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1. A book with two legs
I keep seeing some people getting better and better in their lives.
They are not the smartest, or even the most diligent, but they are "learning machines".
They sleep a little bit smarter every night than that morning.
If civilization can only progress by relying on an advanced method, it must be the method of "learning to learn".
There is no smart person I have met in my life who read every day—no, not one.
Buffett How many books I read, I may surprise you.
My children laugh at me, They think I am a book with two legs.
—— Charlie Munger
2. Filter others,Change yourself
Screen others and change yourself. Many people are completely upside-down.
Never make changes to yourself; to others around you, always complain about "how do you do this".
This is the starting point and the source of pain.
Many relationships are wrong because they were wrong at the beginning.
Looking for a lover, what you want is a positive and enterprising person, and the other person is a desireless person.
After being together, you desperately fought each other, and quarreled every day for this.
is not worth it.
It's better to start aggressively.
When you make friends, the other person is always open to money, and you always complain about the other person's "love money too much, three views are not right".
This is not a friend's problem, this is your problem.
If you want your friends to love money and have no desires, it is better to find someone who has no worries about food and clothing since childhood and does not eat fireworks.
With colleagues, you always feel that in the entire company, you are the only one who is desperate and Saburo, and other colleagues are fishing and paddling, and have no fighting spirit.
Maybe they are looking for stability, comfort, and a balance between life and work.This is not the fault of colleagues.
You might as well go directly to a company that is striving for it, and it's all positive.
Friends, lovers, colleagues, all relationships that are not innate, are like this.
Filter out the ones you like at the very beginning, instead of choosing one that you don't like, and think about changing them to the ones you like later.
It is difficult to change others, and it is not easy to change yourself.
People are always envious when they see people who live a positive life. But all positive needs to confront humanity.
People are always envious when they see that they have no worries about food and clothing, but has no worries about food and clothing. Either someone will carry the weight for you, or it is the hardship behind it.
Everything is good, and the price is marked.
3. It is impossible for others to give you a definite conclusion
When many people seek advice from others, they want to seek a definite conclusion: , just tell me what to do All right.
But there are two conclusions: premise : information environment, _strong4span _strong4span decision model.
In most cases, the information environment is private to you and only you know it. This means that others cannot give you a definite conclusion when the information environment is missing.
4. Everything that is predictable is a fake fate
Some people are frustrated with childhood experiences or their original family.
Actually childhood is not destiny.
Because everything that is predictable is fake.
What is true fate? When you cover the coffin, look back at your life and your curves. This is your fate.
fate does exist, but it is unpredictable.
No matter what you have experienced before, no matter what your childhood or native family is, you can completely change your life and change your trajectory by changing the way of thinking.
The way of thinking is destiny.
5. What kind of mother the child needs
(1) The mother the child needs is a living person.
The child needs to be able to feel the warmth of her mother's skin and breath, be able to taste her, and see her. This is extremely important.
The child should have full access to the mother's vibrant body.
Without the lively presence and presence of a mother, no professional parenting methods will come in handy.
This is the same as being a doctor. The most important thing for a general practitioner in a village is that he is alive and functional, and he can be found in the village.
Mother’s vitality and physical care provide an indispensable psychological and emotional environment for the baby’s early emotional development.
(2) The child needs his mother to introduce him to the world bit by bit.
Through the mother’s various techniques and techniques, the child is initially exposed to the external reality and the surrounding world.
With the help of the mother, the child develops a belief that the world can accommodate and satisfy what they want and need.
Then the result is that the child is full of hope for a vivid relationship.
And this relationship connects the child's inner real world and the outer real world, as well as the child's original creativity and the great world shared by all human beings.
(3) What the child needs is the "person" of the mother, not an excellent parenting worker.
With the help of mothers, children can gradually accept:
Although the world can provide what he needs and wants,And the things created for this, but this thing does not happen automatically, nor can it be realized at any time due to mood or desire.
In other words, mothers have to take their children through the process of disillusionment, which is a kind of weaning in a broad sense.
A child’s emotional development can only be based on a good relationship with one person at first. Ideally, this person should be the biological mother.
Who can empathize with the child's needs and provide satisfaction like a biological mother?
-"Mother's Mind Lesson"
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