I understand that you will come, so I wait. As the exam was approaching, the amount of homework was obviously much greater. Looking at the child in front of him, whose eyes were so narrow that he couldn't see, he was swaying back and forth, and he was expected to fall down in the

I understand, you will come, so I wait

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The night before the exam, almost all the time At 10 o'clock, the children finished their homework.

Assignments were stacked one after another, brought to me, pressed on my book, and signed for me to check.

As the exam is approaching, the amount of homework is obviously much more. Looking at the child in front of me, whose eyes are so narrow that he cannot see, he is shaking back and forth, and he is expected to fall down in the next moment.

couldn't bear it, but he didn't dare to say anything. He just let him lean on the side and patted his butt to show his understanding.

After signing, the child took the pile and returned to his room to pack his schoolbag and prepare to take a bath.

Once upon a time, I was also the anxious mother who hung around her children all day long, accompanying her children in all kinds of reviews at the end of the term, memorizing them silently, for fear that if I didn’t pay attention, my children’s grades would fall to Java.

Up to now, I have really become a hands-off mother. What I have experienced during this process will be revealed together today. It can be regarded as repaying the invitation of a friend in the reading club, that Xinyi mother, I will hand in the homework. .

HT 1 has to say that if the child's sudden emotions and any other tricky things are made,

will still choose. Even if it is a heavy study preparation.

This may be a mother's instinct.

But it was precisely that I chose the former again and again. All the energy I have accumulated until now has all come back to me, helping me now to concentrate on preparing for the exam.

When chatting with friends, they all complain incessantly, and the reason is surprisingly similar - to spend time with their children.

made me suddenly exclaim, my child is really my treasure and I don’t need to worry about it.

But in fact, it was the right efforts and doing the right things in the early stage that caused a series of subsequent problems to be nipped in the bud.

The following are the pitfalls I have stepped on. I hope it will be helpful to you if I write them down.

. Is it really right to do your homework first as soon as you get home?

According to the common views of many different people in the past, of course - immediately switch to the bombardment of homework.

This is really a normal thing, and we have been educated like this since childhood.

Is this still wrong? There must be some friends who have such shocking questions.

has been doing it, but it does not mean that it must be right. There are too many things in this world that are being overthrown and rebuilt.

In the past, there was the evolution of geocentrism to heliocentrism, and then to today's society, the leading enterprise of education and training institutions - New Oriental Will be reduced to live streaming to sell goods, and later make a comeback in the context of bilingual live broadcasting,

These all tell us that nothing is eternal, only change is the unchanging truth.

Just imagine, after a tiring day at work, after returning home, will you still be in the mood to plunge into the waste heat of work and work hard? Obviously not, so why should we ask our children to do this?

compared with his own, how much he hated being yelled at to do such a thing after the child came back.

Put yourself in this state of mind, Only by turning yourself into a child can you understand the child to a greater extent.

My method at this time is to spend 5-10 minutes playing some parent-child games with my children.

Don’t underestimate these inconspicuous few minutes, but they are ten minutes with extremely high cost performance. (This has been mentioned in previous articles)

It allows children to escape from the heavy academic work, return to their familiar environment, relieve the fatigue of the day, and be themselves happily.

God knows how funny it is when I go along with the child doing those childish and ridiculous butt twisting movements!

But it can be seen from the child's laughter that he leaned forward and backward, and my goal was achieved.

For me, subtle changes have actually taken place. As the limbs open, the hidden negative energy in the body seems to have found an outlet and rushes outward.

Finally, the children and I entered the cave with satisfaction.

Of course, this is only one aspect. What I really want to say is that the principles we adhered to in the past may not be all correct. Maintaining a heart for development and progress is the most important thing.

. "Teach children" to learn to make plans and break down the goals to complete them.

This was originally the method I used to prepare for the exam, and I thought it would be equally applicable to my children.

I have been practicing it on him for two months now, and the results are very good. Even the children said:

"Mom doesn't have to worry about my homework anymore!"

Many parents always use the excuse that their children are young. actually not.

You must know that the biggest enemy of procrastination is ambiguity. Only a written study plan can deal with the confusion of not knowing what to do.

I used to be like many parents, just like what I said before -

I don’t care how you arrange it, in short, you have to finish all your homework before you can play! ‍

It doesn’t matter if the cat is black or white, the one that catches mice is a good cat, and what you pursue blindly is the final result.

