We often say that educating children must pay attention to methods and teaching by words and deeds. Once parents use the wrong education method, it is not called education, but can only be called a reward for confusing behavior.
Recently, a mother’s strange parenting style has caused heated discussion on the Internet.
The cause was that the son and his mother had a dispute. The son got angry and lay on the roof of his car, refusing to come down even after saying anything. Then the mother had an idea and drove directly on the road, thinking that she could scare her children in this way, and maybe they would become obedient in the future.
After the car hit the road, the car with the baby on the roof was quickly discovered by the traffic police. The traffic police fined the mother 200 yuan and demerited 3 points on her driver's license, and told her that this kind of education method was not feasible. If something happened, Even if it is a big deal, even if nothing happens by chance, it may make the children find it fun, thereby losing their safety awareness, laying down safety risks for the future, and it will not play the role of educating children at all.
saw the operation of the mother and son. In the comment area, netizens expressed that it was "outrageous to drive the car". Both mother and son were outrageous.
You must know that this mother’s so-called education is actually just trying to get angry with her children. Not only does it fail to educate, but it may also cause catastrophe if she is not careful. Of course, everyone knows that this kind of education method is not advisable, but some netizens said that mothers are really helpless when encountering children with particularly stubborn tempers, and sometimes they really don’t know how to deal with it.
In fact, when parents want to educate their children but don’t know what to do, the most important thing to consider is what you want to teach your children through this education. The so-called education does not mean that parents just clean up their children or scare them. Correct education is to let children distinguish right from wrong, so that they can know how to deal with similar incidents in the future.
Think carefully about the mother carrying her child on the roof of her car. She is really not educating her child, she is just venting her emotions. Everyone needs to vent their emotions sometimes, but when emotions take over, they often make wrong choices. As a parent, you must learn to stay rational enough at critical times, especially when it comes to safety issues. You must know that everything you say and do is a guideline for your children to imitate. Never cause irreversible harm to your children emotionally.
Some time ago, the Hangzhou police received a call. After a mother quarreled with her husband, she drove her 5-year-old son to a police station. After parking the car, she left. After leaving for a while,
calmed down and began to worry about the safety of the child. He quickly called the police and asked the police to help take care of the child. When the police arrived, they found that the car's engine was still running, the air conditioner was on, and the child was sleeping soundly covered with a blanket.
This mother was impulsive and still had some sense left. She knew to park the car near the police station, but the child was only 5 years old and left alone in the car. If something happened to her, she would regret it.
It should be said that there are not a few parents who get emotional after being impulsive. Also in Hangzhou, during a patrol, the police found a mother who was hurriedly looking for her child on the street. After communicating with her, they found out that it was her 10-year-old son who complained that he was too busy and tired from attending interest classes. After the mother and son had a dispute, the mother angrily pulled over and drove her son away. Go down.
After driving through a few intersections, the mother calmed down a little and began to regret it. Then she quickly turned the car back to look for her son, but his figure had long since disappeared in the crowd. This mother was also lucky. After her child was kicked out of the car, she walked back to the community. However, she was afraid of being scolded by her mother and lingered in the community for a long time without going home until she was discovered by the police after dark.
Li Liunan wrote in "Mother's Letter of Repentance": "If you drive without a driver's license, the driver will be arrested. However, if you raise children in a state of ignorance, it is not me but the child who is imprisoned."
Yes, as parents, we can have emotions, but we must not be controlled by our emotions, let alone educate our children in an out-of-control state.The so-called teaching by words and deeds means that in addition to teaching children how to behave and do things, we also need to let them learn to stay rational and remember that "impulse is the devil".
