The college entrance examination has come to an end, and the results have begun to be staged. Whether you are happy or sad is related to the scores. Even so, I still hope that parents can do one thing with their children, whether you have a boy or a girl. The college entrance exa

The college entrance examination has come to an end, and the results have begun to be staged. Joy or sorrow is all related to the scores. Even so, I still hope that parents can do one thing with their children, whether you have a boy or a girl.

The college entrance examination is a separation

Psychologists believe that weaning is the first separation between mother and baby, which is grand and worthy of celebration. The college entrance examination is actually a separation, pointing to growth.

After the college entrance examination, children will enter institutions of higher learning. Almost without exception, they will choose to leave their hometown and go to big cities to study. Just like my hometown in Zhejiang, I studied in Shenyang and went home once a semester, which is in sharp contrast to the college entrance examination home once a week.

After the college entrance examination results were released, my mother hugged me and cried, saying she was reluctant to let me go. At that moment, I had mixed emotions. I knew I was leaving home. I was happy and sad. Thinking about the future, I was still a little scared to walk on my own.

Whether children do well in the exam or do poorly in the exam, they will all face this farewell. They are about to bid farewell to the age of ignorance, enter a more independent, independent and self-centered youth age, enter the university they have dreamed of for a long time, and have a new life of their own.

I remember my mother told me, After you finished the college entrance examination, my mother felt as if you were married. She was about to leave her parents. From then on, she was all over the world. I missed you. I could only make a phone call, and I had to take advantage of you after class. during break.

It’s hard for my mother to imagine what your life will be like without adults in the future. It's not that I don't worry about you, but that you have never been so far away from home. Mom is so reluctant to let go!

I was facing the college entrance examination together. My mother, who was strong and optimistic, couldn't stand it any longer. She burst into tears. She couldn't eat or sleep well for several days, and she was worried about me all day long.

No matter how many books I have read and how much knowledge I have learned, it is still difficult for me to face such a separation and remain calm, not to mention that I was still a child at that time.

Fortunately, my aunt is more rational and keeps comforting her mother: "Nier has been admitted to a good university. She is promising. You have to be willing to let her go and send her there happily. Don't cry and cry. The child can't bear it either. . This is a good thing, we should be happy!" My aunt accompanied me to choose my major and university, and would comfort me and tell me that mom is just too emotional, after all, she has never been so far away from you.

At that time, I had longing for college, and my pain of separation quickly subsided. It wasn't until I came to college and started a new life that I regretted that I forgot to hug my mother. I really missed her. Everything has to be done by oneself, which is growth and pressure.

Hug your child well

After the college entrance examination, parents please hug your child well. He/she also needs your hug and strength from you.

What parents worry about is nothing more than their children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, and learning is secondary.

But college life is still very colorful. Children not only have to arrange their own lives, but also socialize and make friends. How much living expenses are enough? If a child is wronged outside, can he tell his parents in time? It's unrealistic to go home, so can your parents get there in time?

These problems may not seem big, but when piled together, they become a headache for parents. They don’t know how to talk to their children, and they don’t know how to say goodbye to their children.

But the child is going to school and has grown up, so he should be happy. The two are so entangled that I really don't know what to do.

reminds me of Long Yingtai’s words: The so-called father, daughter and mother are a spiritual practice that gradually moves away.

So, if your child has just finished taking the college entrance examination and is about to enter college life, please give him a big hug, whether it is a boy or a girl.

They are about to leave, and the familiar bedroom has become his "hotel". He will come back once or twice a year to talk to you.

In the past, you thought that your children always made you angry, but now you will find that when you want to find someone to quarrel with, the children are no longer around;

In the past, you thought that your children are always disobedient, but now you will find that you can only say a few words on the phone. , full of care;

In the past, you felt that your children were always hanging in front of you, but now you will find that the vacation time you look forward to throughout the year is always very short.

Psychologist Virginia Satir once said: We need 4 hugs a day to survive, 8 hugs to maintain health, and 12 hugs to grow.

You don’t have to say a lot when hugging, as long as you can feel each other, that’s it. Hugging can reduce stress, satisfy "skin cravings", and increase serotonin to enhance pleasure.

Parents' embrace of their children can make them feel that they are unique and deeply loved by their parents. Even after adulthood, this relationship between self-worth and hugging will still exist in the nervous system and is closely linked to the child's self-esteem and self-love.

Scientists have found that hugging can also promote the release of oxytocin , which in turn causes a empathy feeling inside the brain. A simple hug can give children both receiving and giving. Get the love of your parents and give your parents your own love. In a hug, you can feel that giving and receiving have the same value and warm each other.

When children take the college entrance examination, they may receive happy results or frustrated scores. At this time, parents give their children a big hug, which is the greatest comfort to them.

Conclusion:

No matter whether children do well or not in the college entrance examination, they have less and less time left for their parents. Children who have gone through the college entrance examination will eventually fly to a bigger stage, farther and farther away from you. This is inevitable, not accidental. Please give your child a big hug, let him/her feel your love, and warm him/her in their future growth years.

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