Hello everyone, I am Zhang Nvyu. Combining my own parenting experience and practical experience, I will share with you how to avoid pitfalls on the road to parenting.
was told by the teacher today that his 5-year-old son had a conflict with other children.
After communicating with my child, I learned that it was just a small friction, but my son was the one being beaten, and he stood still and let the other person hit him, without even thinking about fighting back or resisting.
When I heard this, I became angry. I scolded my son directly, "You are stupid, why do you stand and let others hit you?"
After my son heard my scolding, he cried aggrievedly. Hearing my son's cry, my heart suddenly softened.
After some consolation, my son's mood finally stabilized, and then he slowly learned the reason. My son told me, "Mom, didn't you say that it's wrong to hit someone? And there was a teacher on the side, and the teacher saw the other person. If you hit someone, you will criticize him. "
I was silent when I heard this, and then I thought about it and asked, "What if someone hits you if the teacher is not around?" My son listened to my question, but He fell silent, obviously not knowing how to deal with it.
I felt very uncomfortable when I saw my son's reaction, but I also knew Yiyi. Simply scolding your son for not being promising, or asking him to fight back, etc., may not solve the problem.
My son’s reaction made me think deeply. Why is my son like this? When did 's son start to get beaten up, but he didn't dare to fight back and had no intention of resisting at all?
Conflicts between children are very common, but few children will stand and let the other party hit them without fighting back. After my reflection, maybe the reason why my son is like this may be inseparable from the way I educate my son. now shares my summary as follows. I hope all parents can encourage me together.
In order to protect children, teach them to give in blindly. First of all, I have always been positive in educating my children. Tell your son that fighting is wrong. Don't bully children, be courteous and abide by the rules. When my children have conflicts with other furry children and are ready to take action, I will stop them.
Maybe many parents do the same thing when facing conflicts with their children. They will teach their children not to fight. When they see their children hitting others, they will stop them from hitting without asking the reason. In daily life, it is a good thing to teach children to be polite, follow the rules, and be humble. However, as parents, we may sometimes lose our principles and bottom line.
When children are playing, they are cut in line by others, but they still choose to be humble; when children have conflicts with other children, even if it is the other person's fault, and the children want to resist, parents will immediately stop them, even if they see If other children hit their own children, they will immediately stop their own children from hitting others and fight with each other. Although this kind of move is also for the sake of the children, it can avoid further expansion of the situation.
Even if our child is beaten, as parents, we may just subjectively ask the other party to apologize, and subjectively let the child accept and forgive the other party, without even considering whether the child approves such a reconciliation method.
You must know that what parents do may be in the children's hearts, but it is not what they want. In the end, the children can only cry silently and sadly in the arms of their parents.
Over time, children may not dare to resist or fight back when they are bullied, beaten or scolded.
Conflicts between children of children are generally small fights. If parents intervene too early, the children will lose an opportunity to independently resolve conflicts and solve problems in getting along with others.
Moreover, when parents force their children to accept each other's apology, and teach and force their children to forgive each other, they actually deprive the children of their wishes and fail to take into account the children's thoughts.
reflects on the education of children in the past few years. It may be that provides more positive education to children, but ignores the education of children facing some negative problems. does not teach children how to deal with this aspect. After my reflection, I gained some new understanding and experience about children's education.
Professor Li Meijin of China Public Security University shared at a forum that her granddaughter was bullied by a little boy at school. Professor Li Meijin taught her granddaughter: "If someone bullies you again next time, you should fight back and hit him hard to let him know how powerful he is, so that he will not dare to bully you again in the future."
When a child is beaten and scolded When children are bullied, taught to fight back
We all know that hitting and fighting is wrong, but when children face bullying, being bullied, or being beaten and scolded, it is also very important to teach children to learn to resist. Otherwise, the child will always bear it passively, and the other party will mistakenly think that he is easy to bully, and he may bully him even more in the future.
Conflicts between children are actually minor fights. Therefore, we do not need to take children’s fights too seriously.
Generally speaking, fighting between children will not cause much problems . Therefore, when educating children, it is necessary to teach them to learn to fight back and fight with each other.
In this way, you can let the other party know that you are not easy to bully. Even if you lose, you may only suffer a little harm. But if experiences this counterattack, it will make the other party realize that he is not easy to bully, and it will also make the child more brave and bloody, which may prevent the child from being harmed and bullied in the future.
In addition, educates children to fight back when faced with bullying. They do not necessarily have to fight back. They can also choose to yell at the other party and shout out their own momentum . This will undoubtedly increase one's own aura, may also scare off the other party, and may also attract the teacher's attention, allowing the teacher to intervene in time, thereby better preventing the child from being harmed.
Teach children basic fighting skills
After knowing that their children have been beaten, parents directly teach their children to fight back. This is undoubtedly very unrealistic. If the children can really fight back, they may not be bullied or ask their parents for help. Cried and complained.
In fact, before we let the child fight back, it is more important to enhance the child's body and make the child stronger. In addition, is also needed to teach children some basic fighting skills and knowledge . In this way, children can better protect themselves and fight back against the opponent, without making the child attack too hard and hurt the opponent's vital parts.
teaches children how to protect themselves.
teaches children how to fight back. Learning to fight back against the other party is only one aspect of protecting yourself.
You must know that children cannot fight back at any time. When facing an opponent who is much taller and more powerful than themselves, the power disparity is too great at this time. If the child is still allowed to fight back forcefully, or resist, to show his strength Courage may end up hurting the child even more.
Actually, at this time we still need to teach children to assess the situation. If the power gap is too great, then we must let the children learn to run away decisively.
As the saying goes, thirty-six strategies, running is the best! If we can't beat the opponent, we can run away! It is also very important for children to learn to escape. We usually strengthen the speed training of children in to give children more advantages in speed.
Children are still young and may not be able to hear too many big principles. Instead of telling them too many big principles, it is better to tell them stories. By telling stories, children can understand more easily.
Therefore, I bought a set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" for my children. I explain this story book about bullying to my children every day.
Let your son understand that being bullied at school is not only being beaten and scolded, but also being verbally ridiculed, pushed, discriminated against, and unfairly accused. Let children understand through stories how we should respond and deal with these bullying situations?
"Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" This set of books is suitable for babies between 3 and 6 years old, that is, children who just go to kindergarten. It is recommended to read them all.
If you want your children to better avoid bullying and being bullied, you should first let your children develop anti-bullying awareness, so that they can better consciously avoid and prevent being bullied.
After I have gone through some of the above education for my children. Children also become braver when faced with the problem of being beaten and scolded. I believe that next time my little Shitou faces being beaten and scolded by his classmates, he will be more confident and will no longer stand still and let the other person beat him.
To be honest,
If you want your children not to be bullied, it is very important to educate them from an early age.
Conflicts between children are inevitable. When children are still young, conflicts between children are trivial. As parents, it is best not to get involved too early. Sometimes, it is a little slower and Not a bad thing.
This will give the child more opportunities to deal with problems independently, and will also give the child more courage to resist when faced with being beaten and scolded. It also allows us, as parents, to better understand whether our children are able to handle these problems, and thus decide whether we need to strengthen our children's education in these aspects.
hopes that all children can grow up healthy and happy, and will not experience the same thing as my children. #张女nurturing# #0-6 years old parenting experience# #Meet a more beautiful childhood#
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