I got angry this morning and scolded my son. You know, I haven’t emotionally expressed my true feelings in front of him for a long time.
The cause of the incident is this: the child's uncle came back from other places and was going to take the child's cousin to experience life in another place. The child was not happy and complained wildly that his uncle was a control freak.
I understand the real reason behind his complaint, which is that his uncle's behavior directly ruined his plan to play with his cousin during the holidays.
Just complain if he complains, I just listen, but I can’t hold myself steady, so I answer: "That’s not because your uncle is worried about you two cousins playing games." As soon as these words came out, I realized that I I'm wrong. How can I make random guesses about my child's uncle's behavior? Isn't this a disguised form of reinforcement to make the child have a problem with his uncle?
When my child gets better, I need to work through it step by step.
"I just said, I can't go to my grandma's house. None of them think highly of me," the child said to me. "Oh, how many times have I explained to you, but they are like that because they don't understand, just like your parents didn't understand you at the beginning." I got a little angry and responded to my son again.
After half a sentence, my son turned around and went back to his room. This was a failed communication. I didn't calm down. After my son went back to his room, I started to blame myself.
I am thinking, how to ease the relationship between mother and child? I can't please you. I was struggling, but I heard my son whistling and rummaging through things in the living room. I was pleasantly surprised. My son was no longer overly entangled with other people's words or bad emotions.
Insights: Communicate with your children, listen more and speak less, and just respond appropriately. When your children vent their negative emotions, I need to be able to catch them and be able to stabilize them. The problems our children have are caused by us step by step. Similarly, for our children to get better, we also need to slowly work through them step by step.
