Is your baby the second generation? According to the specific situation of the only second-generation baby, mothers should pay special attention when educating the baby. Today we will talk about the only second-generation baby in our family.
If you and your lover are the only child, and you have only one child, then your baby is what we call the "only second generation" today. The only second-generation baby has some common characteristics that are different from other eras. Today we will talk about the precautions for taking care of the only second-generation baby.
Feature 1: 4-2-1 family model
The family model of an only second-generation baby is generally four elderly people (grandparents), two parents, and one baby.
From the perspective of growth, the family relationship of the "second generation only" is more simple. They don't know what "uncle" and "auntie" are, and they don't know "cousin" or "cousin". At home, there is no opportunity to gain experience in getting along with peers and dealing with adults, nor to learn from brothers and sisters, even when adolescent rebellion is most needed.
Countermeasure: Let the baby enter the social circle early. Don't keep your children at home, invite children from the community and neighbors to be guests, and encourage children to make friends with children in the kindergarten. Usually, in TV and comics, you can see that the child has contradictory plots, and you can also discuss with the baby what you would do.
Feature 2: Are you ready to parent your only child?
Yue Yue is the mother of a half-year-old baby. When she gave birth to a daughter six months ago, she took her parents to Beijing to help her take care of the children. She often thinks that she and her daughter are her mother's two children. Basically, her mother is responsible for all the work of taking care of the baby, but she still has to go out on dates and dance frequently. When she comes home, she will play in front of her mother for a while, and then tease the child. When she feels bored, she does her own thing. Yue Yue felt that the relationship between himself and the child was not as good as the relationship between his mother and the child, so he felt sour. At the same time, she felt that her child was a burden and didn't know what to do.
Countermeasure: Whether you are an only child or not, since you are a parent, you must assume the responsibilities of your parents and make the sacrifices your parents deserve. If the mother feels that she is not ready, she can accompany the baby more and communicate with the baby with the help of grandma. , And she will naturally have more sense of responsibility and patience.
Feature 3: Social pressure is increasing
The one-year-old baby actually enrolled in three training courses,"High-priced early education", which costs nearly 10,000 yuan a year, is sought after by young parents. Some babies with diapers also shuttled between the stalls, and extracurricular education is also developing at a younger age. These imaginations are not uncommon. Indeed, today's social competition is becoming more and more fierce, and parents will have higher expectations for their only second-generation baby. In addition, today's society is an era of knowledge explosion, and parents will inevitably have a mentality of extermination.
Countermeasures: Let the baby develop freely, don't pull out seedlings to encourage growth. Don't pin your dreams on your children.
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