This may be acceptable at work, but it is absolutely unacceptable in the education of children.

They don’t understand anything, and they need us to teach them step by step before they can sail to the right side of the river.

Two things need to be done here: First, parents themselves must have the awareness of "implementing the plan with goals, plans, and paths";

Secondly, they must patiently teach these little bits to their children.

There is no way to do this for others. Teachers also preach and learn to answer questions, but when it comes to detailed learning methods and awareness, parents still have to take the lead.

We must not only know how to live, but also learn to nurture.

It seems that there is only one position for parents, and you can get started immediately without any certificate. It was only after I gave birth to a child that I suddenly realized that there are many things to learn.

Parents’ awareness of personal growth is particularly important in parenting.

It doesn’t matter if we don’t know how to do it. We can learn it first and then discuss it with our children.

The feeling of growing up together may not be another subtle impression for children.

I take the weekend arrangement as an example, and then extend it to long holidays such as summer, the same is true.

After experimenting in this way, the effect is remarkable, at least it has never become a make-up job like it was when I was a child.

These are all completed before doing homework on Friday night. The steps are as follows:

(1). Spread all the homework on the table, all, including listening, speaking, reading and writing, do not miss any item;

(2). Make an estimate of all the workload, and then make an estimate of your available time;

(3). Based on the estimated available time, make an initial allocation of the workload to ;

(4 ). Fine-tune the assignments according to the distribution of difficulty levels.

In this way, the initial homework plan is released!

This is similar to the Gantt chart we made. When implemented every day, we find that the seemingly mountainous homework will slowly be leveled to the ground.

Here are the testimonials of actual operators, which are the feedback of children:

As long as you complete it every day, you will feel a sense of accomplishment;

If you do not complete it in time, you will find a way to reach the standard;

Excess If you complete it, you will gain double the happiness and play more excitingly!

There is one note that parents need to pay special attention to, and that is the handling of emergencies.

The plan can be broken, and it can also be rebuilt.

As long as the heart and enthusiasm to accomplish things remain unchanged, that is the greatest wealth.

This is also the main reason why I no longer feel anxious after I suddenly wake up.

Just like when an airplane cannot turn by changing its left and right tilt angles during flight, the value of ailerons exists.

Even if there is a situation that cannot be completed in time one day, there is no need to face a formidable enemy. As long as parents lead their children and slowly adjust together, the plane will always fly on its own path.

. We and our children are a team.

"We are a team!"

This is a sentence I often say in front of my children.

Whether it is study or problems encountered in life, these can be discussed with parents.

We are like a team going out to play a game. The children are the players who work hard on the field, and the parents are like coaches.

During the break, he helped the children analyze the pros and cons of the opponents on the field, find out the best strategy, and strive to win the ranking in this game. The same is true in life.

In the past, children always thought that if they failed to get good grades or performed poorly, their parents would stand on the opposite side of them and scold them; Standing in the same trench, those internal conflicts never happened again.

The charm of the language is such that it must not be underestimated.

. I believe he can get better.

The power of belief is truly beyond imagination.

There is a saying that goes like this:

You see because you believe,

You don’t believe because you see.

The revolutionary martyrs shed their lives and blood because they believe that one day we will be able to usher in the beautiful life of today.

Since the outbreak of the epidemic in 2020, the whole country has been panicked and the city has been closed. Now, for several months, we have been quarantined at home.

In the three years of fighting against the epidemic, too many frontline heroes have emerged who left their own homes to care for everyone, or strangers who contributed their efforts in obscurity.

They are all poking the tears of each of us, and then blooming humanity The shining point.

It is belief in the future that enables us to overcome difficulties time and time again.

This is true in terms of right and wrong, but when it comes to children, why is it not the same!

And positive psychological hints will also send a signal to the child that he can get better.

will affect many changes in actions. Action is the medicine that cures everything.

was deeply shocked when I read "Accompanying Children to Grow for Life" by Fan Deng.

There is a saying in it:

A person’s relationship with his parents is his relationship with the entire world.

They came to this world through us.

Then through getting along with us, they slowly established a connection with this world, so they play a key role in guiding us.

So I want to tell my children more, so that the road ahead will be smoother. This is what parents worry about.

When the child fails, I actually want TML6 opened his arms and hugged her.