The Japanese novelist Kotaro Isaka once said, “It’s terrible to think that being a parent doesn’t have to pass an exam.”
Indeed, parents don’t need to pass exams, but after becoming a parent , Every day is an exam. Let's count the various exams that parents need to go through in the short six years from the birth of the child to elementary school.
The first big exam: dressing and eating
With the birth of the child, the two-person world has become a family of three. In some homes, there are elderly people to help, and people and things are increasing rapidly. , The family ushered in a major renovation. The living room has changed from a leisure area to a baby’s activity room. There are crawling mats and anti-collision corners everywhere. The storage boxes on the balcony are stacked one by one. The appearance of children has completely changed our lives.
What do children eat?
As the saying goes, the people rely on food, and the four-legged gold swallowing beasts at home are naturally no exception. The moment I was born, my mouth was looking for food, I gnawed my hands when I didn't eat, I was happy, and I cried when I was hungry, making the whole family uneasy. What should children eat?
The World Health Organization recommends that infants be exclusively breastfed for the first 6 months, supplemented with adequate and safe food supplements after 6 months, and continue breastfeeding for 2 years or more.
The suggestion is simple, but it is more difficult to implement than Tang Seng Xitian. Breastfeeding, the child sleeps while eating, is it not enough to eat? The supplementary food is added, rice noodles, meat and vegetable puree, which children obviously like to eat, but the old people say that they have no taste and must add salt and soy sauce. How much food is enough for the child, will he support it, will he be hungry?
When a mother holds her baby in one hand and acts as a cow, she holds a popular science book in the other to do work for her family. She should also take some precious time to care about her father. The question of eating has not yet been completely understood. New The problem comes again.
What does the child wear?
There is a cold called "Mom/grandma/grandma thinks you are cold", and the child is dressed like a doll, layer after layer. How to judge the suitability of the child's clothes? A child who can't speak should touch the back of his neck. If it is cold, it means it is not cold. Talking children are easy, just ask him if he is cold.
About what the child wears, there are more abundant test content, whether to wear open crotch pants, diapers, and old clothes from the ancestors? Open crotch pants are not hygienic. There are more convenient diapers. Why use traditional diapers? The ancestral clothes are too old and the hygiene problem is also worrying. My answer is all NO.
I just listed a few small questions. Regarding children’s clothes and meals, new problems arise every day. Mothers should not only pay attention to what the child eats, but also what the child pulls. Once in and out, a closed loop is perfectly formed to judge the child's daily nutritional intake and absorption.
3 years old is the watershed for children, because 3 years old can go to kindergarten, for mothers, new exam questions come again.
The second big exam: War in kindergarten
Which kindergarten to choose? Public kindergartens have high barriers to affordable prices, and private kindergartens have a large price gap between teachers. How to choose bilingual foreign teachers?
Kindergarten children have to go to school for 3 years. The distance, the kindergarten's software and hardware conditions, and teaching philosophy are all factors to be considered. Choosing a kindergarten is the same as looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. There is no one that is 100% satisfied. You can only determine the conditions that you value most first, and then pay attention to screening to choose the better one.
It's easy to entangle the kindergarten, which is only the first step in the long march. When a child arrives in kindergarten, he may have separation anxiety and become uncomfortable with the kindergarten life. Especially in the first year of kindergarten, the child will get sick, cry and make trouble. All of these need to be dealt with one by one.
Reduce children's pointsDeparture anxiety, mothers have to make preparations before their children enter the kindergarten. For example, if you take your children to visit the kindergarten in advance, if the kindergarten has parent-child classes or half-day classes, you can let the children participate in a gradual adaptation.
Cultivate children's self-care ability at home, so that children can drink water, eat by themselves, and go to the toilet by themselves. The child’s ability to take care of himself has improved. Once he goes to kindergarten, he can take care of himself. Parents don’t have to worry about the child not having enough food. Secondly, the more the child can do on his own, the more confident the child will be able to cope with more things easily.
The third big exam: children's learning
Now many educational documents say that kindergartens should be de-primary, so that children have a happy childhood. Of course it is good to go to primary school, but this does not mean that it is enough for the child to be stupid every day before the age of 6. The child needs to learn, but it does not need to learn.
Some parents will say, I let the child have a happy childhood, let him play in mud and water, and do whatever he wants. If so, I can only say that children's happiness can only be before the age of 6.
When he went to elementary school, he found that he could only play in the mud. It was uncomfortable to do it in the classroom for ten minutes. The words in the book were like ghost paintings, and he couldn't hold a pen in his hand, let alone any talent. And my classmates, there are great swimmers who can swim in a variety of styles, James Lucie who speaks English as his mother tongue, and a literacy expert who can read independently. Ask for the shadow area in the children's heart at this time.
What should children learn? Interest is the best teacher, and habits are also the best teacher. Some children have a wide range of interests and are willing to learn anything. If they can't learn it for a month, they won't learn it. If they change another one, they will naturally get nothing. If this is the case, then my mother failed the exam.
It is not important what a child likes to learn, it is important to stick to it and form a habit. In the process of children's learning, we must respect children's interests and teach them how to persist. Any discipline is new and fun at first contact. At this time, the so-called sex is just a whim of curiosity. After a period of time, it will be a little boring. At this time, it is necessary for the mother to guide the child to persevere. Only when a certain stage of persistence is achieved, the child may have real interest.
In this big test, what mothers must do is not to teach their children professional knowledge, but to guide them to establish good habits and find the motivation to keep them learning. Let the children experience the power of persistence in this process, rather than the ease of giving up.
I often think, how should we educate our children so that we can educate our children well while not obliterating their nature? It is difficult to have a standard answer to this question. We cannot apply the standard answer to children, because the standard is formulated on the premise of stifling individuality.
Since I became a mother, I have been with entanglement. I always want to give my child the best. I think back to the past entanglement because I want to be the best, how much milk and water the child eats and how long does it sleep? Why Must meet certain standards? Standards can be used as reference, but they are not imperial edicts. Every child is different, what he likes and what he yearns for is different. It is the duty of every mother to grow up with him in a way suitable for the child.
