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Yesterday I made a noise with my cousin.
It had only been ten days since he became a father. I went to congratulate him, but when I arrived at his house, I discovered that he, a grown-up man, was a bit more "delicate" than his sister-in-law, who was in confinement. Because of the epidemic, they did not hire a confinement nanny. Only my cousin’s mother, my cousin, was taking care of the confinement nanny during the day.
Even so, my cousin spent the summer comfortably with air conditioning, WIFI, and watermelon alone. He asked him to help carry the baby. He said he didn’t dare because the baby was too soft and he was afraid that he would fall if he couldn’t hold it; he asked him to help. He said he didn't know how to cook, and would rather order takeout than cook; when he was asked to buy groceries, he took the opportunity to run out and didn't come home for a long time...
When he saw me, my sister-in-law started to tell the story of my cousin with tears in her eyes. "Glorious deeds".
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My sister-in-law had a caesarean section and she was discharged from the hospital only a week ago. The wound has not fully recovered and her whole body looks wilted. My cousin buys groceries, cooks, does laundry and does housework alone. It is inevitable that he will focus on one thing at the expense of the other and be too busy; but his cousin seems to be an "older child" who has not grown up. He only cares about himself and has not entered the role at all, and does not realize that the one crying loudly is his own son who needs his care.
My sister-in-law said that she had to endure the pain of the wound and take care of the baby day and night. She couldn’t eat well and sleep well. Her hair was falling out in handfuls. In addition, she was bloated after giving birth and couldn’t live in a house for a long time. My stretch marks are almost on the verge of collapse. Sometimes I really want to leave everything and walk far away.
I had no choice but to scold my cousin and comfort my sister-in-law.
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Postpartum mothers’ psychological problems are the number one health problem
Denmark There is a 30-year research project for postpartum mothers. The study found that women are most likely to suffer the most during the first three months after becoming mothers. Be susceptible to illness, especially in the first few weeks. Not only postpartum depression , but also endocrine disorders, cyclic depression and mania, neurasthenia, anxiety, etc. will follow, and account for a high proportion.
However, men who become fathers for the first time are not so vulnerable. This may be related to the fact that they have not experienced the feeling of being pregnant for ten months and there are no major changes in social relationships.
In fact, mental health is very important to a mother. It is related to whether she can be qualified as a mother, whether she can enjoy the fun of parenting, and whether she can steadily adjust herself to restore physical and mental health as soon as possible, etc.
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Postpartum mothers’ skin problems will also become one of the core sources of anxiety
If the baby’s health problems are the most concerning issue for new mothers, then their own skin problems will also become a source of trouble for new mothers.
After giving birth, the hormones in the mother's body will change accordingly, such as excessive skin oiliness, acne, pregnancy spots , stretch marks and other skin problems... What woman doesn't love beauty? These situations are enough to make a new mother’s mood plummet.
Postpartum acne is prone to occur, which is related to the mother's excessive emotional stress, poor sleep quality, improper supplementation, etc.; just make appropriate adjustments, check the baby more often, and make yourself feel better.
Postpartum stretch marks and pregnancy spots may become a "nightmare" for new mothers, because once formed, it is indeed difficult to recover. Pregnancy spots are mostly formed on the face, while stretch marks are mostly found on the thighs and belly. Pay more attention to skin cleansing on weekdays, and apply some lightening products appropriately, and don’t rush.
You must know that in the eyes of babies, a lively, cheerful and smiling mother is the most beautiful mother in the world!
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Postpartum mothers' hair loss The problem is always unavoidable.
During pregnancy, many pregnant mothers will obviously feel that their hair is of very good quality, soft and not easy to fall off. After giving birth to a baby, you comb your hair for the first time, take a shower for the first time, and look at the hair falling out of your hands, which makes you start to doubt your life.
In fact, postpartum hair loss is a typical "temporary telogen effluvium". Hair will fall out in large quantities for 4-6 months, and then it will slowly recover.
This is because the high concentration of estrogen in the mother's blood during pregnancy prolongs the life of the hair follicles in the anagen phase; but after childbirth, the hormones decrease sharply, coupled with the large loss of iron and protein, the problem of hair loss suddenly becomes serious. .
Just wait quietly. There is no need for postpartum mothers to "fiddle" with their hair too much at this time. They can clean and take care of it normally. After this period of time, the hair loss problem will gradually improve.
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Postpartum mothers may also face some vision problems
Some mothers feel that their eyes seem to be blurred after delivery, but they were very clear before delivery; some mothers have always felt that their eyes are very dry and tired. I couldn't help but blink and rub my eyes.
This is because the hormones in the mother's body change after childbirth, and childbirth can easily lead to loss of energy and blood , which may cause some vision problems for new mothers.
However, this is also a temporary situation. Don't be nervous. Keep your eyes rested, reduce the time you spend looking at mobile phones, TV, books, etc., close your eyes more and rest your mind, and your vision problems will gradually improve.
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In short, postpartum mothers should make themselves appropriately "delicate" and not do everything by themselves. You know, only when you have rested and recovered your body can you be in a better state to take care of your baby!
As for the new father, if he has not yet entered the role of "father", then the new mother must appropriately delegate power and let him do the things at home that should be left to the father. There is no need to criticize him for whether he has done well or not. As long as he does it, actively encourage and praise him vigorously, so that he can feel a sense of accomplishment and slowly he will do better and better.
The most important thing is to relax your mind, look down on the things that worry you, and pay more attention to the cute and cute appearance of the baby. The surprises brought by the changes every day will make you feel happy. But life.
