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Grandparents take care of their grandchildren. Should they ask their children for the " grandchild fee "?
This has always been a realistic and controversial topic.
In the eyes of some people, since you are helping your son take care of the children, you are taking care of your own grandchildren. This is a matter of course. You help me take care of the children now, and I will provide for you in the future. How can there be any need to ask for expenses? Say what?
Others believe that it is not obligatory for the elderly to help their children with their children, and some of the expenses incurred during the period of raising children should not be borne by the elderly. Children should pay part of their living expenses to the elderly if they have financial income. This reflects Filial piety also expresses one's gratitude.
Of course, whether to pay "grandchild care fees" should be decided according to the actual situation of each family. The expenses should also be provided by the children on their own initiative. However, in real life, the contributions of the elderly have exceeded their own capabilities, and If children are unwilling to share the financial pressure, family conflicts are inevitable.
Uncle Wu and his wife are an old couple. After their son and daughter-in-law got married, they gave birth to a son and a daughter. From then on, Uncle Wu and his wife started a life of raising grandchildren.
After the granddaughter was born, she lived with her grandparents for 15 years. The grandson was also taken care of by her grandparents for 3 years. During this period, all the child’s expenses were paid for by the elderly. The son and daughter-in-law did not pay for the elderly despite their financial income. Have paid any child support.
As Mr. and Mrs. Wu grew old and were not in good health, they proposed that their son and daughter-in-law pay the "grandchild care fees" during the childcare period. However, the son and daughter-in-law never responded to the parents' appeal.
Uncle Wu angrily sued his son and daughter-in-law to the Feidong County Court. However, even when the court opened, the defendants' son and daughter-in-law kept avoiding the case.
After trial, the court held that Mr. Wu and his wife both had jobs and incomes, and they had the ability to raise their two children. However, during this period, the two were unwilling to assume the legal task of raising children, and instead took them as a matter of course. To the elderly parents, the two should pay 216,000 yuan to the parents to raise the children on their behalf.
Neither party appealed against this result.
This case has also aroused heated discussions among many netizens on the Internet. Some people think that even if the children are unwilling to pay for the care of their grandchildren, there is no need for the elderly to take them to court. In this way, the father and son become enemies.
Many netizens also support the actions of Uncle Wu and his wife, believing that the money they deserve must be returned. Since the children are used to chewing the elderly, they will not be very filial to the elderly in the future. Instead of doing this, it is better to save money for their own retirement.
“It’s so realistic. Nowadays, many young people think that it is natural for grandma and grandfather to take care of their grandchildren. In fact, it is thankless for the elderly to contribute money and effort. The elderly are not obliged to raise their grandchildren. I think I must pay for the care of their grandchildren!”
"Although the children did a bit too much, it is not good for a family to go to court. The old man got compensation, but also lost his family relationship."
" Parents still push their children to be raised by the old man even though they have the ability to raise their children. , It’s really bad. The old man is right to do this. For such children, it is better to rely on people for their later years than to rely on money. "
When the old people take care of their children, should the children give them "grandchild care expenses"?
First of all, we must make it clear that according to the provisions of the " Civil Code ", as long as the parents of the children have the conditions and ability to raise their children, the elderly have no obligation to support their minor grandchildren.
In real life, many elderly people take the initiative to take care of their grandchildren out of love and concern for their children. In the process, many elderly people will also use their own pensions and savings to help their children's small families reduce the living burden.
In this regard, children should be grateful to their parents, and take the initiative to provide some living allowances to their parents if financial conditions permit. This not only expresses their gratitude to their parents, but also relieves the financial pressure on the elderly to take care of their children.
But every family also has its own actual situation. If the children themselves do not have jobs and income, or do not have the ability to raise children, then it is understandable for the elderly to help appropriately.
On the contrary, if children ask the elderly to help take care of their children with the mentality of "gnawing at the elderly", then this behavior will definitely be condemned and boycotted.
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