In the eyes of many parents, their children's aversion to learning is related to learning. Not going to school is mainly because they cannot learn and become bored with learning, so they have such behavior. This statement is not wrong. It partially explains the reason why children do not go to school, but just because they cannot learn, they become disgusted with learning, which actually has cognitive bias.
In reality, if you have been exposed to children's psychological work, you will find that their aversion to learning is not just at the learning level, but many situations will cause them to hate going to school.
For example, conflicts with classmates in the class will cause quarrels due to a small matter, which will cause serious consequences. Later, he was isolated by his classmates and was bullied every time he went to school. In the mild case, he was verbally insulted, and in the severe case, he would have physical conflicts and often treated in unfair circumstances. Affected by this, the child will be afraid to go to school and will not be willing to go to school even if he is asked to go to school.
There are also more complicated situations, such as "school phobia". One time I was hit by a car on the way to school and was injured and stayed in the hospital. Later, on the way to school, I would have physical symptoms such as nausea and vomiting, accompanied by psychological and physical discomfort. Once you pass by the road to school, you dare not move forward and will immediately run home to hide.
In short, the ways of learning are strange and bizarre, and you will encounter any situation.
is a common problem, but it is still a parent's problem. Due to parents' incorrect educational philosophy, various practices such as control, suppression, and accusation are adopted in disciplining children, which makes children resist learning, which in turn causes them to become disgusted with learning and depression.
Why don’t you study hard? ! Look at your deskmate Xiao Wang, who scored 100 points in the exam, and you only scored 60 points, and others could do well. Why can't you?
Why are you so stupid? ! How could I have a child like you? I can’t even get a good exam. I’m wasting my money for studying!
Such words have been said in many parents that they will say such harsh words when they are furious. Although we can understand the mentality of parents who are sorry for their own failure, it will still cause great psychological trauma to the children after more times.
Some children will be depressed and recognize their parents' remarks, and will feel that they are incompetent and have no future. I always can't learn. I am really stupid. I am in this state, and no one will like me. Even if they don’t have much problems themselves, they will have this kind of emotion if they are just occasionally frustrated in their studies.
The broken jar is thrown away. Since you can’t learn it, just stop learning it and lie down. Not going to school, playing games at home or being addicted to the Internet is a more prominent phenomenon among some children.
According to the concept of behavioral psychology , children's learning mood is not high, which is largely due to lack of encouragement and positive feedback. There is no success for a long time and a lack of positive positive experiences, which makes them unable to feel the joy of learning. If it is still hit, it will aggravate the psychological motivation of not wanting to go to school.
is like people learning to cook. At first, I was interested and wanted to make a delicious meal and make a delicious meal like a chef. But after trying to do it myself, I found that there were many difficulties and it was a failure. After repeated failures, you will lose confidence in cooking and thus lose the motivation to try.
The same is true for learning. In essence, the child lacks the successful experience of encouragement and learning, and cannot feel happiness. After a long time, he will not be able to develop a strong interest in learning. The reason for the process of
is not difficult to understand, but it is extremely hard to implement in reality. Not only does the child need to work hard and diligently, but parents also need to have advanced educational concepts, understand how to face the child’s problems after they have problems and how to adjust his motivation to learn.
Some parents are better and will use the "reward" method to encourage you. If you do well in the exam, I will buy you a switch game console to motivate your children's growth. Some will also give pocket money. If you do housework and study hard, it will be effective. I will give you pocket money of 50 or 100 yuan, and you can buy what you want.
No matter what method, you can try to adjust your child's enthusiasm to maximize your learning mood.
In my opinion, the most important thing here is the process of cultivating learning ability and habits. The "positive reinforcement" model of rewards certainly allows children to learn for a while, but they will still be disgusted with learning over time. They only learn for material rewards and do not accept the learning process from the bottom of their hearts. If parents can guide their children to learn actively, they will also help their children grow better.
For example, parents play games with their children and play "The Three Kingdoms". During the game, they explain the history of the Three Kingdoms to their children. Gradually, they are interested in this, and they will read books and search materials to understand the contents. Some of them will "teach by words and deeds". When their children are unwilling to learn, parents will read books next to them, put down their mobile phones, and accompany their children to do homework, and complete the tasks assigned by the teacher.
are all very good, and are much more useful than encouragement. Through your own company, let children feel the fun of learning. When a child is interested, his or her feelings of aversion to learning can be improved, and at the same time, he or she can help him or her interpersonal relationships around him and his or her learning efficiency can be improved.
