Children are always procrastinating in doing homework because of two reasons: invisible pressure + bad emotions. I talked about this in detail in the previous article. So how to make children happy to do homework? To solve these two reasons, these three methods can be used.
Method 1: Quick start method
The child likes to dawdle because his brain feels a lot of homework, difficult, and difficult for him to start, then the 20-second start method can be used to make the child happy Get started.
Psychologist Sean Aiker proposed a 20-second rule. If something requires more than 20 seconds to start energy, it will be difficult to start. If you tell your children, go and recite this text. The child will feel so difficult, the activation energy is greater than 20 seconds, then it will be difficult to activate. If you tell your child that you should read this poem again, the child may get started right away.
The same is true for us adults. At home on weekends, if you think about cleaning and washing clothes, you may not do anything. It is most comfortable to sit on the sofa and watch TV. But if you just want to clean up the table, you might do it right away. As long as you start to do it, it's easy to do it, and the rest will be done by yourself bit by bit. This is like starting a car. At the beginning, it requires a lot of energy. After the car has started, it is relatively simple to run.
So we need to find a simple thing for the child first, let the child start up first. That is, before he does his homework every day, he arranges the first task as a relatively easy task, which is also a small task he likes, so that his brain gets excited quickly by doing this thing.
The homework needs to be changed from large to small, and a large learning task is converted into a small task.
If the child is having fun, running around at home, or is focusing on playing games, if the parent asks him to do his homework quickly, it will be more difficult at this time. Then you need to add a quiet environment to let He calmed down and sat there quietly, and then started to do his homework, such as letting him sharpen a pencil.
Method 2: Pull the list to establish the order of operations
If there are too many and too complicated operations,At this time, the child’s invisible pressure is the greatest, and he needs to sort his homework into categories and tackle them one by one. For example, if there are 5 homework, if you don’t pull the list, the child’s brain must remember 5 things at the same time, which is very brain-intensive. energy. But if you make a list and write it on paper, your brain will be emptied. Don’t memorize these things specifically. When doing your homework, you can use all your brain resources for your immediate homework. This kind of efficiency is naturally high, and it is not tired.
Of course, you need to let your children decide how to arrange the order. Some children like to make it easy first, and others like to make easy first and then difficult.
The child makes a list by himself, which will make the child feel more in control when doing his homework .
Method 3: Remember to tick
Every time you complete an assignment, you must remember to tick the paper. This action is important because every time we complete something, the brain will secrete A substance called Endorphin, It will let us experience a sense of pleasure and accomplishment. Checking this action is a reward for ourselves. Once the brain feels rewarded, it will be more willing to do the following things. This is also the brain has an internal reward mechanism and can experience the happiness of completing tasks.
If the child is at ease and happy to do homework, parents should give some verbal encouragement and praise. At the same time, the expressions and actions of the parents should express their affirmation and appreciation for the child. Children can feel the energy delivered by their parents, and they will become more and more confident in learning.
But parents must not say something like this: When children are studying, some parents like to tell their children that you can play games as soon as you finish writing, and you can watch TV when you finish writing. Saying this is actually defining homework as a nuisance. Parents label the homework directly. If parents often say similar things,It is only natural that children hate homework.
Through these three methods, children can bid farewell to procrastination, and parents are worth a try.
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