At the end of March 2020, in Kunming Children's Hospital, a woman holding a child sat in front of the doctor.
She spoke cautiously: "Doctor, what's wrong with my baby?"
The doctor replied: "Hemiplegia on the right side, cerebellar atrophy."
Looking over carefully, the child in the woman's arms was slumped with the right side of his body. , like a lifeless rag doll.
Although she had expected it, these eight words still hit the woman's heart like a bolt from the blue, and she couldn't help but shed tears from the corners of her eyes.
The doctor asked again: "I heard that your child was delivered naturally?"
The woman nodded.
The doctor sighed and said helplessly: "You are harming your child!"
Who is the woman? Why did the doctor say that vaginal delivery harmed her baby? Today, have women given up on their hemiplegic children?
"Husband refuses caesarean section "
Liu Hongqiong was born on July 21, 1986, and lives in a small village in Qujing, Yunnan.
Liu Hongqiong did not have much education. She went out to work before she reached adulthood. She married her ex-husband when she was twenty-three.
Marriage is not like love. Liu Hongqiong and her ex-husband always had fierce quarrels after marriage. The two chose to divorce peacefully after five years of marriage.
Liu Hongqiong and her ex-husband have no children, and people around her have been urging her to remarry. Liu Hongqiong always says with a smile: Marriage still depends on fate.
During the Spring Festival of 2016, thirty-year-old Liu Hongqiong met divorced Qian Haijun under the introduction of a fellow villager.
Qian Haijun is two years older than Liu Hongqiong and has no children.
The two got along very well and quickly established a relationship. On April 18, 2017, they received their marriage certificate in the presence of relatives and friends.
After getting married, Liu Hongqiong and Qian Haijun worked in other places together and lived a happy life.
In June 2018, Liu Hongqiong found that her menstruation was delayed for a long time.
had a vague guess in his mind, but Liu Hongqiong went to the hospital for a detailed examination first.
and other inspection reports came out, showing that Liu Hongqiong was indeed pregnant with a new life in her belly.
Qian Haijun was very happy when he learned the news, and the two returned to his hometown Qujing together from other places.
But during his stay in Qujing, Liu Hongqiong discovered that he was bleeding.
Both husband and wife were looking forward to their unborn child. Because they were afraid that the child would miscarry, Qian Haijun took Liu Hongqiong to stay in the hospital for miscarriage.
Liu Hongqiong’s pregnancy was a difficult journey. During her ten-month pregnancy, she was hospitalized many times for miscarriage.
Fortunately, with the persistence of the couple, the child in the belly was finally kept.
In early March 2019, when she was about to give birth, Liu Hongqiong began to be hospitalized to prepare for delivery.
html On the evening of March 6, Liu Hongqiong’s amniotic water broke and she was rushed to the delivery room.During the operation, Liu Hongqiong seemed to have walked out of the gate of hell. She exerted force on her lower limbs, but the child could not come out.
Liu Hongqiong shouted in pain on the delivery bed: "Help! It hurts me so much! I can't give birth!"
When the doctor saw that the fetus in Liu Hongqiong's belly was too big, he hurriedly found Qian Haijun outside the delivery room.
The doctor told Qian Haijun: "The mother's reaction was too great, and the fetus was too strong, so the hospital recommended a caesarean section."
Qian Haijun was stunned. He heard his wife's painful cries in the delivery room and was soaked in cold sweat. His forehead.
Qian Haijun opened his mouth, not knowing what to say.
The doctor handed the paper agreeing to the caesarean section into Qian Haijun's hand. Qian Haijun held the pen and his hand was trembling.
His eyes were so nervous that he could not see clearly, and the pen tip accidentally made a shaking scratch on the paper.
The doctor urged Qian Haijun to decide earlier so that pregnant women would suffer less.
At this moment, the words of some elderly people in the village suddenly appeared in Qian Haijun's mind.
"Children born naturally are smarter, and pregnant women recover quickly after delivery. They can be discharged from the hospital in a few days and spend less money."
Qian Haijun gritted his teeth. For the sake of his wife and children, he returned the pen to the doctor. .
Qian Haijun refused: "Don't have a caesarean section, just give birth naturally!"
The doctor sighed and said, "Decided? The hospital still believes that caesarean section is better for pregnant women and fetuses."
Qian Haijun did not hesitate. , nodded firmly towards the doctor.
"The beginning of the disease"
In the early morning of March 6, after several hours of hard work by medical staff and Liu Hongqiong, she finally gave birth to a boy weighing 9.2 pounds.
Qian Haijun named his child "Qian Luting".
At this time, Liu Hongqiong was exhausted and exhausted, but she still asked the doctor to hold the child to her.
