Hello everyone, I am Nuan Dad~ It is said that raising children will protect you from old age. Whether you are raising a son or a daughter, when you get old, you all hope that your children will be filial to you, and you and your wife will be able to enjoy your old age and enjoy

Hello everyone, I am Nuan Dad~

It is said that raising children will prevent old age. Whether it is raising a son or a daughter, when people get old, they hope that their children will be filial to them, and they hope that they and their wives can enjoy their old age and enjoy family happiness. .

In the process of raising children, many parents devote all their care and love to their children, and will do their best to cultivate and treat their children well.

As for families with multiple children, such as families with two or three children, parents will try their best to keep everything even-keeled, not wanting their children to feel that they are partial to any one of them.

However, in real life, parents will unknowingly favor a certain child. Maybe it is because a certain child is more well-behaved and considerate, or some families favor their sons.

However, the child whose parents have always been partial to, the child whose parents also expect to be filial to them when they grow old, will really be the most filial child when their parents grow old?

1. When parents grow old, will the most partial child be the most grateful and filial to them?

Aunt Jin, the neighbor, has three children, the eldest son, the second daughter, and the youngest is also a son. The old couple dotes on the youngest son very much, but they are least interested in the daughter who is the second oldest. They eat all kinds of delicious food. Keep close to the eldest son and the youngest son.

Therefore, the younger son also developed a domineering character and had poor academic performance. After his elder brother and sister were admitted to college, they bought a house and settled down in the city where they worked. The youngest son, because he did not go to college, learned to be a chef. Work as a chef in a restaurant.

I still remember that when Aunt Jin’s youngest son was looking for a partner, Aunt Jin and his wife were worried. Aunt Jin urged her eldest son and daughter to contribute money to help their younger brother. The eldest son wanted to help, but the eldest daughter-in-law did not agree.

In the end, the second oldest sister contributed a lot of money to support her parents, and then she got her younger son engaged and married, and she finally settled down.

After getting married, Aunt Jin lived with her younger son and daughter-in-law. Ever since Aunt Jin’s younger son got married, Aunt Jin and her husband had never had a peaceful life. The younger daughter-in-law made a lot of noise every day, and her son was lazy and too lazy to do any job.

However, Aunt Jin feels that her younger son’s family earns less money, so the pension is not provided to her family. In Aunt Jin’s words, as long as her younger son is around, she will still count on her younger son and daughter-in-law to provide for them in the future.

Unexpectedly, after Aunt Jin fell ill and was bedridden, the younger son and daughter-in-law excused themselves with various reasons and did not contribute money or effort. Aunt Jin had a disagreement with her daughter-in-law when she was taking care of the children at her eldest son's house, and the eldest son also did not agree with her. So active and filial to the elderly.

In the end, it was the second daughter who was the most attentive. Not only did she take time off to come to the hospital to take care of the elderly, she even spent half of the money for the elderly’s medical treatment.

Aunt Jin was discharged from the hospital. She always sighed with emotion when meeting people. She never expected that her daughter, whom she loved the least before, would be the most filial child to her when she got old and sick. However, her youngest son, whom she loved the most before, had no love for her. A little gratitude.

Since the old man fell ill and was discharged from the hospital, his health was not good and he could not help take care of the children at his younger son's house. He was picked up by his daughter and lived in her daughter's home. Aunt Jin's wife was also not in good health. Both old people lived in her daughter's home. Fortunately, her daughter The economic conditions of the family are very good.

2. Only in old age do you understand that the most reliable filial child is this one. Parents, don’t love the wrong person.

In old age, if you find that the child you once loved the most is not a filial child, you may even have nothing to rely on in your old age. , one can imagine the sad mood.

In fact, whether a child is filial or not, and which child is the most filial, can be seen from the child's birth order and childhood personality.

① Second-child families are also relatively common.

I found that there is a common phenomenon in some second-child families around me, that is, the second child is particularly smart, sweet-tongued, and has a bright eye, while the eldest child is more big-hearted and has not as high an emotional intelligence as the second child. He said that he doesn’t have the eyesight of Erbao when doing things.

In addition, Erbao is the youngest in the family, so he has received special attention from the whole family since he was born, and Dabao also likes to tease his younger brothers and sisters out of curiosity.

But as the second baby learns to walk, talk, and pleases his family with his sweet talk, the eldest baby will feel neglected and will find ways to seek the attention of his parents, so he will take the initiative to take care of his younger siblings and improve his mental health. It will also mature quickly.

In addition, the boss will change his normal behavior and become responsible. He will take the initiative to help parents share housework, find ways to attract parents, and get their attention and praise.

After growing up with such a psychological trajectory, Dabao will become more and more responsible and responsible, and as they grow older, they will feel that it is also their responsibility to take care of their younger siblings.

Therefore, if it is a two-child family, when the parents grow old, the most filial child will often be the eldest child, and the second child will get used to being cared for and favored because of being pampered.

② In families with many children

there is a saying that the eldest child loves, the eldest child loves, and the middle one kicks him. From this saying, we can find that from the time of birth, the eldest child, as the first child in the family, will get All the love from parents and family.

As the youngest child in the family, because of the baby’s natural cuteness, he will naturally be loved by the whole family, and it is easy for him to develop a more independent personality.

And the child in the middle, because there are older brothers and sisters above and younger brothers and sisters below, they did not enjoy enough parental care when they were born. The younger siblings were born, and the parental care was transferred to the younger siblings, and they You will feel helpless.

It is precisely because of this objective reason that the child in the middle can only win a place in the family by himself and attract the attention of his parents through his actions and words.

Therefore, they will become extra diligent, have eyes and become more and more talkative. They will please their parents, brothers and sisters at the top, and help their parents take care of their younger siblings at the bottom.

They will try their best to appear sensible, obedient, and diligent in front of their parents, so that they can occasionally get praise from their parents.

Even so, many children in the middle are still easily ignored by their parents. They watch helplessly as their older siblings enjoy their parents' care, while they themselves are ignored.

However, when the children grow up, the middle children have developed the habit of obeying their parents, being filial to their parents, and looking at their parents' faces. When their parents get old, they will continue this habit and continue to treat their parents. Filial piety.

Therefore, in a family with many children, the child in the middle is often the most filial child.

3. Suggestions for parents

As parents, we all hope to treat our children equally, but in real life, if it is a family with two or three children, parents will always prefer one of them without knowing it. .

But what parents need to understand is that the child they prefer may not necessarily be the most filial and grateful to them when they grow old. It may be the child who is often ignored by you who will be particularly filial to their parents.

In addition, parental favoritism will bring a lot of psychological problems to the neglected child, making them insecure and without a sense of existence. Therefore, parents should try to be fair, because childhood family memories will have a lifelong impact on the child. Influence.

In your family, who is the most filial to their parents?

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