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On the morning of the weekend, many people in the community were enjoying the cool air in the hall. During the chat, an aunt talked about her daughter, her face was filled with pride, and she kept praising how excellent her daughter was, even if her daughter couldn’t do anything Housework must be shown off. The aunt claimed that her daughter was 16 years old and was in high school. She had not allowed her children to do housework since she was a child. She did not even take out the garbage. Even her clothes and shoes were washed and folded by her parents.
couldn't help but be a little surprised when he heard this. What is the difference between this and the giant baby? It is impossible for children to stay with their parents all their lives. There will come a time when they will be far away from their parents, and by then they will not even have the ability to be self-reliant. But the mother was not worried at all. She felt that she could accompany her daughter to study and even raise her daughter for a lifetime. She pampers her daughter just for future plans and does not want her to marry into someone else's house and work as a nanny.
This mother’s explanation shattered my outlook even more, and it was difficult to understand her thoughts and purposes. After returning home, I posted my own question online to collect the opinions of mothers on the Internet about this matter. Unexpectedly, many mothers expressed support and thought that this was for the good of their daughter. However, they did not know that this was actually for the sake of their daughter. There is a time bomb in her daughter's married life, which not only fails to bring about a happy life, but even harms her.
Love is a matter between two people, marriage is a matter between two families, both husband and wife have responsibilities
Marriage also indicates that one is mature and can start a family and start a business, indicating that the mind and mentality are calm and able to support a family. Two people have known each other since they met. From falling in love to getting married, we have gone through a lot of processes, and getting married is the result of cultivation.
Everything in a family must be shared by two people, and each person must bear responsibility instead of trying to shift the blame.
The structure of an ordinary family is one in which the male leads the outside and the female leads the household. The woman has a docile personality and is suitable for doing housework, while the man is upright and has to work hard outside. After a woman gets married, she must learn to grow. A good woman is the feng shui of a family. What kind of character a woman has determines the future success or failure of the family. Men are looking for a good wife, not a vase as a decoration.
After a man and a woman get married, they have to restrain their nature and use all kinds of martial arts to run their small family well. Now parents can help their children, but one day the children will have to learn to walk independently. Parents cannot always It is to help a child cross a single-plank bridge. A loving mother often loses her children. Perhaps this is the truth.
Marriage is not a necessity for women, but independence is a compulsory course for every woman.
Thinking about it from another perspective, no parent raises his son just to marry a woman who has no survival skills and bring him home to worship. Excessive pampering, It will only make women lose their ability to live.
People have a lot of potential. They must be given certain opportunities to exercise their personal abilities and stimulate their potential strength. Not everyone can eat and drink water when they are born. This also requires later learning.
Children are like dandelion seeds that grow up and drift in the wind. The more skills they learn, the greater the chance of survival in the future. If a person has to be cared for by his parents even for food, drink and clothing, no company will be willing to hire him after graduation. , can only chew on the old.
Exercising children's hands-on skills does not harm the child, but broadens the child's future. A woman can be pampered by her parents, but the premise is that the girl must have the ability to live independently.
Getting married does not mean going to your husband’s house to be a free nanny. The union of a family is the existence of love. Where there is love, it is not a transaction of money. You cannot compare yourself to a nanny. Both husband and wife will continue to invest affection and love in the family, and only then will a steady stream of happiness be produced in this small family.
Some people are not very princesses, but they are very sick. Children of all families are treasures in the hands of their parents. You cannot regard love as harm, and you will regret it for the rest of your life.
People must know how to adapt to changes and adapt to ever-changing changes, so that life will be colorful. What do you think?
