Motherhood is a profession that combines all kinds of praises. As long as you see the word mother, what comes to your mind is selfless, pure, and great love.
However, this may not be the case. No woman is born with the knowledge of how to love her children wisely. Many mothers simply regard giving birth and raising children as love, and the parenting journey is stumbling and miserable.
The impact on children will not be discussed here. First, let’s take a look at the seven types of mothers I have met:
1. King mother
Ting’s mother has a high education, works in a state-owned enterprise, and has a successful career. The conditions are superior in all aspects, and he is top-notch inside and out. At home, she is a standard one. Her husband, children, and her own parents all have to listen to her. Every day, the whole family is waiting for her to give orders.
Ting’s mother looks in good condition and has a charming personality. She also takes care of the family in an orderly manner and is popular outside. As long as she wants to accomplish something, she must work hard to accomplish it.
She regards her children as a continuation of herself. Control a pair of girls to behave in the way she expects, such as learning many skills and attending various training classes. A pair of sons and daughters are also trying their best to be top-notch in all aspects.
Ting’s mother, while enjoying all kinds of compliments about her children from the outside world, also always complains that she is very hardworking. She thinks that her husband comes home an hour late every day because he is hiding outside and being lazy.
In the high-pressure policy used by Ting’s mother, roaring is indispensable. The most common sentence heard by the neighbors: "I am doing it for your own good!"
Once the child resisted, she slapped her and nosebleeds came out instantly.
Logically speaking, like a queen, she should be very happy, but she said her life was miserable.
2. Hands-off shop mother
Doudou’s mother’s parenting theory is: blood is thicker than water, no matter how you raise your child, it is still your own child. In addition, as long as she has money in her hands, her children will be filial to her if they want an inheritance in the future. Economics determines status.
Therefore, children are almost not taken with them, and they only have to pay money.
Doudou’s mother feels that she has worked very hard, making money and raising children. The children are mainly taken care of by the mother-in-law. The reason is that as people get older, they have more time to occupy themselves with, and it is not easy to get Alzheimer's .
She was very satisfied with this arrangement and spoke confidently about her efforts: all the money she earned was spent on Doudou's studies, just to buy a good future. As for companionship, it is completely unnecessary as a consumer product. It is better to study hard when you have companionship.
Logically speaking, she should be very happy to be the shopkeeper, but she said her life was miserable.
3. Wife-type mother
Xiaojun’s mother is a gentle woman, but all she sees are “other people’s children.” My son who is 7 to 8 years old has a rather unruly personality and is out of control. She often fought fiercely with her children. At first, they fought from inside to outside the house. After the fight, they went to her husband to cry. She said something was wrong with the child, and the child said something bad about her mother. Always adjusting such things, my husband's face is so gloomy that it can rain heavily.
She was very distressed and went around looking for people to complain, saying that her son was not compatible with her, that her husband no longer loved her, and that her son was disobedient.
When she returned home and saw her husband’s disappointed eyes and cold look, Xiaojun’s mother was very depressed. Later, I changed my approach, grimacing every day, making the problem as bad as I could, and making myself as miserable as possible.
Xiaojun looked at her for a long time and said: Other people’s mothers are so nice!
It stands to reason that my husband loves me very much, and my child has outstanding advantages in other aspects except for poor grades. She should be very happy, but she says her life is miserable.
4. Social Mothers
Strong mothers have been struggling in society since childhood, and they have seen everything they should see. Although her cultural literacy is not high, she is a beautiful woman. In the eyes of her husband, she is even more like a flower. He drinks and punches and speaks dirty words. He often takes Qiangqiang to various social events, and he doesn't shy away from making dirty jokes one after another.
The most common scene is that people use dirty words to teach strong people to be well-educated, otherwise they will not be able to get a wife in the future.
Qiangqiang has a strong name, but he is very weak. He speaks softly and always sticks out his orchid to refer to when picking up things.
Logically speaking, her husband loves her and her children are smart, so she should be very happy, but she says her life is hard.
5. High-standard mother
This mother is older, and it was her daughter who found me. The daughter said she grew up with her mother’s accusations. If you don't do this well, you don't do that well. Even though she is a mother now, she can't change her mind that she is a terrible person. The old mother accused her words of becoming a "weapon" against her.
Whenever her mother starts to accuse her, she will try her best to prove that her mother's accusation is wrong, and then she will unconditionally meet all her mother's requirements. At the same time, when she accepts blame, she will subconsciously think that it is all her fault.
"It's your fault." This concept has been instilled by my mother since I was a child, and I have been trained to constantly look for my own mistakes and shortcomings.
Not only in the relationship between mother and daughter, but also in marriage and the workplace, she holds the idea that "it's all her own fault" and takes the blame unconditionally. This mother-daughter relationship has almost kidnapped her life, and it continues to this day.
This way of getting along with her gradually eroded her self-confidence and self-worth over the years.
Because she was an only daughter, she did not move out at her mother's request after marriage. The husband who stepped in the door was like a free cook in the family, and they had lived together for several years. Even after having children, the marriage was not saved.
Logically speaking, this old mother should feel happy if she holds on to her daughter for the rest of her life, but she still feels that her life is too miserable.
6. The enemy-killing mother
Rui’s mother gave birth to her child relatively late, and her child is her lifeblood, surrounding her 360 degrees without blind spots.
Rui’s mother takes good care of her children. Everything is subject to your own standards. For example, even if the child is not hungry, she still thinks that it is time for the child to eat and forces the child to eat; she will force the child to wear the clothes she chooses; she will take off her clothes when the child feels hot; it also perfectly explains that there is a kind of coldness. , tell your mother that you feel cold.
Install surveillance everywhere in your home. Every sip of water and every word must be strictly followed according to mother's orders. Not only arrange all the holidays for the children, but even plan the entire life of the children.
Logically speaking, everything has been arranged, and Rui’s mother should feel very happy, but she thinks that the child is too young and her husband cannot arrange it, and she feels that her life is very hard.
7. Rational mother
Mother Dou also loves her children very much, and she respects this little independent individual very much. Although she has no experience as a mother, she always tries to consider issues from her child's world. I know that my child’s growth is irreversible, so I cherish every minute and every second I spend with him. Try your best to translate what you know into your child's language.
can teach children to make decisions and learn not to interfere.
Wait patiently for your child to grow up and take good care of him.
She said that she was very happy and thanked her child, this little angel, for choosing her to be his mother. If a person really has reincarnation, I still want to be his mother.
All mothers in the world are beautiful.
Every mother says she loves her children very much.
But in fact, we have to admit that not all mothers love their children selflessly. This narrow "love" is indeed poisonous to children.
is the status quo and a fact. People live and learn until they are old.
Learn more and you won’t suffer!
original text from the public account: Jing Jing Jing said
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