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After my son saw it, he was very happy and asked Mr. Hu to make it for him every day!
Many netizens left messages saying, "I envy having such a father." One of them praised him and wrote: "The childhood healed by his father's love will always accompany him as he grows up."
The British writer Herbert once Said: "A good father is better than 100 principals." It can be seen that father plays an important role in the growth and education of his children.
Survey research shows that if a child grows up in an environment full of father's love, a safe island will be formed in his heart, and his life will be as sweet as honey. However, if a child is not loved, his heart will be like a dry desert. It is difficult to achieve happiness.
A child who is pampered by his father is like wearing hard armor and has a strong sense of protection, so he can overcome obstacles and ride the wind and waves on the road of life!
: A child who is pampered by his father will be sweet all his life
Some time ago, Jay Chou was on the hot search again. He shared the castle he built for his daughter on social platforms, and it was liked by tens of thousands of netizens. The photo shows a pink castle with cartoon murals of various shapes on the walls.
The afterglow of the setting sun passes through the glass windows, turning the castle into warm golden powder. The picture is beautiful and dreamy, just like a fairy tale.
Netizens were moved to tears by this scene: "This is turning your daughter into a princess." "Sure enough, every father is a maniac about doting on girls."
I really like a passage on the Internet: Dad's pampering , is the white moonlight in a child's life, neither slow nor slow, but can warm a lifetime.
Kunling once told such an incident in a variety show: Once, her daughter was doing outdoor extended training and accidentally fell and injured her, but she gritted her teeth and got up and insisted on finishing the competition.
Kunling asked her daughter why you didn’t cry or quit the game. The daughter smiled and said: "Dad told me not to give up easily when encountering difficulties, just grit your teeth and get through it."
The famous psychologist Gerdi said: "The presence of a father is a unique existence, which is very important for cultivating children. There is a special power. "This power can give them courage and hope.
Even if the road ahead is full of thorns, they can face it with a smile, because they know that their father will support them!
Beijing Winter Olympics champion Xu Mengtao told the story of herself and her father in participating in "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves".
In 1990, Xu Mengtao was born in a not-so-rich family in Anshan, Liaoning Province. Her father did not delay Xu Mengtao's education because of the family's financial difficulties.
When he was four years old, his father sent Xu Mengtao to the gymnastics team. Practicing gymnastics was a very hard task. Every day in school, she did stretching , leg openings, and practiced various movements repeatedly.
After practicing every day, the father found a broken blanket at home and helped his daughter continue practicing at home. In this way, accompanied by her father, 12-year-old Xu Mengtao shined at the Liaoning Provincial Games. She won three gold medals, two silver medals and one bronze medal by herself.
However, Xu Mengtao was growing taller during adolescence. At this time, her height had reached 1.6 meters, which meant that she was no longer suitable for gymnastics.
At this time, a ski instructor saw her and saw that her body flexibility and coordination were very good, so he suggested that she engage in skiing. Xu Mengtao didn't know what freestyle skiing was at the time. When she saw the video for the first time, she was frightened by the height.
flew directly from the slope into the air to perform tricks. There was no protection below, only thick snow. If the landing was unstable, he would fall far away. Xu Mengtao wanted to retreat.
At this time, her father saw her worry and told her: "Don't be afraid, Dad is always by your side." It was her father's love that allowed Xu Mengtao to overcome her fear and finally stand on the highest podium.
American psychologists have found that a person's achievements depend 20% on his hard work and 80% on his father's teachings. The effect of the same sentence spoken by a father on the child will be 50 times that of the mother.
For children, their father's love is their strength on the way forward. Enough fatherly love can give children the confidence to resolve difficulties in life, thereby breaking through themselves and achieving success.
: How pitiful are children who lack father’s love?
I have a cousin who has lacked father's love since she was a child. Until now, she has never talked about her father to anyone, nor has she watched any movies or TV series about her father.
Not only that, the lack of father's love made her completely lost in her own emotional world. My cousin wanted to get a sense of security like a father from her boyfriend several times, but she met scumbags again and again and became a scumbag.
