Hello everyone, I am a caring person who focuses on family education. When I visited my cousin's house, my cousin's children had been playing games in the living room. My cousin said: Go do your homework! The child lost his temper and shouted: Got it! I finally have a holiday, le

Hello everyone, I am a caring person who focuses on family education.

When I visited my cousin’s house, my cousin’s children had been playing games in the living room. My cousin said: Go and do your homework! The child lost his temper and shouted: Got it! I finally have a holiday, let me play some more!

After 10 minutes, the cousin called the child again, he should go to study! Unexpectedly, the child became even more temperamental and said: If you like to learn, just go and learn! I want to play! Go back to your room and close the door hard!

My cousin had a breakdown and whispered that as children grow older, they should learn to talk back! So infuriating! I can only comfort my cousin and don't get angry with the child.

In what mood do children usually start to talk back?

First, when the child is in a bad mood.

The child encountered troublesome things. For example, he had conflicts with his classmates. He worked hard in his studies but made no progress. When getting along with teachers, if you encounter any confusion, you will feel bad. If you only care about the child's learning at this time and do not notice the child's frustrated mood, it is easy for the child to start talking back.

Secondly, when the children have different opinions from their parents.

Children's ideas are different from their parents' ideas. When there is opposition, children will talk back.

For example, the child wants to play for a while, but the parents think that more time is needed to devote to learning.

Finally, when the child is sad and sad, but the parents criticize and blame him.

When a child is already sad, he hopes to get understanding and support, but as a result, he is criticized by his parents, and then the child talks back.

What if we deal with the problem of children talking back? Parents can say these 3 sentences to guide their children to learn to deal with emotions!

1. Tell the child’s inner feelings.

Mom knows that you are also helpless, right? You are sad too! Based on the child's expression and behavior, parents can tell the child's mood, which can fully release the child's inner pressure. Only after the child's knot is resolved and the child's mood is stable can he tell his parents what is on his mind. When parents tell their children how they feel, they won't talk back.

2. Guide children to find better ways to release stress and resolve emotions

Children's talking back is a kind of emotional vent. It is also a sign of not mastering emotions well. Parents need to guide their children to learn how to deal with inner pressure, how to speak when they are in a bad mood, and how to get along with others better.

When the atmosphere at home is very good, communicate more with your children and let them think about it. If you want to play more, it would be more appropriate to speak. You will find that you will think of countless possibilities. You can tell your mother, I will play for ten more minutes. It can also be said that I have completed half of my homework today. I will rest for a while before writing.

When children come up with more ways to speak, they will understand that they can express their thoughts without talking back. When they communicate with their families in the future, they will calm down and come up with better ways of speaking. Make your family happier.

Third, communicate from the child’s perspective.

When children want to play and are having fun, they are not willing to communicate with their parents at all. It is definitely useless for parents to tell their children to stop playing, and it will also lead to confrontation.

Let’s communicate from another angle. Mom knows that you want to play for a while. After thirty minutes, mom will call you and let your eyes rest for a while, okay?

When the child's ideas are understood and the mother still communicates from the perspective of caring for the child, only then can she avoid talking back.

How to control parents’ attitudes when communicating?

1. Only by controlling emotions well can children be willing to communicate.

If a parent speaks in an angry manner, can the child accept it? Are you willing to communicate? Of course not! Only then will the child refuse to say anything and just talk back after just one or two sentences. Only by controlling your mentality and communicating with your children in a calm tone can you avoid talking back.

Second, think of a wise way to communicate with your children.

If you don’t think of a good solution for the time being, you can leave the emotional issue aside. After parents have adjusted their mentality and thought of a clever solution, they can communicate with their children again. Only by guiding children to learn problem-solving skills in the troubles they encounter can they grow.

Become a high-level parent, you can!

Thinking that children are growing every day, parents need to patiently observe, constantly improve their knowledge, and become high-level educators. Some parents will find it difficult! However, when you see your child really progressing and becoming a better person, you will feel that it is really worth it!

all love their children and want them to become talented! Believe in yourself and you will definitely become an excellent, high-level parent! come on!