Differences between mothers and the elderly on breastfeeding. Differences between mothers and the elderly on early childhood education. Differences between mothers and the elderly on the way they take care of their babies. Differences between mothers and the elderly on living hab

Differences between mothers and the elderly on breastfeeding

Differences between mothers and the elderly on early childhood education

Differences in the way mothers and the elderly take care of their babies

Differences between mothers and the elderly on living habits

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Differences between mothers and the elderly on parenting

Yesterday, a friend sent me a set of comics about the elderly vs. mothers raising children. These comics mainly show the differences between the elderly and modern mothers raising children in terms of living habits and educational concepts. My friend said that this set of cartoons is a true reflection of his current family, and asked me how to solve this problem. In fact, the solution to this problem is very simple: bring it yourself, but bringing it yourself will introduce more new problems. So, what should new parents do when faced with the differences between raising children for the elderly and themselves? What should new parents pay attention to if they want to take care of their children by themselves?

1. There are many problems for the elderly raising children, and whether they can be overcome depends entirely on the young parents themselves.

Since people’s lives are under great pressure nowadays, many young parents still choose to leave their children to the elderly after giving birth. If you leave it to the elderly to take care of you, you will face the following problems.

1. Grandma or grandma?

According to a survey, if modern families choose to let the elderly take care of their children, more than 98% of parents prefer to let their children's grandmothers take care of their children. The reason is that young people basically lived in a two-person world before they had children, and they symbolically went home to see their elders during holidays. We spend very little time together, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are mostly respectful to each other. But when you have children, if you choose to let your mother-in-law help take care of the children, after getting along for a long time, the differences in ideas and living habits will be exposed, which will inevitably cause some friction. If you meet a husband who does not know how to deal with family problems, There will be no way to survive that day. If a grandma is raising a baby, first of all, her living habits will be basically the same as her daughter's, which will not cause too many problems. Even if there are some differences in ideological concepts, communication will be relatively smooth, and these small differences will not rise to the level of family conflicts. Of course, there are also some problems with grandma raising a baby. For the father of the baby, he still loves his mother more. If the child's grandmother wants to take care of the baby, but the child's mother asks the grandma to take care of the baby in order to avoid conflicts between herself and her mother-in-law, the child's father will feel that the mother-in-law has robbed his mother of the right to be close to the grandson. No matter how it looks on the surface, it will definitely feel uncomfortable inside. In this case, this grandma will become a thankless person. She has to work hard to help take care of the children. Not only will she not be thanked, but she will also be resented. Therefore, when it comes to raising children, novice mothers cannot let their mothers suffer for them.

2. What should we do if young people and old people have differences?

First of all, whether it is grandma or grandma, after all, they are two generations separated by decades. Just like what is drawn in the comics, there will be some differences in thoughts and concepts. Faced with these differences, new parents must adhere to one concept: ignore small problems but adhere to big principles. Small problems refer to things that do not affect the child's health, habit formation, and character formation but that you cannot understand. The opposite is true for the general principle. After screening in this way, you will find that there are few things that are worthy of quarrels and conflicts.

Another point is that parents of children must understand that they are the first person in charge of their children. You are the one who plays the leading role, and the elderly are just helpers. Therefore, you should spend more time after work to participate in things like raising children. This way you will have more say in many matters, and the elderly will be more willing to follow your suggestions.

In addition, if you really encounter a major disagreement that cannot be reconciled, if your family is a grandma taking care of the children, let the father communicate about the matter, and vice versa, let the mother do the communication. In this way, not only will the conflict be avoided from escalating, but the problem will be solved as soon as possible because the elderly are more willing to listen to the suggestions of their children.

The last thing I want to say is that raising children is actually a very hard job. Don't break the heart of the elderly because of trivial things. Whether it is grandma or grandma, they are the elders after all. As the younger generation, we must be tolerant to get along with them.

Happy family

2. Young people should decide whether they want to take care of the baby themselves according to their actual situation.

For families that have children and want to take care of them themselves, mothers usually choose to quit their jobs to accompany their children as they grow up. There are two such mothers around me, Xiao Li: the child is 6 years old, and Xiao Wang: the child is 8 years old. Although both of them are full-time mothers and spend about the same amount of time at home full-time, their current situations are completely opposite. Why? ?

Xiao Li worked as an accountant in a company before giving birth. Since she was only a junior accountant and her income was relatively low, she decided to quit her job after giving birth and became a full-time mother at home. But the moment Xiao Li resigned, he set a goal for himself: taking care of the baby is the first priority after resigning, and the second is to use the past few years of raising the baby at home to pass the intermediate and advanced accounting qualifications. Now Xiao Li’s baby is over 6 years old. He has been brought up by Xiao Li to be smart and polite. Xiao Li has also successfully passed the intermediate and advanced accounting qualification certificates in the past few years. I met Xiao Li a few days ago and she told me that Xiaobao will go to elementary school in September this year. She enrolled Xiaobao in a daycare class so that he would have no worries about going to school later. She also got an offer from a large company and is preparing to go to school. Return to work within a month. I said congratulations, you finally survived. Xiao Li's eyes turned a little red when he heard what I said, he said thank you and left. Looking at Xiao Li's slightly shaking shoulders, I knew she must have been crying. Her tears contained the hardships of the past few years and the joy of seeing hope.

Positive mother and child

On the contrary, Xiao Wang's current situation is much worse. His 8-year-old child is already in the second grade of elementary school. Xiao Wang is unkempt every day. After sending the child to school, he wears pajamas and slippers. I play mahjong with a group of old ladies in the chess and card room of the community. After school, my children are still dressed like this and go to the school gate to pick them up. I met her once when I was taking my children to school. She complained to me that her children were beginning to dislike her and were repelled by her taking her to and from school. I half-jokingly told her that if you dress up like you did when you were a flight attendant, your child would like you to stand at the school gate to greet her every day. Xiao Wang smiled without saying anything and went to the mahjong parlor again. Before giving birth to a child, Xiao Wang was a beautiful and generous flight attendant. After giving birth to the child, she quit her job to take care of the baby full-time. It may be related to her career. After Xiao Wang resigned, she couldn't stand the boring and hard work of working at home. Not only did she not do housework, but she often Leaving the baby at home and going out to eat, drink and have fun with friends, let alone expect her to provide early education for the baby, because the relationship between her and her husband is getting worse and worse. As time went by, my husband couldn't stand it anymore, and the times he went home became less and less. Later, no one knew what happened, and Xiao Wang became what he is now. Now that the child is older, Xiao Wang may not be able to return to his former self.

Parents and children in a quarrel

So, although everyone says it is best to take care of their children by themselves, we should carefully evaluate whether we are suitable to be a stay-at-home mother before making a decision? Can you take good care of the children? You should think about what you will do when your children grow up. Once you understand these issues, everything that follows will be relatively simple, but if you haven't thought about it well, you have to choose carefully.

Conclusion

Regarding raising children, different families have different characteristics. Everyone should make the best choice based on their actual situation. Don’t make irrational decisions because of your own obsessions and hurt the family. His kindness delayed his children's growth and ruined his own future. Do you think I am right? If you have more opinions or suggestions, please leave a message in the comment area for discussion. Thank you all.