According to a survey by psychologists, half of the children have their own imitative objects, and 78% of them regard their parents as idols. Parents are heroes in the minds of children, and children follow their parents as an example, so parents should pay attention to their words and deeds.
Family education is an art and a science, both profound and simple. The core key is to ask parents to use words and deeds to educate carefully. In the family environment, the children are fascinated by the words and deeds of the parents, and they try to imitate them. In order to get good results in family education, it is necessary to "prescribe" and "teaching by example". That is to say, parents must practice by themselves in the process of educating their children, and they must do what they ask their children to do. Parents are the children's first teachers, and children are the shadow of their parents. Parents educate their children. For children, the important thing is not how much the parents say, but how the parents do. As long as parents take the lead in setting an example, the effect of its charisma and power is self-evident.
Young children lack the ability to distinguish right from wrong. They always imitate their parents' behavior unconsciously. Parents are role models for children, and their words and deeds, whether good or bad, will be unconsciously imitated by their children. Good behaviors are imitated, of course it is good, but bad behaviors are imitated, and it is difficult to change. If the parents are disciplined at this time, the child will say, if the parents do this, why can't he do it?
Mr. Li is used to before working every day,First go to the town tavern for a drink. Although he knew that this was a bad habit, his wife had been persuading him to give up, but he thought, anyway, it was just a bad habit of his own, and it would not affect others.
One day, there was heavy snowfall. Mr. Li put on a cotton jacket, put on gloves, kissed his wife goodbye, and walked towards the tavern whistling as usual. He didn't go far before he felt that someone was behind. Looking back, it turned out to be his young son.
The son stepped on his father’s footprints on the snow, and while running, he shouted excitedly: "Dad, look, I’m stepping on your footprints!" After a meal, he thought: "If I go to the tavern and my son will follow my footsteps, he will go to the tavern in the future."
The family is the child’s first classroom, and the parents are the child’s first teacher. Parents are the initial imitation objects of children entering society. Children learn certain habits and attitudes from their parents, which have a great impact on their lifelong development.
The quality and personality of parents have a subtle effect on children.Will affect the child's future growth. If the parent's example is deviated, the child's thinking and behavior will be deviated. In the future life, he will relax his self-discipline and do things that are detrimental to social morality, which will also make him lose opportunities for the development of social personality.
Every word and deed of parents' daily life affects their children.
Many people still remember how their parents reached out to people outside the family. A mother said: "What lingers in my mind is the atmosphere of sincere care for others outside the family. My father was still a volunteer firefighter and rescue worker when he was 60 years old. My mother was I have been doing various voluntary work and often helping other people in the community. Even when I am not rich, my parents are still very generous to others. Because of the kindness of my parents, many people often praise them in front of my sister and me."
A man talked about his father like this: "I remember my dad had to do his own job for a long time five days a week before the union protection system was established, and he had another job on Saturday. , It will take a long time. I still remember that I wake up every day before dawn, and I can hear my father get up and go to work quietly. At this time, other people in the family are still sleeping. I don’t remember that he was sick, please Take a day off. The only day he does not work is Sunday. He always does things with us to kill the day, such as visiting relatives, riding bicycles with us, etc. His family is his life. His I am deeply impressed by his work belief and his dedication to the family, and it still affects me."
We are very friendly and kind to us when we are strong 18strong span 19span Other people,Our children will learn our goodness; when we are narrow-minded and selfish, our children will also learn these things. If we lie in order to push down a date that we don’t want to participate in, or if we don’t want to listen to the phone and ask our children to tell others that we are not at home, we will sow the seeds of lying in our children’s hearts, and children who have been cheated will go. Deceiving. If children see their parents stealing tools from the factory or stealing towels from the hotel, they will think that the theft is not wrong. The smiling faces of parents cannot be seen at home, and children who are not cared for will find it difficult to be cheerful and friendly in the future.
In family education, parents often tell their children that they should do this, and they should not do that to regulate their children's words and deeds. But these empty preaching have little effect. In some aspects of education, preaching has little effect. For example, when getting up in the morning, parents should consciously ask the elders in the family, ask the neighbors, and go home from get off work, take the initiative to say hello, knock on the door softly when taking their children out as a guest, talk elegantly and be civilized when they are guests, and when the host entertains Want to say thank you! Say thank you when you leave! There are guests at home. Let the children come to the door to greet and guide the children to take out their best food to entertain the guests. When the guests bring gifts to the children, let the children express their gratitude! When guests return home, they should send their children to the door and say: "Welcome again next time" and "Goodbye"... Your words and deeds, every move, your children will see in their eyes, and imitate and follow your example. In daily life, be cautious in words and deeds, and teach by example. Whatever you ask your child to do, you must do it first.
Once parents have promised their children, they must fulfill their promises. Don’t make promises lightly. If parents simply promise their children something and forget it for various reasons, it will not only be a big blow to the child's emotions, but to a certain extent, it will also bring harm to the child's heart. If the parents often talk,It will reduce the credibility in the child's mind, and the child's trust, admiration and love for their parents will diminish due to the number of times you break trust. Too many times, parents will be completely disregarded by their children. What else can they talk about about educating children? Furthermore, if it doesn't count as a parent who speaks often, the child will subconsciously follow suit. Being irresponsible for what he says will become a bad habit of him. If you often have the "fault" of saying that you can't do it, please apologize in front of your child, give him a reasonable explanation, and win the child's forgiveness. Of course, the fewer such apologies, the better.
Parents are the children's lifelong teachers. If you are a wise parent, you should set an example and give your children a good example in all aspects.
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