Author | Dong Linfu
saw a video in which a daughter-in-law posted a comparison photo of her child's grandmother before and after she took care of the baby for a year. She said that her mother-in-law came over to help take care of the baby for a year, and her weight increased from 100 pounds to 140 pounds.
The daughter-in-law said that her mother-in-law likes to buy snacks when she is in a good mood. Some netizens also said that if the daughter-in-law is good to her mother-in-law, she will naturally be in a good mood.
Mother-in-law is the backbone of the family. Working mothers can rest assured that their mother-in-law can take care of their children. On the other hand, there is little financial pressure. Hiring a nanny to take care of your children will undoubtedly involve a lot of expenses.
In our community, families with grandma and children account for the majority. I met a young mother a few days ago. Her child is just over 1 year old. She told me that when her child goes to kindergarten, she will ask her mother-in-law to quit her current job and help her take care of the baby while she goes to work.
It turned out that her mother-in-law had retired a long time ago and couldn't stay at home, so she went out to find a job. If the family needed her mother-in-law to take care of the children, the old lady would not hesitate to resign and go home to take care of her grandchildren.
In many families in China, the mother-in-law shines for the children's small family and selflessly contributes a lot. It is especially difficult for mothers who have a background of leaving their hometown and live in two places with their old man to come to the city where their son lives to raise children for his son and daughter-in-law.
We have to admit that the happiness of many small families is based on the children’s grandmothers helping to take care of the children day and night.
1. Getting fatter and fatter while raising a baby may also be due to " overwork and obesity ".
Many mothers who take care of their babies have this experience. It is very tiring to take care of their babies, and they cannot get a good rest day and night, but their bodies are getting fatter and fatter.
This is because if we don’t take care of the baby, we can go for a run, keep fit, and the elderly can go square dancing and take a walk. However, when we take care of the baby, we are almost welded together with the baby. Apart from taking care of the baby, we can’t spare time. If you don’t have time to work out and do sports, you will gain weight before you know it.
Bringing up a baby is very tiring. It requires both physical strength and mental strength. You will eat a lot without realizing it. The baby will be reluctant to throw away the leftover food. Adults will also eat it. If you don’t deliberately control your diet, you will easily gain weight.
The body metabolism of the elderly is slow, and staying up late can easily lead to endocrine disorders and make them gain weight. It is not a good thing for the elderly to gain weight. As the saying goes, it is hard to buy money to lose weight with old age. Although you do not have to be thin, you will be healthier if you can maintain a standard weight and have a well-proportioned figure.
Therefore, although the mother-in-law in the video is fat, she is not necessarily fat because she enjoys happiness. Being fat is not necessarily good for the body. While raising children, the elderly must pay attention to their own physical condition and adjust their diet and work schedule in time. , the elderly take good care of their health, which is also the greatest blessing for their children.
2. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, and mother-in-law is more comfortable raising children.
There are also many families where the grandma takes care of the children, because many novice mothers are afraid that conflicts may arise if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along day and night, and would rather let their own mothers help take care of the children than trouble the children's grandmother.
Women are particularly prone to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law during childbirth and confinement. When asking mother-in-law to help take care of the children, it is very important to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well.
Older people raising their babies and mothers raising their babies will to a large extent cause conflicts in concepts. Mothers usually raise their babies according to books, while old people raise their babies based on their own experience. In this way, old and new ideas will inevitably collide.
A good way to solve the conflict in the concept of raising children is to find ways to get the elderly to read more parenting articles and parenting books. Subtly, the elderly will gradually accept the new and scientific way of raising children.
The most important thing between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to turn a blind eye, understand each other, and be considerate of each other.
It is especially hard for the elderly to help take care of their children. Try to give the elderly as much rest time as possible. The parents of the children should take over the responsibility of taking care of the children during off-duty hours to give the elderly a certain amount of time to relax.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, and the family atmosphere is harmonious, which is also conducive to the growth of children. The elderly and children are comfortable, and the young couple can work and live with more confidence.
3. The husband has high emotional intelligence and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more harmonious.
If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, the husband will also be the beneficiary. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, the husband will suffer the consequences.
A husband with high emotional intelligence can act as a lubricant between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and will skillfully resolve minor conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Xiao Li is very good at troublemaking. Xiao Li's wife Xiaotian usually has conflicts with her mother-in-law who comes to the house to help look after her granddaughter because of trivial matters. But every time Xiao Li can easily help her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law resolve the unpleasantness.
For example, every time after get off work, Xiao Li cooks, and Xiao Tian washes the dishes after dinner. Her mother-in-law was very unhappy at first. She said Xiao Tian was too lazy and shouldn't let Xiao Li, a big man, cook every day.
Just when Xiaotian was about to have a seizure, Xiao Li said to his mother: "Mom, I love cooking. The food I cook is delicious, but the food cooked by Xiaotian is terrible. If she cooks every day, I will be hungry. Besides, I don’t want to wash the dishes either. It’s a good division of labor between us. I like to cook and Xiaotian loves to wash the dishes. We work together perfectly.”
When Xiao Li said this, Granny Xiaotian was speechless.
There are many things like this. Xiao Li has high emotional intelligence and can resolve the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a few words. Now the relationship between Xiaotian and mother-in-law is getting better and better, thanks to Xiao Li's high emotional intelligence.
The mother-in-law comes to help take care of the children. The elderly are not afraid of hardships and tiredness, but they are afraid of being unhappy with the children and afraid of conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If the husband has high emotional intelligence and knows how to coordinate between his wife and mother, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be easier to resolve.
It is said that the love of the elderly for their grandchildren is obvious. The mother-in-law saves the young couple a lot of trouble by taking care of the baby. You must be grateful to your mother-in-law, but when it comes to getting along with each other, you must pay more attention to the elderly and each other. Be more considerate and understanding. As your children grow up, their lives will inevitably get better and better.
