No one is a sage, how can anyone have no faults? However, as parents, there are always some people who know clearly that it is their fault, but they just can't find the shame to apologize to their children. The reason is that the concept of childcare is imperfect. As a children's quality education institution, Tiantong Education is not only a guide for children's quality education , but also a good helper for parents in raising children. When it comes to issues between parents and children, Tiantong Education takes the initiative to help parents communicate better with their children.
One day, I saw a child sitting glumly by himself. Normally, he likes to be active and active with his friends. So, I walked up to him and asked him why. He said that last night my sister said she wanted to eat fruit, so I went to the kitchen to help her wash the fruit. As a result, when my mother came back from get off work and saw the water scattered everywhere, she couldn't help but scold me, saying that I always play with water and waste water. She obviously didn't even understand the reason before she started scolding me. When I saw a child looking aggrieved like a puppy, I felt distressed but also felt a little inexplicably cute. So, I asked him, have you explained the reason to your mother clearly? He said, I told my father later. Dad said that Mom knew she was wrong and hoped I could forgive her.
Later, the child said something again, which made me underestimate the child's perception. It turns out that they are like a mirror in their hearts. He said, "But I don't think my mother is sincere at all. Why doesn't she come over and apologize to me herself?" Obviously every time I did something wrong, she told me to take the initiative to apologize to others and ask for forgiveness. But she doesn't do that herself. snort! I will never listen to her again!
Later, I told my children that adults also make mistakes, so you must also learn to tolerate them. It must be her fault that your mother didn't come to apologize to you face to face. It means that as an adult, your mother can be confused sometimes~ Adults are not perfect people, and sometimes they say they can't do it, so you have to give her some time. . Maybe she is preparing to apologize to you now, and she will apologize to you when she comes down to pick you up. Don't be unhappy, go and play with your friends.
In the afternoon, after the child’s mother came over, I communicated with his mother about the situation. My mother herself grew up in this situation. Parents have always been relatively authoritative figures. Even if they do something wrong, they rarely lose face and apologize. I also know that the situation is different now, and I need to maintain a relationship with my children as both teachers and friends.
Finally, with the help of the teacher, the mother took the initiative to mention what happened last night to her child, apologized to her child and asked him to forgive her for being reckless. Maybe many parents think this is a trivial matter and there is no need to make such a fuss. In fact, this is not a trivial matter for children's education, but a very important matter.
First of all, if the mother does not take the initiative to apologize, it will cause psychological distortion in the child. If it is not relieved in time, it will always be blocked in the child's heart. Over time, it may explode one day and in what form. . Secondly, the education children receive is different from the treatment they face, which will make them scorn education. In the process of communication between teachers and children, the children have already shown such signs. Third, children will have a sense of distrust in adults. If adults don’t do what they say, will children still believe you? Your children won’t believe anything you say from now on. Fourth, children will imitate the behavior of adults. In childhood, adults are everything in the child's world. In many cases, children's behavior is the projection of their parents' behavior. So as a parent, you must pay attention to your words and deeds.
On the road to children's education, parents are also parents for the first time. Many parenting concepts have not been learned before the children come first. After the children are born, parents are busy with work and have no time to recharge themselves. Tiantong Meiyu has focused on children's quality education for 18 years and has rich experience in children's education. Everything about children is not a trivial matter. Tiantong Meiyu will be with you on the road of parenting.
