parents should first let the child know that their emotions are understood and accepted, and then use gentleness way to soothe your child.
If parents just emphasize that their children are disobedient and tell them not to cry, then the children will naturally reject it from the heart and become even less willing to listen to their parents, causing them to become more and more rebellious. Over time, the children will become difficult to discipline.
3. It is said that the discovery of
comes from making mistakes. If parents directly blame them, the children will most likely not realize what they have done wrong. But if parents point out the good things their children do in a positive way and contrast it with the bad things their children do, it will naturally make their children more impressed.
guides children as much as possible and allows them to find the correct way of doing things through comparative analysis, so that children can gain real wealth.
4. Talking about the long term
Parents should learn to help their children find out the reasons for their mistakes and treat their children with a long-term perspective as much as possible. If only punitive methods are used, the children will lose the ability to solve problems and will only remember the mistakes they made and the punishment my parents gave them.
But when parents are willing to work with their children to find the reasons for their mistakes, the children will know why they made the mistakes and actively correct them to avoid the same mistakes from happening again.