Liu Hongqiong's consciousness was already a little blurry, but she found that the child in front of her had a head that looked much bigger than a normal child!
The newborn baby's body was still a little red. Liu Hongqiong tried his best to reach out and touch the baby's wrinkled head.
She found that the child's head was like a balloon filled with water, and it actually left a dent when she touched it!
Liu Hongqiong was so anxious that she held the doctor's hand: "Doctor, what's going on? Is there something wrong with my child's head?"
The doctor explained: "This is caused by the child being squeezed by the birth canal during normal delivery. He There is some congestion in the brain, which will be slowly absorbed later."
After receiving the doctor's explanation, Liu Hongqiong finally calmed down, and she finally rested peacefully on the hospital bed.
On March 10, 2019, Liu Hongqiong returned to her hometown with her husband and their children after recovering.
Because Qian Luting was born bigger than other babies, people in the village kept boasting about Qian Luting when they saw him.
They said that Lao Qian’s family was lucky because his wife gave birth to such a good fat boy.
Qian Haijun was very proud, but Liu Hongqiong was always a little worried when facing everyone's praise.
She touched Qian Luting's big head every day, hoping that her son's head would return to normal soon.
Seeing that the congestion continued for a day, Liu Hongqiong's panic became deeper and deeper.
She always reflected on herself: "Would it have prevented the congestion if I asked for a caesarean section?" "This won't cause any sequelae to the child, right?"
After worrying for more than a month, Qian Luting's head finally slowly calmed down. After it subsided, he was no different from other children.
Liu Hongqiong’s hanging heart was finally relieved and relieved.
Because the expenses increased after giving birth to a child, Qian Haijun planned to go to other places to work as soon as possible.
At the end of April 2019, Qian Haijun brought Liu Hongqiong and Qian Luting from his hometown to Jiangsu.
They rented a rental house of more than ten square meters. Liu Hongqiong took care of the children at home, while her husband Qian Haijun worked in the factory.
Qian Luting, who is more than one month old, has been crying since arriving in Jiangsu, and also developed symptoms such as vomiting and fever.
At first, the couple thought it was just the child being acclimatized, but after several days, Qian Luting did not get better.
Liu Hongqiong panicked. Seeing her child's uncomfortable appearance, she was too anxious to eat.
Later, Liu Hongqiong took the child to a local hospital, and then to a well-known children's hospital in Shanghai.
Liu Hongqiong called a specialist. After the examination, the doctor told Liu Hongqiong that Qian Luting was suffering from adenovirus .
And the doctor told Liu Hongqiong that Qian Luting's condition was very serious and he needed to be hospitalized immediately.
Liu Hongqiong panicked. She immediately called her husband, who was still working in Jiangsu Province, and asked Qian Haijun to come to Shanghai quickly.
Later, under the arrangement of the hospital, Liu Hongqiong took her child and began hospitalization in Shanghai.
The hospital spends money like water. In order to treat Qian Luting, Liu Hongqiong and his wife spent 80,000 yuan at once.
After being hospitalized for 18 days, Qian Luting finally recovered and was discharged.
Although the child spent most of their savings, the couple finally breathed a sigh of relief when they saw that the child was in good health.
But what Liu Hongqiong and his wife did not expect was that this hospitalization was just the beginning of the child's illness.
“Natural childbirth leads to many disasters for children”
After the child was discharged from the hospital, Liu Hongqiong took the child back to his hometown of Yunnan, while her husband Qian Haijun worked alone in other places.
When Liu Hongqiong takes care of her children in her hometown, she also makes some wool crafts and sells them online.
Although the family lives a tight life, the atmosphere is very harmonious.
When Qian Luting was nine months old, he learned to crawl. When he was almost one year old, he slowly learned to stand up and walk.
In order to help Qian Luting learn to walk, Liu Hongqiong bought him a walker .
But while he was learning to walk, Liu Hongqiong discovered that his son's right side was not very flexible.
In the walker, Qian Luting's right leg always seemed to have no strength, unable to stand up and dragging around.
And Qian Luting's right hand couldn't grasp anything, and it was always hanging at his side.
Liu Hongqiong was worried about her son's condition at first. She called her husband to tell her, but Qian Haijun told her to relax.
Qian Haijun said, maybe our children are left-handed, and left-handers are smarter.
As the days passed, Qian Luting's condition on the right side of his body did not improve.
Liu Hongqiong was frightened when she thought of her son's head when he was just born and how he was hospitalized more than a month ago.
She rushed to Kunming from her hometown with Qian Luting and had a detailed examination at Kunming Children's Hospital.
After examination by a doctor, Qian Luting was diagnosed with cerebellar atrophy and right hemiplegia!
The doctor asked Liu Hongqiong: "Was the child born by caesarean section?"