Her first boyfriend used her as a "cash machine", her second boyfriend turned her into a mistress, and her third boyfriend disappeared after she became pregnant.
In the end, my cousin became more and more unrestrained emotionally, and she became less and less trusting of men, and she has not gotten married until now.
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The story of my cousin reminds me of the heroine Songzi in the movie "The Life of the Disliked Songzi". She was ignored by her father since she was a child, and she could only keep trying to please her father for attention.
After becoming an adult, she took this please-pleaser personality to the extreme. In every intimate relationship, she had to endure hardships and compromises, but she ended up with bruises all over her body.
Her last words, "I'm sorry for being a human being," made countless netizens burst into tears.
Psychologists from Germany and Japan have concluded that children who lack father's love for a long time will suffer from "father's love deficiency syndrome": girls will have emotional difficulties throughout their lives, and boys will lack masculinity.
On a certain blog, I heard a blogger share his experience:
His parents divorced when he was young, and he lived with his mother. Due to the serious lack of father's love, he became very sensitive and timid, and even his classmates called him "pussy" ".
He always likes to be alone, can't do heavy work, doesn't like playing football, and will cry when something happens. Even now that he has grown up, he still dares not sleep alone. Whenever he encounters any difficulties, he has to ask his mother to help him solve them.
Because of the lack of fatherly love, he lost the most important quality of men: masculinity.
Some studies have shown that mothers have more influence on their children's zhihu, while fathers play an extremely important role in their children's courage. Only when the father gives his child enough love can the child grow up comprehensively and actively!
If there is a lack of father's love, whether it is a son or a daughter, there will be a deep scar left in his life that needs to be healed alone.
: How does a father give his children qualified favor?
Psychologist Fromm once said: "A father is the one who educates his children and points out the way to the world." So, how should a father give his children qualified favor? How to make children live happier lives?
Around us, although many fathers spend time with their children, the effect of companionship is average. This may be because the father is only around the child, but the quality of his time with the child is not high.
Specifically, fathers can use the method of "behavioral participation" to devote themselves wholeheartedly to their children. Dad’s behavioral participation means that Dad does some meaningful things with them during the companionship process.
For example, playing weird games with your children, fathers can use their imaginations to design some fun, interesting and engaging games, and laugh with their children.
As we all know, actor Deng Chao is a typical "child slave". The two children in the family like to play with their father. Why is this?
The answer lies in a scene that Sun Li once complained about: Deng Chao was at home and liked to play the real-life version of Plants vs. Zombies with his children, often shaking the house. Deng Chao would hang a footbath bucket on his head, find all the stuffed toys in the house, and let the children throw them at him. It was crazy and funny, and the children would often scream with joy.
Dad’s active participation and companionship will make the parent-child relationship closer, help the child to explore and practice more boldly, and make the baby’s childhood memory better.
For children, love is companionship. As for companionship, the most important thing is time. Most of the time, fathers have little time to accompany their children due to work reasons. Therefore, how to balance work and life has become the primary ability for fathers to master.
There are two aspects to balancing work and life. One is time control, and the other is improving the efficiency of spending time with children. The former depends on work arrangements, but the reality is that in today's society, work pressure is already very high, and it is really difficult to have extra time with children.
Then, what fathers should do is to improve the quality of parent-child companionship within the limited time. For example, fathers should set aside a fixed time every day to create exclusive father time for their children. This time should be at least half an hour a day; if they are busier, they can arrange a fixed time every week, at least 1 hour each time. accompany.
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Finally, pampering does not mean doting.
Japanese educator Masami Sasaki once gave an accurate definition of the word "pampering": "Pampering means that parents put their energy and time on their children appropriately according to their wishes. .”
Real love is to respect the child. When the child wants to listen, the father listens carefully; when the child wants to be alone, the father can step back appropriately and give him independent thinking space.
Education experts generally agree that one minute spent with a child's father between the ages of 0 and 6 is worth a year with his or her parents later on. So, please don't say such stupid things as "the child is still young, it doesn't matter whoever accompanies him", okay?
hopes that every child can have the love of his father! #parenting#