Liu Hongqiong answered truthfully: "It was a natural birth and weighed 9.2 pounds."
The doctor shook his head sadly when he heard this answer: "The birth canal is crowded during natural delivery. It pressed on the child's head, causing bleeding and compressing the nerves."
"Now that the congestion in the brain has dried up, there is no way to operate on the child. We can only treat the child through rehabilitation training."
The doctor's words were like a thunderbolt from the blue. Liu Hongqiong, the sequelae she worried about after giving birth actually came true.
In the hospital, Liu Hongqiong cried all day long, feeling guilty surrounding her body.
"If I had insisted on a caesarean section, wouldn't the child be fine?"
But no amount of regret could change Qian Luting's current situation. Liu Hongqiong could only wipe away his tears and face reality.
"On the road to recovery"
Liu Hongqiong followed the doctor's instructions and took her child to the hospital for rehabilitation treatment.
The cost of recovery is very high, and Liu Hongqiong's family is not in Kunming, so he rented a house near the hospital for the treatment of his child.
The family's money quickly ran out, and Liu Hongqiong had to start borrowing money from relatives and friends.
But two months later, Liu Hongqiong had spent all the borrowed money.
Moreover, rehabilitation training is a long-term activity, and two months of treatment had no effect on Qian Luting.
The right side of his body is still inflexible, and at more than a year old, Qian Luting is still unable to speak clearly. He can only pronounce simple words.
Qian Luting couldn't walk, so he needed Liu Hongqiong to hold him wherever he went.
Liu Hongqiong’s family conditions cannot support Qian Luting’s continued treatment.
Seeing that the family was about to reach a dead end, Liu Hongqiong's cousin called and told Liu Hongqiong that there was a rehabilitation center in his hometown of Qujing.
It's close to home and the rehabilitation center has subsidies, so the cost is less.
seemed to have grasped a life-saving straw. In June 2020, Liu Hongqiong took Qian Luting back to Qujing.
He doesn’t know how long it will take before he can see hope on the road to recovery, but Liu Hongqiong doesn’t want to give up.
At 6:30 in the morning, Liu Hongqiong would get up to make breakfast, and then massage the right side of the child's body for an hour. After washing and eating,
came to the rehabilitation center for exercise at 8:30 in the morning.
The day's exercise ended at five o'clock in the afternoon, and Liu Hongqiong went home to prepare dinner.
took the child to practice walking in the open space outside the house after dinner, and gave the child an hour of massage before going to bed.
After his son Qian Luting falls asleep, Liu Hongqiong will start to tidy up the room and wash the clothes.
Liu Hongqiong has no days off and no time for herself. She devotes herself wholeheartedly to her children.
She took her son to various rehabilitation treatment rooms every day. Fortunately, after a long period of treatment, Qian Luting's condition gradually improved.
Liu Hongqiong finally felt a little comfort in his heart.
After Qian Luting spent 80,000 yuan in hospital, Qian Haijun has been working outside and has not returned to his hometown in Qujing for almost two years.
Liu Hongqiong takes care of her son's daily life every day, but she has no income.
The family of three relies on Qian Haijun's original salary of 4,000 yuan and assistance from relatives.
However, due to factory adjustments, Qian Haijun's factory work was reduced. He was transferred to another position and his monthly salary was reduced to 2,000 yuan.
Life for the family of three has become even tighter, and they can hardly afford Qian Luting's rehabilitation treatment fees.
Someone advised Liu Hongqiong that if life was so difficult, he should not let his child undergo rehabilitation first.
But Liu Hongqiong insisted: "Even if I don't eat or drink, I will not give up the child's rehabilitation treatment."
Because of the decision to give birth naturally, Liu Hongqiong has always felt guilty about the child.
Her only dream now is to continue the rehabilitation training of her children.
"Follow the doctor's advice"
There is a bright future in another village. After Qian Luting's incident was reported, some charity channels organized donations for Qian Luting.
With the help of kind-hearted people, Liu Hongqiong no longer has to worry about the cost of Qian Luting's recovery.
Although life is still tight, Liu Hongqiong is full of hope for the future.
Now, after a long period of rehabilitation training, Qian Luting's condition has improved greatly.
His right hand can grasp some relatively light things. Although he cannot lift his right foot high when walking, he no longer drags his feet as before.
Liu Hongqiong is very grateful for her child's current situation. Her eyes are firm. No matter how difficult the future is, she will insist on her child's recovery!
Because of their ignorant understanding at the time, Liu Hongqiong’s family ignored the hospital’s advice and chose a natural delivery.
In daily life, many people believe their own fallacies and refute doctors.
The doctor’s advice will not harm anyone. I hope everyone can follow the doctor’s advice and give themselves and their families a healthy body!
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